I was invited to my boyfriends work christmas dinner, on the way there (due to a misunderstanding about what time we were to leave) he didnt speak to me the whole journey (2 hour train ride). Once there we were seated together at a table with his work colleagues, a joke was made by one of his colleagues ( a bit of ribbing ) towards my boyfriend, and we all laughed. My boyfriend stood up from the table and announced he was not sitting there and promptly moved to another table for the duration of the night. I was embarrassed and felt out of place. Afterwards I told him this and dismissed it by laughing it off. I had to ask for an apology.
2007-01-07 02:41:36 · 26 answers · asked by julia goodwin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A colleague called him a ' ponce' !! because of his perfectionism at work, he's a financial advisor.
2007-01-07 02:54:03 · update #1
its been my experience that men who overreact have poor coping strategies to deal with stress. refusing to speak to your significant other is emotionally abusive and very unhealthy. it shows complete lack of respect for someone. Then, to embarrass you in front of his coworkers is another sign of this type of pattern. Lastly, he thought it was funny and trivialized you being upset. People who display these behaviors are being manipulative and controlling. It takes effort to not speak to someone for that long- thats not a mistake, thats a choice. I would suggest leaving before things escalate- there is the potential for things to become worse or violent with men like this.
2007-01-07 02:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by teacher 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a little bit of both honestly. If you there was a small misunderstanding and he ignored you for two straight hours, theres definately a problem. However, the whole joke thing might have just been said at the wrong place and at the wrong time. Try to work things out, get him to understand you love him and that you were only playing around. If he still acts all proud and egotistical, then its his bad and you need to try and set him straight. Best of luck!!! (^_^)
2007-01-07 02:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by Hexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strike 1, not speaking to you for 2 hours on the train.
Strike 2, leaving you alone at a table full of strangers.
Up to you if you want to give him the chance to make Strike 3, but if he does, you better run.
The first strike would have done it for me, but by that point you didn't have a choice but to stay for the dinner. If I had been you, when he left me at that table, I would have excused myself to go to the ladies room...and then headed to the train station to go home!
2007-01-07 03:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by singleagain062005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER EVER ask for an apology! If he isn't man enough to offer one when he sees how upset he has made you then he isn't worth the bother!! Unless you are desperate for a boyfriend, dump him and find someone else. Obviously has no sense of humour - or manners! It was okay by him to embarrass you but he couldn't take ribbing from work mates . . . not worth continuing the relationship as it will go from bad to worse . . take my word!
2007-01-07 02:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by DivaDuchess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He showed no regard to your feelings by leaving you sat a table with a bunch of people you didn't know. Very rude & ignorant behaviour on his part. I think you need to maybe evaluate your relationship and question how he treats you. Speak to him about it and if he shows no true remorse then find someone more respectful toward you and less over-sensitive.
2007-01-07 03:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At best, his actions would be a major over-reaction to a stressful situation. However, given his childish behavior, it is probably a nasty trait he uses to make you feel diminished and chip at your self-esteem. Unless you want to spend the rest of this relationship being embarrassed and apologizing for his rude behavior, this problem needs to be confronted ASAP.
2007-01-07 02:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by Amie T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He actually left you at the table? Though, you don't tell us what the joke was, but you do state that you laughed, how demeaning was it. Was he being overly sensitive or was it something that most of us would find offensive, and by your laughing did you make him feel even worse? I dunno, need more details about what was said. Though, getting up and sitting somewhere else is a little childish.
2007-01-07 02:49:37 · answer #7 · answered by jimstock60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit up and smell the roses before it's too late, your boyfriend hasn't even got the sense to hide the fact that he isn't very nice. take my advice run for the hills, if he is behaving like that and not apologising, and you let him get away with it then you'll be doing it all the time and chances are his behaviour will get worse.
2007-01-07 03:00:12 · answer #8 · answered by bty912324 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Terrible manners and rather immature, definitely no way to treat a lady. Chuck him, there are plenty more fish in the sea.( OK I know you don't want a blue fin, but you know what I mean!)
2007-01-07 02:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by Trixie Bordello 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he shouldnt have left you there at the table, especially at his work dinner... if at all, he should have taken your hand and led you away to another table if he just HAD to leave that table. This way, he embarassed not only you, but made himself look stooopid.
2007-01-07 02:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by MicD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋