is it right to blame your parent for bad things that happen to you?

Question

if bad things happen to you, you tend to blame someone, blame your parent is one of your choice, when you tired of blaming yourself every minute, hours, and day and what what i'm supposed to do when i feel nothing good in me can make me proud

Answer 1

first you must stop and think. Did my parents make me do this? Did my brothers/sister/cousin and so forth. if the answer is no then you shouldn't blame them.
Second off there is not a kid in this world who has not done something good and should not feel as if he/she is always a F***up because you're not .there has to be something good about you just look a Little deeper and if you still feel that way go out and do some good. Open the door for an old person,Ask you're parents if there's something you can do for them.If you're grandparents are alive and live by you go mow there lawn or take out there garbage. Little things like that will help you build you're self estem because you sure sound like you need it. Good luck grumpy kid.

Answer 2

By your question I take it YOU do blame YOUR parents for the bad things that happened or happen to you. I hate to tell you this but we can only blame them while we are children because we don't know any better. Sometimes it's not their fault it could be some other adult is at fault. I was sexually abused when I was 7. I don't blame my mother for any of it, I blame the adult who did it. But once we are older and can reason for ourselves we are the makers of our own consequences, we can choose. If we do good then we get a good consequence if we do bad then its a bad consequence. And to your question about why they don't provide $ so you wont have to work, I think is more about you being a dependent person on yourself. What happens if they provide you everything within their means and then they both die? You will be left with out being able to care for yourself. In this case I think you asking that question in a way is being selfish. After all your parents do for you, you should want to provide for them in their old age. Parents do the best they can at the moment needed. It could have been a bad choice but at that time it was the best they could do, then so be it. I always say " Never regret the past , you made the best choices you could at the time you made them."

Answer 3

No matter how bad things are, you should be grateful for what you have. Some people don't even have a family or a set of parents to begin with. They live life as an orphans and would trade anything they have just to get the love and care of a mom or dad.

Life can be frustrating and it's tough. But no way should you blame your parents for what you are going through. Remember that whether they are good or bad, they are still your parents and without them you won't be around.

Try to take a breather from all that's happening in your life and think what's best to get over it. Sometimes, things happen beyond your control and you shouldn't be too hard on yourself. Say to yourself that this too shall pass and that things will get better.

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Answer 4

Life is tough for all of us. Try and look back and see what REALLY caused the problem. If you can't talk with mom or dad then maybe you can go to a counselor. I'm assuming you're still in school. If not then get professional advice. Work places might have free counseling you can go to. Try not to blame anybody. Not even yourself. Try more to find out why you are feeling this way and what you can do to make it better and what you can do to avoid it from happening again. Maybe a good friend can help. If you can talk with your folks then sit down and tell them your unhappy. Maybe you don't communicate enough with them. Nobody knows you are ailing unless you let it be known. Talk about it with somebody. It will make you feel much better. And you will also feel as though someone is helping you to find an answer. Then you won't feel so alone.

Answer 5

Blaming your parents only works but for so long before you have to step back and take a look at yourself. If there are things about your life that you don't like right now start changing them. I don't know you personally, but look deep within yourself and i'm sure you can find something to be proud of.

Answer 6

Part of growing up is learning to accept responsibility for your choices and your actions. The bottom line is that all of us make our own decisions and we shouldn't blame anyone else but ourselves. Instead of letting it get you down, you should be proud of accepting the responsibility and then do something to change things for the better. We all learn life lessons from the mistakes we make. Take these lessons and make better choices in the future. It's up to you to make your life better.

Answer 7

It's your life you cant go blaming things on other people all the time.

Answer 8

I blame my parents all the time...

Answer 9

it sounds like your standards are set to high for yourself I think you should take it easy and everything is not your parents fault