they want to die, and if not, destruct themselves
2007-01-07 02:35:14
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answered by Anonymous
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Do some soul-searching - spend some time on self-reflection - read up on a lot of self-help books, write in a journal to get to the real issue and then try to work on it.
As for losing weight, it takes dedication. You have to really want it. Start out small, maybe 2 or 3 times a week. You will never stick to a life change unless you are fully committed to it. Take baby steps - don't go full force at once because you will more than likely go back to old habits.
It's really all about training your particular way of thinking. Find things that make YOU happy, don't worry about how others look at you.
Try to read up on the issues you're struggling with - sometimes, just that in itself will give you comfort and motivation to change your thinking and behaviors.
You can do it -- you're not alone!!
2007-01-07 10:53:07
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answered by Chelsea 2
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I know, isn't the human mind strange. Some people just will not believe that they are lovable and liked by others, even if they are the loveliest person in the world. It's amazing! I was like that at one stage, not being modest, but I know I'm an attractive, well-liked, bubbly person, and yet behind closed doors I absolutely detested myself. It took me a few years to have the confidence to accept that I was a good person and deserved to be loved, but I did overcome it, and am now so happy within myself! It does take time, you just have to be able to see all the good qualities in yourself and believe in them, before you move on. But I'm living proof that it can and will happen. Best of luck, I really hope some day soon, you'll be able to see yourself for the great person that you are!
2007-01-07 14:06:39
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answered by Megafunk 6
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People engage in self-destructive behavior sometimes because they hate themselves, but they may also feel unloved/stifled/abandoned, want to punish themselves, or use their self-destruction to manipulate others. I know about these habits, because even though I don't engage in any other self-destructive behavior, I do cut myself, and that behavior follows the same underlying principle as overeating. My email is diepolitiker@yahoo.com, and if you have any more questions or want someone to talk to, you can email me. Self-destuctive behavior is often associated with past trauma, as well as mental illnesses like OCD, anxiety disorder, or Borderline Personality Disorder. Help is often needed with self-destructive habits like overeating; I suggest you find a therapist, and join Overeaters Anonymous if it is available in your area. You might also overeat to cover up feelings, or because you're bored, sad, or lonely instead of actually hungry. The trick is to recognise real hunger from the other feelings, not to eat unless you are actually hungry, and to stop when you are full. Also, serve yourself smaller portions and eat more slowly. It will help.
2007-01-07 14:30:05
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answered by diepolitiker 2
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I Know this is going to sound soooo obvious but you have to learn to love yourself, Everybody has a self distruct button just some of us have never had to use it yet.
2007-01-07 10:40:40
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answered by fiona M 2
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