Read my last post and then this one. Basically a friend who I fancy has just split with his long term girlfriend (they were together for 6 years). They went on a 3 month break and he wanted to get back with her but she didnt want to get back with him. he txt me yesterday to say they werent getting back together. Im not sorry about this and he would be aware of this as he knows i like him. He says he fancies me and likes me a lot and if he wasnt with his girlfriend then who knows what might happen. He isnt now but I didnt text him back as im not going to lie to him that im "sorry" they have split. He hasnt text me since and that was yesterday morning. I think the best thing i can do is just give him a bit of space? I have known him 2 years this april. We met on holiday and we hung out and have met 3 times since and had a one night thing. Apart from that we speak every day via email, msn, text or on the phone. what do u lot think?
2007-01-07 02:11:37 · 9 answers · asked by anais_24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I disagree with the 9th answer. If me and him hadnt hooked up back in July he wouldnt have questioned what he wanted and he would never have taken a break from his girlfriend and in turn they wouldnt have split up. If i had listened to other peoples advice then they would still be together. I just want peoples opinions as im not the type of person to take advice, if i want something i go out and get it, and i never give up. I know that sounds spoilt but its just my way of thinking
2007-01-07 02:41:56 · update #1
Make your questions a little shorter...I can't be bothered to read that.
2007-01-07 02:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by nick w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him space. You could have texted him back; you don't have to say 'I'm sorry', but rather, 'I hope things work out for the best'. Let him know you are interested, but that you think it's imperative for him to spend some time sorting all this out. You don't want to be in a rebound relationship. Forget about the one night stands in the future until there is an understanding established, unless you're just doing it for the sex and nothing else; no expectations.
2007-01-07 02:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by bfwh218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His heart is taken by another. You must go in another direction. If he had meant to be yours, you would have now been together. His feelings of love belong to her not you. If you get caught up in this , you will only be hurt emotionally.
You had a one night stand that should never have happened.. leave it at that. it was a mistake and you know it. Sex is not love.
He is being kind to you because he truly likes you as a friend.
this friendship is not healthy for you and you will constantly be asking yourself what-ifs???
I think you are dreaming and your head is in the clouds. You need to get real and get on with your life. You are standing still in life right now and marking time. You have a whole future ahead of you.
This man is taken. Step away and find one of our own....
His attraction to you could only be sexual and nothing else.
Be truthful with yourself and quit torturing your soul and emotions.
You should stop talking to him everyday , texing, etc it is only prolonging it, which is obvious to someone who is standing outside this circle looking in at you.
It is never going to happen. Let go....
2007-01-07 02:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give him space. After all, 6 years is a very long time. And if he still loves her, that gives it all the reason to let him be. If you really really like him, you can wait a little longer right? Just continue being yourself and don't let him out of your sight! ;D
2007-01-07 02:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by Yuki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him time, and remember he did want his x back , keep that in the back of your mind , cause he must have really loved her , do not be the rebound .
2007-01-07 02:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by christina3661@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are thinking too much - just go and do something. And if you really think that you should give him some space then just do it
2007-01-07 02:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by ginga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to him.
Be truthful about what your thinking and feeling
2007-01-07 02:15:37 · answer #7 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send a general email "how's life treating you..."
2007-01-07 02:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it develop slowly....
2007-01-07 02:39:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋