Is it hypocritical for women to want equality and demand chivalry at the same time?

Answer 1

Yes, and excellent point.

Answer 2

This question is fundamentally flawed. There are so many aspects here that are missing, for instance, not all women want the same thing. Some women might not agree that women should be treated equally while some might not care about 'chivalry'. Generalizing like this is a waste of time because no answer anyone gives could possibly fit all possible situations. The only possible way to answer this is to look at a case by case basis. But hypocritical implies that you can't have one and the other. This is not true. Equality is about judging someone on their merits, not their gender, race, sexual orientation ect, chivalry is about being polite to one another. For instance, do you not realize chivalry applies to other men as well as women? So if you are courteous to a man does that mean you are somehow treating them unequal? Certainly not and that possibility was not even considered.

Answer 3

Because the real truth is that women don't want and can't handle equality, they are actually threatened by it. "Ladies first" - the VAST majority of women want and agree with this. Sure they may scream for "equality", but that's just all talk since they never really practice what they preach. Women want it both ways - "equality" and traditional privileges. More men need to rise up and refuse to tolerate that kind of hypocrisy and entitlement mentality.

Answer 4

Well, it depends on what you mean by chivalry. If you mean asking you to fight for her, especially jousting (snicker), or expecting you to have a long term platonic relationship with her, or having to wear her 'token' at all major outdoors sports, it would indeed be hypocritical. But if you mean performing minor courtesies like opening doors for her, giving her compliments on how she looks, offering to pay for some form of entertainment occasionally,
no - because it can't be demanded of anyone. It can only be admired when it's offered. Women do not yet have equality in the working place and while there's some controversy about whether they're actually getting more attention in schools than males, society in general still values males more than females. But women do admire and favor men who appreciate them and treat them well. I think that's not too unusual.

Answer 5

I agree. I find chivalry patronizing and completely disrespectful. As if a woman can't afford a meal or take off her own damn coat. And contrary to what Ann Coulter may say, opening a door is not a "tiresome exertion." I'm as egalitarian as they come, so any guy who tried to do that would do so at my peril.

Answer 6

"Chivalry" in the strictest sense? Yes. General politeness? No. If a woman (or girl) "expects" you to always pay, hold the umbrella, pull out her chair, or "kick some guy's as$" for "insulting" you, but treat her as your "equal" in every other way, that's a little contradictory. But being polite is different...I hold the door for everyone, let men and women merge into traffic, hold the umbrella, step aside for others (men and women) to pass, (in a crowded space)...etc. General consideration is something veryone should practice. However, if a guy does do those "chivalrous" things, (of their own accord) women should not feel "insulted" and berate the man for it, but take it in the spirit it was intended, and try to respond in kind.

Answer 7

Men and women are equal as far as mentality. But I have a big problem with women in the labor force. Women want to earn the same pay as firefighters, boilermakers, carpenters, etc., but expect the other men to do the heavy lifting for them.

Answer 8

No! Equality is a RIGHT. Women have the right to be treated equally with men. Chivalry is when a guy is being gentle, its his choice. Plus it's almost dead anyway. So my answer is no, it's not hypocritical as they are both two different things.

Answer 9

Yes

Answer 10

It is not truely Hypocritical, as a Gentleman you should be chivarous to the Ladies. Equality is not to be looked at in such a narrow focus, think about the things you expect from a Lady and ask yourself is this a typical or expected role for a female. TO truely find out if she is about equality or just slef serving here is an excellent test. If the doors are locked on the car adn you unlock adn open hers what does she do.
A> If she unlocks yours you have found one that knows what equality is about.
B> If she just sits there and waits for you to get in the vehicle than she does not know about equality and is just a self serving ....

Answer 11

With or without equality, a woman is a woman and that cannot be changed, and chivalry from men is part of their wants.