i love my bf t is just he wants to have sex and i dont
i tried to do it but i couldnt and i told him i dunna why i cant
he always talks about it and pushes me to and i once felt like he is going to hit me but i started cryin so he stopped
and i keep cryng for hours cuz i dont want to lose him i love him so much
we r together since 1 year
and plz nobody tells me to leave him cuz i cant and i know he cant leave too
and i could see that
2007-01-07 00:06:35 · 16 answers · asked by aha i wanna know 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i havent been molested or anythng am just scared am almost 18
2007-01-07 00:11:27 · update #1
Well I can see how he may have gotten confused. What 17 yr old girl wouldn't want to give it up the first time to a guy that make her feel physically threatened, right?
So he pressures you sexually, scares you physically and doesn't respect your love for him... What are we talking about this for again?
Hang on to it hun. There's guys out there that appreciate a girl of your status. And are willing to make you feel cherished for waiting instead of belittleing you for not giving it up.
2007-01-07 00:09:41 · answer #1 · answered by your_name_here 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Bless your heart I know exactly how you feel , its called love and its hard. I don't think you should do anything you are not comfortable doing and a man that really loves you Shouldn't try to make you do anything you don't want to do. Have you tried sitting down and telling him EXACTLY how you feel and why you are scared maybe you can find some middle ground. Good luck I hope everything works out for you!
2007-01-07 00:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
****~! this is why i stay away from sleeping around too much! If you meet someone who is not great at reading your signals which are casual in nature then you end up hurting them!!! But yo can't become celibate either? Esp when the whole world wants to sleepover with everyone!!! You have to learn to read the signs girl...seriously. if the man never gets romantic within 3months then its really not worth it. And lemme tell you If this guy told you he loved you and all has been around you for a year.........Kik his testicles so hard they pop out!!!! Lying bas***ds deserve that!
2007-01-07 00:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been through the same thing and i understand what you are going through i was really upset about it too and i felt that if i said no to him he wud dump me or say i am too young for him i suggest that you talk to him about it and let him know what you feel for him and that you don't think he is good enough for you try to be strong and since you are sure he loves you he will be sure to come running i don't think its fair that boys get to dump and make us feel bad abt ourselves we should be the ones turning the tables we shud be the ones doing the dumping after i dumped him by saying he wasn't the one for me and stuff he can't stop calling me and trying to get me back you shud really try it think abt it if he didn't like you he wud never have even wanted to go out with you in the first place
2007-01-07 00:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by Chooker bud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T have sex because he (or anyone else) wants you to, my dear. If he loves you as much as you love him, he can wait. If not he is only using you.
You seem to be an early teen girl. DON'T yield. Don't you ever let a man, regardless of how much you love him, push you around as if you were a toy.
TO ALL YOUNG GIRLS: Never yield to a boyfriend's lustful desires. You have the right to say NO.
2007-01-07 00:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everybody is going to tell you to leave him. Because this guy has no respect for you feelings. It will be hard but you have to. If you are in fear of him hitting you, you need to get out of this relationship.
2007-01-07 00:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest, he is not respecting you. You love this guy so much, but you are not ready to have sex with him and he has to understand that, if he really loves you, he will be patient and wait until you are ready (or wait until you get married, but keep in mind that sex wont be the only reason to get married) Talk to him, communication is the key!
2007-01-07 00:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by Stella d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well he's a jerk, but i understand where you're at. I've been there sorta.... (couldnt leave part) NO guy should ever push you to haev sex.... not even question your answer... If he loved you truly he wouldn't even second guess it... Id ask him, what he thinks about you guys not having sex,and why he gets upset, you should also explain it's not his body, its yours.
2007-01-07 00:11:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to take some time, but one day you will open your eyes and make a run yourself, its not us, here but yourself that's going to have enough of that #### to make a new start with someone else. Good Luck. Open Your Eyes,
2007-01-07 00:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by meatball288001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not that you can't leave him, it's that you won't. Get some back bone and tell him what does he and a soccer ball have in common? They both get kicked to the curb!
2007-01-07 00:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋