ok so i live with my bf, and weve lived 2gether 4 a while now. he is very obsessed with me, he tells me things like he couldnt live without me or he would kill himself if i ever left him. these things scre me alot cuz he hits me and yells at me, we were going to have a baby but then i miscarried, so there is no child in this matter(thank god). the last time he hit me was last night and i cant leave the house cuz he doesnt want anybody to see my bruses. when i wear short sleeves i usually cover them with my hair(its past my knees) i cant cut my hair cuz of my culture(my mom and dad are native american). when he hits me and im on the floor he pulls me by my hair, he wont let me leave and makes me have sex with him.i cant get away. my friends dont know about him doing this to me and neither does my family. i cant talk on the phone without his supervision, and i'm treated like a baby my family let me move in with him cuz they trusted him, i want out what can i do?
2007-01-06 23:47:32 · 22 answers · asked by chahta oklah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my family doesnt know about me being pregnant or about the miscarrage.he scares me and i really really wanna get away but i'm afraid cuz he says things like if i cant have u nobody can and i am scared he will either hurt himself or me or both of us. please help me, before i moved in with him he was soo good to me and now he jsut scares the bajesus out of me and i wanna go really badly. he beat me yesterday with the broom, and my bow for my cello, he tells me he loves me, i think its allong the lines of being obsesed with me, his whole back is covered with this huge picture of me and he has my name tatooed on his neck
my family loves him,he's good to me infront of people. hes crazy he thinks that he's so good and that he's the best man alive. i have scares on my back from being beaten with an extention cord and he always says he's sorry but i need a way to get away with out him being able to get me.
2007-01-06 23:48:12 · update #1
i got emancipated from my parents, rut i still have a really good reationship with my whole family, i got the emancipation cuz they saw how much i LOVED (past tence)him and he's older than me, im 17 he's 23
thanks for your comments
the only money commin in is my benifits(money from the government, its their way of saying sorry for what they have done to my people, u only get benifits if u r a registered NDN) and i get money from my sashki and aki(mom and dad)
2007-01-06 23:49:46 · update #2
You need to go to the police and get help now! stop screwing around and run. go get help now.
2007-01-06 23:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by Biker 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worried about him hurting or killing himself when he beats you up and forces you to have sex with him ?
The only person you should be thinking of in this situation is you.
He might say that he loves you and can't live without you... but the way he treats you isn't how you treat someone you love !
What if you get pregnant again and bring a baby into this situation ? Will that propel you to leave or will you stay for the sake of the baby ?
Contact a women's shelter or a trusted family member and get the hell out of there ! Use the scars to prove the abuse if you have to, just get out of there !
2007-01-07 01:02:11 · answer #2 · answered by midnight_lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be so confused, angry n scared to death.. n being recently pregnant n suffered a miscarriage - even though it might be for the best considering the situation - it must be a devastating experience for you to go through.
You MUST get out of the situation!
Run to your family, stay with them n don't ever go back to him - don't even ever meet up with him again - no matter what. If he threaten to kill himself n try to make you feel guilty - Don't respond to it. It's his choice in whatever he does. The only thing for you to be responsible for is to keep yourself safe. Once you're safe, reported to the police - if they won't lock him up, file a restraining order.
If you can't even get out of the house or call the police.
Email friends that you can trust - tell them what's happening n how serious it is. Tell them to call the police n to contact your family to pick you up. But be sure to delete your emails from the "sent file" - in case he checks it.
If you can't do that, then tell a neighbor, anyone you can get in contact with.
You must tell someone that you trust.
Make sure to have some money, enough for taxis n phone calls, so if all the above fails, make a run for it. But be sure to have all the phone numbers you need. Or run to the nearest hospital - they will call the police.
My other advice is to collect evidence of the abuse, such as photos of the bruises, or diaries.
I hope you will be okay.
Let us know if you need further assistant.
2007-01-07 01:17:39 · answer #3 · answered by CHERRYBLOSSOM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
UR sweet.....yet no woman extremely like violence.....its a turn off....nicely, often. do not wrestle him cuz if u do, u'll be expelled and also you received't get to work out her. teach her that ur improved by way of resisting the temptation. Letting her flow on is sweet, ur keeping her lower back as we communicate and putting her contained in the middle. it isn't relaxing to be contained in the middle. U 2 are associates and do not let some different person come between that. Ask her what she needs.....if no answer, then tell her ur emotions in this entire ingredient and what u pick to do......believe me, she'll communicate after that if she's human.
2016-12-28 07:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from him as soon as you can. The very next time he is away from the home, you leave and go to your families house and call the police!!! Or, next time you are with your family, even if he is with you, you tell your family what is going on and show them the proof if you have to. He will probably not be able to hurt you with your family around and at that point they can call the police. You need to leave him. Trust me, guys like this are not capable of real love. He thinks he loves you. He does not. He is sick and needs help. You need help. Get it now before its too late. Also, if you can, there are womens shelters - find one - get there as soon as you can and in any way you can!!! Do not let him get to you with his apologies!! Its a cycle that he cannot stop!! You will continue to get beaten until someday he kills you - make no mistake about that!!!!
2007-01-06 23:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're ready, it's time to leave. And get the help of your local battered women's shelter. If you think you can leave and that would be it, pack just what you need and leave what you can live without, and go to a friend's house or your parent's house. But this guy doesn't sound like he'd make it that easy. Google battered women and your city and state. Find the number. It's going to be hard because they'll cut your contact from everyone for your safety. But your other alternative, it sounds like, is dying. Good luck and stay safe.
2007-01-06 23:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get out as soon as possible and go to the police or hospital. Show them your scares and explain to them you're scared of being killed and that he may kill himself. Don't worry for the money now, your health (mental and physical) should be your priority. If you're scared that your parent won't understand then inform the police officer or nurse to help you talk to them. Make sure to bring along your purse with all your ID cards and money you have. There is help out there and you deserve better then this! He doesn't deserve you and he should be seen by some therapist.
2007-01-07 00:06:31 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you're able to get on the computer, I'm wondering if you can e-mail your local police dept. I'm saying this because it seems like you may need an escort to get out of there - if you can do this, you need to be very detailed because I don't know if this sicko will clown with the police around or not. I really believe you should be able to contact the police and any other organization dedication to your type of situation via internet. They may be able to assist you with a definite plan on getting out. Hurry and let us know how well you're doing jthomasgmt@yahoo
2007-01-07 09:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by Emerald Jones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart you have to find away to get out, whatever it takes at all. Wait till he's asleep if you have to and sneak out. I know you're scared but do NOT let him convince you to stay by telling you he'll kill himself, its emotional blackmail and most likely all mouth. You need to talk to your parents, they will understand once they know the truth and they can help you. Whatever it takes, get out of that house, you are in serious danger there. Call the police and have him arrested, it all seems terrifying i know but if you don't this man is going to kill you sweetheart. I'm very sorry to hear of your miscarriage, but you are right of course, no child should be raised in a home with a man like that. Please get out and do whatever you can to make sure you never have to see him again, there are people who can help you. All the luck you have my prayers
Rosie
2007-01-06 23:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your parents or a trusted friend about this immediatley. This isnt going to stop or get better trust me. I've been there. Please leave him for your own safety. You might have to get a restraining order against him. Make sure you erase all the history on the cmputer also do he doesn't find out you were on here. Your parents will help you if they know he's ot the nice huy he portrays to be.
2007-01-06 23:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of this relationship. Go to the police the next time and show them your bruises. You can find help from a local womens shelter and they will protect you from him. Please don't stay because you are afraid of him. He is very abusive and you deserve much better than that. There are also domestic abuse hotlines that you can call to get help. Whatever you do....get some help and get out of there. No one should have to live like this!
2007-01-07 03:10:12 · answer #11 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋