on new years i found out that my fiance had texted some girl he knew some pretty graphic stuff. since it's only a text should i still be upset? and is it right for me to still feel angry and betrayed? and why in tha hell is he defensive when i bring it up when he's already admited what he did was WWWAAAYYY wrong? a friend of mine is going thru tha same thing with her man who happens to be my man's best bud. Is there a connection and she took away his phone so that her man uses hers and she has his. Is that the right thing to do and should i do the same?
2007-01-06 22:46:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cheating can be physical or mentally. If he's text sexing with someone else of course he cheating. He's having an affair in his head, probabaly hoping someday for it to come true.
Give yourself some self respect and come down hard on this.
This is probably a big blow for you and if it had been physical it would of been easier for you to deal with, so what he's doing is worse.
This is something both of you need to talk albout and get in the open to see if you both have a future together. You have a lot of work to do to put the trust back into your relationship
GL
2007-01-06 22:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by brian h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't necessarily have to do the exact same thing she did as a way of dealing with it.
Cheating is all about lying. If he believes he did not, he should be able to be honest and you two talk about it and the reasons he did it. Maybe to fill a void? Is there sth missing that he's trying to fill? If you did the same thing wouldn't he be upset?
Talking always helps. Good luck :)
2007-01-06 22:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by big h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is cheating, If he really cared for your feelings he would never do it, It is not as bad as finding him in bed with another woman, but he is on his way there. Being devoted to one person is not hard if you really love them. I am ashamed to say i have looked at other women when i was in relationships, in retrospect it was a wrong thing to do, every time it did it my relationship slid further away, it undermined my love for the person who i cared about. It would be nice to have eyes for one person only, but i fear it is not realistic, saying that you should then be both open about who you are looking at, then in this way you have the chance to address each others feelings about the matter, if you you cant both be open about it, what is the point of being in a relationship.
2007-01-06 23:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by treb67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 03:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is...
cheating can be physical or emotional...
u shouldn't do the same...if he does...dun b angry..it will make him become defensive also
just let him kno ur not happy with it...and hope that he can understand how u feel and since he admit he's wrong...just let it go..its best for the relationship if u dun hold onto little things or else it'll turn into big things
2007-01-06 22:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by Forever happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's right that she took away his phone, she can't control what he does, if he can't commit then she should move on to someone who can. The same thing goes for you, if you feel this was cheating then you have every right to feel that way.
2007-01-06 22:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..that doesnt solve anything. Text sex is STILL cheating. But its about once bitten twice shy..if they do it once they'll do it again. I would recommend dumping him like a hot brick coz if you stay in this, he will find more ways of cheatng on u..its like a compulsive disorder...find happiness elsewhere, dont face the pain of this situation again.
2007-01-06 22:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by J1312 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you two must be doing something wrong maybe you not pleasing him in every way talk to him ask him why does he have the need for that it might just be a turn on to have some girl talk dirty so why the hell cant you do it if not then just kick him to the curve you might be better off good luck!
2007-01-06 22:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
some immature relationships go thru pushing each other to see what can or cant be tolerated. its risky behavior on his part and could invite problems. as long as he and you understand that this kind indescretion is playful or serious play. make sure that you know each other and that you are both trustworthy and loyal to each other. if either of you feel its harmful, then dont do it. simple as that.
2007-01-06 22:52:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well may be its just jut the beginning of something very horrible
U must keep a check on ur boy in a very light way so that he doesn't realises it
2007-01-06 22:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋