I used to be really into my girlfriend. She was all that mattered to me. I really gave this relationship my all.
I wanted to be with her constantly, and so did she most of the time.
However, whenever she found something else to occupy her time,
she seemed to forget about our "close" bond and ignore me.
I would complain and she would accuse me of being too clingy and needy.
She even told me that I don't love myself.
So I decided to start loving myself more and giving myself more attention.
Now that I'm more independent and have adopted a nonchalant attitude about the relationship, she is freaked out and now questions whether or not I love HER.
She complains that I don't look for her anymore.
I believe I still love her, but I can't see myself being that vulnerable to her again because she didn't appreciate it anyway.
Should I feel bad?
Isn't this what she wanted?
2007-01-06 22:28:07 · 7 answers · asked by negrito con sabor 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you certainly turned the tables on her. She took you for granted. When you pulled away she found out that you weren't so much of a sure thing anymore. Hence the "freak out". You two have played each other out. No one should feel bad. It's not what anyone wanted; it just happened. Just can't see you feeling the same about her anymore. If you ever got back with her, chances she would end up acting the same way with you. Then you'd still be back where you are now. When the well runs dry we are much more likely to appreciate if or when the water returns. More likely to try and hold on to it too. Other times the well stays dry. Then you need to go find somewhere else to drink.
2007-01-06 23:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most you will get out of a relationship is what you put into it. That works both ways, some give and some take. If it only goes one way it won't work. You feel like the well is dry, have you given away all the water and no one put any back. You know there is an old saying that says: Air is only important when you are not getting any. She is feeling the lack of air. It is the same in a relationship, you have to get some back. She sounds selfish to me.
2007-01-06 22:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by P.A.M. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That saying is terrible. Why would I miss something that is still there? I prefer: " When the well is dry, we know the worth of water" - Ben Franklin.
2007-01-06 22:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Ya don't know whatchya got til it's gone". Ever argued with someone who walks out? well...if you give them more space...more time away from you than they figured you would...they eventually start to rethink things. That is what is happening. You got her going....which is a good thing it sounds like. Seems like she might have been taking advantage of you-and we don't like doormats, so your sudden change is a good thing.
2007-01-06 22:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Little Jeannie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you really didn;t want a close knit relationship w/ her then if you always felt vulnerable.If you feel bad its your own fault.Tell her how u feel & maybe you won't feel so bad.
2007-01-06 22:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you are willing to give yourself to her to show her you love her.if it does not work it should be a good joke huh?
2007-01-06 22:44:25 · answer #6 · answered by el arracadas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
head and heart games suck!!!!
2007-01-06 22:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋