Recently an old friend came to visit me.We have known each other for 10 years.There has always been sparks between us.We simply cannot be in each other's presence without touching each other.We also have a great friendship & soul connection but has never formally dated.
Since his visit I met someone else - amazing person.He has all the qualities I look for in a guy and potential husband.We are dating exclusively at the moment.He wants to marry me and will give me the life i always dreamed off.The only thing is that that all consuming passion is not there.
Now my friend has informed me that he left his girlfriend and that he wants me to go&spend time with him.I know this might be my long awaited chance to have a relationship with him.I am only scared that he will leave me as he has habit of breaking up with girls after awhile.
How do I choose between all consuming passion & stability and security?
2007-01-06 22:11:58 · 7 answers · asked by lilly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
With stability &security, passion will follow it.
I think you should go with the guy that you're dating right now, because it seems to me that your friend wants you to be his re-bound girl. That whole breaking-up with girls habit is not healthy.
But it's your choice. Just go with that gut feeling us women are equiped with. Do what your heart feel is right!
2007-01-06 22:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention love. Passion is a good thing, but what about love? Which one do you love? If it is all about the sex in the end what do you have? Sex eventually takes a back sit to reality. A good friend once told me as you get older you need someone that you have a connection with. You have to be able to talk and listen to each other and just enjoying being together. Figure out which one you are in love with, maybe you will find it is neither of them. Good luck.
2007-01-06 22:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by Redhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the guy of stability and security, cz he seems to love u for real , but your other old friend just came to you as a stopp until he finds someone else, he doesnt feel for you he just can't stand being alone so he came to you , he isnt real, i know that this isn't what u wanted to hear but its the truth. or where was he all this time if he really loves you , he is a selfish human being , and you were the closest thing he could think of until he finds another. And i thing u know better. Good luck.
2007-01-06 22:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by seeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first follow your heart, then when your to confused like you are now to know what to do........... think about it..... maybe you just need to tell the bf you need to take a break and make sure that things are right between you too......... from my experiances, and yes, i litterally just went through the same thing as you except that i didnt have a current bf, i dated my best friend of 10 years, or more, flames flyin blah blah and it very quickly died into doin the same things every day this and that...and i broke up with him.... your bf whom you do seem to care for and i sure hope that you love him can give you the things you seem to need in life....... and as for the passion, take inititave teach him what u like.... maybe hes to busy tryin to make you happy in other ways he just needs a push in the right direction in the bedroom
best of luck
2007-01-06 22:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by jingles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 13:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart and see if that can help. if not then make out who u think u can spend the rest of your life with.
2007-01-06 22:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by chuckymafia2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way is either relationship going to work.
2007-01-06 22:14:04 · answer #7 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋