child maintenence?

Question

how much should my sons father be paying? he never takes him overnight and has him for 5 hours on a sunday. my son has swimming, karate and golf lessons which costs me a fortune (i'm not complaining) surely this is to be taken to account too?? hes gave me the same amount for 4 years and i dont think its enough.

its not about the money, its the point of it all. im on a very good wage myself and his dad is too.

Answer 1

Pay no mind to the cheap comments of people who obviously do not know what scumbags some men can be when it comes to maintaining their own children.
Unfortunately, the only way he can pay you more money is if he has a pay rise. You could ask the CSA to reassess his means maybe.
Unfortunately, education and hobbies are not taken into account. If it can be of any consolation, I pay for my son to be privately schooled all on my own and scumbag is not helping.

Answer 2

Go to the CSA website and they have an online calculator (does not require any details from you) You just type in his estimated weekly income and it will tell you. i know its hard raising a child when the other parent gives you a pittence and is off having a great life spending the rest. But aslong as he is giving you something, sometimes that is enough. My ex does not pay a penny for my 2. Even £20 a week would help me right now. And be careful cos if you push it with him he might stop paying it all together and the CSA are not working well at the mo!!!

Answer 3

Well the first step you need to take is to go to Court and let the Judge set the child support amount....there is standards set forth by each State. These child support amounts are dictated by how much each party makes and what the child care expenses are as well as medical coverage and by whom.

Now once this amount is set then it is completely up to you on what you spend.....basically saying that if you then start over spending on your child's extra activities without consulting the father and getting a agreement then you have to assume the responsibilities from there on your own.

I am a believer that it takes 2 people to bring AND raise (financially) a child but alot of people who have custody of the children go to a complete extreme (not saying you are) and begin to rack up cost to spitefully get back at the non-custodial parent. So watch your expenses without the other parents agreement to do so.

Hope this helps

Answer 4

Thats a difficult question, you do not say how much he is paying you and we dont know anything about yours or your ex's financial situation. Have you discussed this with him, maybe he thinks you are happy with what he is paying you. If you have talked it over with him and still feel he is not paying enough then you need some outside help about setting a rate that he can afford and you think is fair. Also if you have a problem with the limited amount of contact your ex has with your son then you should also discuss this with him. If you cannot agree over such things then maybe you should think about going to a solicitor and getting things sorted in court.

I get a small amount of maintenance from my ex for our son, however if there is something my son wants/needs, ie school trips, clothes, shoes etc, then i discuss it with ex and he will help me if he can. If I couldn't afford to do expensive extra things for my son and his dad couldn't help then I wouldn't do those things, its a good lesson for your son for the future to know that he cannot have everything he wants in life!

Good luck!

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Answer 6

He should be paying towards your sons basic upkeep , things like golf lessons are not essential and your choice. you need to take into account his earnings, what he needs to live on etc if hes on an averagely decent wage around 40/50 quid a week is about the most you should be asking for.

Answer 7

The government does the calculations for you based on his earnings. It changes as his earnings changes. The percentage is probably different in each state. It always good to have things officially done if you want to be able to have the money you need:) A freind went through the process and it cost next to nothing.

Answer 8

Depends on how much he earns. As for the extra curricular activities ... they are non-essential and he has no obligation to help towards the cost but why don't you have a chat with the ex (if you're still talking) and ask if he would be willing to contribute. If you're looking for more maintenance my advice would be to consult a solicitor who can work it out properly.

Answer 9

I suggest you visit the Domestic Relations Dept. at your local courthouse. Start a child support petition where your child's father will be ordered into court while your presence isn't required. They will review your salary the expenses of your child and determine the appropriate amount of child support of which he'd be required by law to pay.

Answer 10

No it shouldn't be taken into account. You presumably allowed your son to do these things, if you couldn't afford them the answer should have been no. Too many women seem to think that they can squeeze their ex-men dry, basically it should be down to what they can afford arrived at by someone who has gone though his and your finances with a fine tooth comb.