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2007-01-06 21:37:22 · 30 answers · asked by kenny_d20032003 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Toddler & Preschooler

my brother is 21 months

2007-01-06 23:09:56 · update #1

30 answers

Im so sorry you just have to ride the storm, biting is normal ,not nice but biting back can make them worse. It took 6 months for my little man to stop doing it.

2007-01-07 06:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by tanyafairy 1 · 0 0

Depends somewhat on how old he is. Is he too old for a pacifier? You could try that. Please don't bite, kick, hit him. (You know better--he doesn't) Just let me say this: children will repeat behaviors which they receive a reaction to. It does not matter if the reaction is praise, yelling, crying, or anything else. The greater your reaction is, the more he will repeat the biting. The best is to try to avoid being bitten (if you see his mouth open and coming toward you-block it). If not, stop him from biting you by prying him off of you and act like you're not upset, or at the very most just say a simple, "no." I know you said you've tried everything. Try ignoring it (as much as you can fake it anyway).

Are you the only person that he bites? Are you in a situation where you are responsible for him and his discipline?

Another alternative, which I've heard works, but I haven't tried it is: when he bites, walk away and let him be alone for 1 to 2 minutes. That's great punishment for some kids. That will depend on his age too.

2007-01-06 21:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Whoa, whoa whoa, DO NOT bite him back. Cannot believe how many people said that!! Are you all insane? What are you gonna teach him by doing that? 'Oh, err, stop biting cos it's wrong, if you do it again I'm going to do it to you' Isn't that kind of the wrong example? It's like 'stop hitting each other or I'll hit you. (?????) Lead by example or you'll end up confusing the child by doing something you're telling them not to do. Think about it.... How old is your brother? Your brother is 21 months old? He's still just a baby! Please don't listen to the majority of morons on here saying 'bite him back'. Try this, if he bites you, say firmly, don't shout, 'no' and then place him on another chair, and ignore him for a moment, when he comes back over say firmly 'biting is naughty' Do this each time he bites and he should start to understand he's not getting the right reaction. Remember he is still learning. Good luck!

2007-01-06 22:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jane H 4 · 1 0

This is common when kids are learning to talk. Frustration at not being able to communicate makes kids bite. Then everyone makes a fuss about it, and it becomes a game they enjoy.
Tell him that biting isn't allowed anymore. Say, "No more biting!"
Then praise him for not biting. When ever he's sitting around not biting anyone, give him a hug, a sticker, a pat on the back and say, "good job, no biting".
When he bites, ignore him. The bitten person gets a sticker, and a pat.
Trust me, it works better than biting him back and hot sauce.

2007-01-06 21:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

How old is your brother? Is he biting to hurt or just 'chewing' because he may have sore gums. Body language and firm words help. Pull away and say 'NO' each time. If he is just looking for anything to bite, give him a teething ring.

2007-01-06 21:40:45 · answer #5 · answered by Penelope R 4 · 0 0

hi my son is 21 months and has bit me twice. both times i said NO firmly and said 'that hurt mummy' and he stopped. i would say dont bite him back as that will confuse him, i was at a friends house once and their toddler hit my toddler and my friend grabbed his kids hand and smacked it, and the same time saying 'dont smack, its naughty' now wouldnt that confuse you?! also, like someone else said, what is he biting? well worth looking into the teething thing, if he is teething then try ice lollies or sugar free ice pops (poles) they're easy for little hands to hold and soothing on their hot gums.

2007-01-07 12:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by mummy_of_one 2 · 0 0

ATTENTION - Older toddlers may sometimes bite to get attention. When children are in situations where they are not receiving enough positive attention and daily interaction, they often find a way to make others sit up and take notice. Being ignored is not fun. Biting is a quick way
to become the center of attention - even if it is negative attention.

IMITATION - Older toddlers love to imitate others. Watching others and trying to do what they do is a great way to learn things. Sometimes children see others bite and decide to try it out themselves. When an adult bites a child back in punishment, it generally does not stop the biting but teaches the child that biting is okay.

INDEPENDENCE - Toddlers are trying so hard to be independent. "Mine" and "Me do it" are favorite words. Learning to do things independently, making choices, and needing control over a situation are part of growing up. Biting is a powerful way to control others. If you want a toy or want a playmate to leave you alone or move out of your way, it is a quick way to get what you want.

FRUSTRATION - Young children experience a lot of frustration. Growing up is a real struggle. Drinking from a cup is great; yet nursing or sucking from a bottle is also wonderful. Sometimes it would be nice to remain a baby. Toddlers don't have good control over their bodies yet. A loving pat sometimes turns into a push. Toddlers cannot talk well. They have trouble asking for things or requesting help. They haven't learned yet how to play with others. At times, when they can't find words to express their feelings, they resort to hitting, pushing, or biting.

STRESS - A child's world can be stressful, too. A lack of daily routine, interesting things to do, or adult interaction are stressful situations for children. Children also experience stressful events like death, divorce, or a move to a new home. Biting is one way to express feelings and relieve tension.

USE THE WHO, WHAT, WHEN, WHERE, AND HOW METHOD TO PINPOINT THE PROBLEM. When did the biting occur? Who was involved? Where did it happen? What happened before or after? How was the situation handled?

TRY PREVENTION. If you determine that the biting occurs as the result of exploration or teething, you may want to provide the child with a cloth or teething ring to gnaw on.

If a child seems to bite when tired or hungry, you may want to look at your daily routine to be sure that he is getting enough sleep and nourishment.

If the biting occurs when two children are fighting over a toy telephone, you may want to purchase an extra toy telephone. It does not work to make very young children share. Toddlers don't have the skills to negotiate or understand another child's perspective.

If attention seems to be the main reason for biting, try to spend time with the child when she is doing more positive things. Snuggling up and reading a book together or rolling a ball back and forth is so much more fun than receiving a scolding.

If the child is experiencing a stressful family or caregiving situation, you will want to make everyday life as supportive and normal as possible. Predictable meals and bedtimes and extra time with a loving adult can help. Often, experiences like rolling, squishing, and pounding play dough or relaxing and splashing in the bathtub are great ways to relieve tension. In painful situations like divorce, it takes time and patience for healing to occur.

TEACH NEW BEHAVIORS. When a child bites, show the biter with your voice and facial expression that biting is unacceptable. Speak firmly and look directly into the child's eyes. For example you might say, "No! Sara, it's not okay to bite. It hurts Jon when you bite him. He's crying. I won't let you bite Jon or another child." If the child is able to talk, you might also say, "You can tell Jon with your words that you need him to move instead of biting him. Say 'Move, Jon!'"

You may also want the child to help wash, bandage, and comfort the victim. Making her a part of the comforting process is a good way to teach nurturing behavior.

Whenever the child is out of control, you will need to restrain or isolate her until she calms down. Insist on a "time out" or "cooling off period." Wait a few minutes until things are under control, and then talk to the child about her behavior

2007-01-06 22:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Your son appears like he's not getting consistent and agency punishment for his biting and hitting conduct. He needs to have ALL of his toys bumped off for an era of time that makes a distinction. He could no longer be allowed to play in any respect even as he misbehaves. He needs to benefit that this habit is unacceptable and there'll be effects to pay. Then go back basically one toy lower back to him in the previous bedtime and tell him he can play with it the following day or have it taken away if he bites or hits his sister. you're permitting him to regulate you and your daughter and also you're taking section in into replacing your life-style because your toddler is uncontrolled. 2 months is alongside time to have allowed this to flow on. it is going to be difficult to break him of this habit now because he has been getting away with it for thus long. This toddler needs some stern self-discipline and it needs to be consistent and cruel. And both you and your husband could agree on the thanks to cope with this unruly toddler in the previous he monopolizes your each flow. i might want to get rid of all toys, all snacks and all relaxing and video games. tell him why he has no privileges. Make him devour on my own, after all of us else has eaten. he will then have time to regulate his habit if he needs his life lower back. Or make him devour with you and if he a lot as drops a pea, deliver him to his room. you're carry homestead 2 more effective chance free lives interior a month. in case your son isn't taught to offer up this hitting and biting, your twins are in risk for an identical abuse your daughter is being subjected to. Hitting little ones isn't the reply. even as a figure hits somewhat ones it truly is an illustration that the figure is taking away their frustration on the toddler with actual moves. imagine about it, training a baby a lesson now to not hit by way of hitting that kid?? It makes extremely no experience. in case you hit an human being, it would want to be considered attack. childrens have an identical rights.

2016-12-28 07:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Try the time out punishment works a treat with my little boy, he hates it knowing hes missing whats going on in the living room for a couple of minutes.

2007-01-07 01:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Bite him - quite hard. and then say "that it hurts, and my bites hurt a lot more than yours. I just bit you, not hard, but if I ever catch you biting anybody again, i will bite you so hard, it will hurt for a week. "

The problem is, your brother probably can not realise just what he is doing to others yet,

2007-01-06 21:43:02 · answer #10 · answered by DAVID C 6 · 2 2

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