my own dad died 2 years ago & my mum's partner is really hard to get on with. they have 2 young kids together. He always invests his time arguing with me instead of being an adult & standing back. He doesn't show me love & critisizes me for everything wrong i do - he never notices when i am trying hard to be nice to him. What should i do. I'm 10years old & this is my mums name i am asking under.
2007-01-06 21:35:31 · 5 answers · asked by Mishell 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Hi Sweetie,
I'm a stepdaughter and stepmother myself. Definitely tell Mum how you feel. Tell him as well. It is going to take time after time to adjust with him in the picture. Just remember to keep respect and have him respect you as a young lady. As for you and your mom, you will always be your moms baby no matter what and he will have to live with it. He was aware of you when he met your mom so obviously he likes you! Give him a chance? Does he have kids of his own? If he does not, he probably does not know how to deal with them....give him a chance but talk to mom first!
We are here for you, good luck Honey!
2007-01-07 00:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by Pocahontas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key, for anything to change or be fixed in your situation. Have you had a talk with your mom & told her your situation ? Have you stood up for yourself & told him you didn't appreciate his constant arguing with you ? Believe it or not, some Stepdads assume the position that only THEIR KIDS are the priority, and the "Stepkids" can take care of themselves. Then there are those Stepdads that don't want anything to do with the stepkids....period....only their real kids.
The whole family needs to have a sit down discussion, & decide which direction the family is going in. Is this guy in it for a long future ? Or just a short temporary ride ?
You say your mom's partner - you didn't say Husband ? or just Boyfriend ? that is why I am saying this. The future plan needs to be found out, before he goes around trying to be the "MAN" of the household telling you what to do.... if he is NOT planning to marry your mom, or in it for a SERIOUS FUTURE.
I hope this makes sense to you, & helps.
2007-01-06 22:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by ccchevydude 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult situation for everyone involved.The trick is to never give up. Some people are threatened by others for various reasons. Some are cautious of others. Some are more affectionate. His class of person is one that needs to be found. You need to find out his interests. If some of those match your interests, then relate to him on that level. For example, If he likes Fishing, you could ask him to teach you how to fish. If all else fails, ask your mom how you can get closer to your step-dad. He may just be afraid of you. Threatened by you? Men always need time to get to know someone before they commit to that person. Don't give up and I hope all works out.
2007-01-06 21:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mum what he is doing and have her talk to him. Tell her you need her to protect you. I hope you do. I wish you the best of luck, sweetie.
2007-01-06 21:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by greylady 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
does your mom know how he treats you? talk to her, if that dosnt work, talk to a teacher, or councler (sp?) at school...
2007-01-06 21:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋