i have lost all my hopes for living due to a breakup with a girl i loved for seven yrs.plz. suggest me?

Question

i love a girl.though she never told she too loved me but her behaviour clearly proved her love towards me.both of our family member knew about our relation and had no problem.but one day she told me she looked me just as a friend.she is now engaged with another friend of mine.i thought of forgetting her but every time she comes infront of me my past comes in front of my eyes.it is not possible to stay away frm her as we r of the same class residing at the same locality.----------please suggest me what to do

Answer 1

get a guitar learn her favorite love song and sing guy sing

Answer 2

Well bro... Behaviour is one thing. Love is another...

She would've said those 3 words "I love you" within 7 years time, which is a long time. Most couples are married by that time (others even divorced)

Anyway you have to remember that the past is "the past". You cannot change it. So if you've not told her yet that you love her... you really gotta do it as soon as you can. I mean, she's engaged, Not yet married... So you still have a chance. Don't be negative, try to take it from the start. Talk to her like a friend, tell her how you feel. It is at this moment where she will tell you where her heart truely wants to be.

This is where my friend, you must be prepared for rejection... I know its strong word. But, it is one of the outcomes you must be ready to face. If she is just not ready to be with you... Don't force her. She's probably made up her mind, this is where you've got to pick up the pieces and move on.

Even if she is in the neighborhood, you've gotta understand that it is not your fault that she's not with you. I'm sure there are plenty of girls who accept you for who you are. You might wanna see more than just around yor neighborhood. And yeah... you'll find that out that someone will fall in love with you far less than 7 years. could be 7 days or even 7 seconds.7 months That's probably lesson number one you can pick up from here.

Lesson number 2?? It also is her loss if she didn't want to be with you! Yeah... that's because she lost someone who loved her for who she is. And If you truely love her... you'd want her to be happy. Even if it is not to be with you

I'm sure if you keep your hopes high, forget the past and focus on your carreer... Its your best escape from the loneliness of hell that you seem to be digging yourself into. So... expand your horizons, set sail and set out on a new journey to find someone else. And yeah, before you leave... Don't forget to tell her that you loved her before you let her go.

Answer 3

The situation you are in is a very tough situation. When you love somebody it is very hard to get past those feelings of love. You must take a day to yourself, figure out what it was or is that you love about her. I suggest you write down every single thing you can think of, (good and bad), about her. The main thing that you want to do is own your feelings and at the same time get over her. What makes this hard is living so close to her. I suggest also getting out and getting involved in some of your favorite hobbies. Date other girls, you don't have to fall in love with them, you can just be friends with other girls. Make sure these other girls understand where your head is right now and make sure they are not the types of girls who fall in love fast or are clingy. I'm sure at this point you have told her that you were in love with her, but if she just sees you as a friend, you must accept this and find other interests. Why would you feel that life is over for you? You definitely have a void from some past experience that you are trying to fill, so fill it up with yourself instead of thinking that you can't live without her. Love is a very tough emotion, especially when you want the object of your desire to feel the same about you. Think about this, what can you offer her of you that is unique about you? When you find the answer to that, you can stand up and say, "baby, you are going to miss out on this special thing that I have!" Take your uniqueness and share it with others. If she is making a mistake, there is nothing that you can do about it, but let it happen and move on.

Answer 4

It takes time to heal a heart that loved. I loved my ex and everything reminded me of him. I still haven't completely forgotten him and it has been 9 yrs. I decided to keep him as a friend and we still talk even though he dates other girls and someday will be married I know everything about him. Life must continue. You have to look foward to better days and give someone else a chance. If you are not religious now is the time to be. Don't let your life end, open your eyes and see there are millions of other people in the world. There are beautiful girls everywhere. If you have to leave that area, so be it.

I know how you feel but you have to be stong

Answer 5

Thats a pretty tuff spot man, it sounds like the avoiding and moving on technique will not work. Man, im sorry but if she left you for one of your friends and now they are engaged i think your chances might be a bit shot. I would say move on man, it will be tuff for you no doubt but you can do it. Try bringing a date around her and your friend see if she gets jealous if she does then she is clearly not over you and that might give you some insite into whats going on with her. Its a crappy spot anyway you look at it. Sometimes you gotta call a spade a spade and move on, good luck to you man i hope it works out for you.

Answer 6

I went through the same thing bud.
The best thing that you can do is NOT LET HER WIN. Go on with your life as if nothing happened. If she sees that she ment nothing to you than she MIGHT come around. If not, then just go on with life. Sometimes you have to be the bigger man.
P.S. Your so called "friend" is a SCUMBAG. If he knew how you felt about her then he should'nt have made a move. You should think about dropping him too.

Answer 7

No one in this world can predict when a girl will breakout her feelings and go to her true love...

If she loved / loves you truly then she will surely come to you.... but it needs your involvement. all that you need to do is show her that you care for her, tell her you are my BEST FRIEND and take this friendship to an extend that she forgets she has already got engaged...., Help her in every single thing, Motivate her in life and help her reaching her dreams, Share her sorrows, Respect her Loved ones (Parents, friends and Brother, sisters). one fine day when you have got the perfect time, speak out your feelings for her....

All the Best,
Cheers,

Answer 8

i know it seems hard right now but it does get easier i had a love that i couldnt get over and still see her to this day but i dont feel the same way as i did then. it is always hard to get over a love nobody ever said it was supposed to be easy. you will just have to grin and bear it for now. someone new will come along who will want to be with you until the end of time.

Answer 9

There are alot of girls out there. The only reason you feel this way is cause you loved her for so long you don't know anything else. I know it' s hard to keep away but try to avoid places you know where she would be. You will get over her it just takes time. Trust me you will find love again.

Answer 10

write down what you feel, and find some miniscule string of good that's coming from this break up. Try to find a bright side There may not seem to be , but if you look hard enough it's there. But write, get it out of you onto paper, cause it will eat you alive if yuu don't.

Answer 11

This is the only thing you can do forget about her or else she will be living her life well while you will be regretting. It is not worth it there are many fishes in the sea, She is engaged she has moved on with her life therefore move on too.