Well, I've been single for a while now, and I was just curious as to if I'm good looking enough to find or to have someone find me relationship type. I've been in a very bad relationship and I'm not sure if that has to do with me not being able to open up and find someone, or if it's my looks, I've decided to become a veggitarian so I can get into shape for myself, and maybe in the hopes of being with someone, I know I'm not desperate being that I know eventually I'll find my true love and blah blah blah but I'm interested in finding someone to laugh and have fun with. All the men that I have come across, found me attractive for sex, and that's the only thing on their minds. I'm getting kind of sick boys, com'on. Well hope to get something out of this.
2007-01-06 20:44:41 · 26 answers · asked by natali3x3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't go around giving my a** away, but I dated a guy who used me for that, and since then I havent been able to date or be with anyone, I feel that It's hard for me to find someone because of the past that I have, I've never been on a date, and I know I'm beautiful, and I cant believe i asked that question about myself.
2007-01-06 21:38:39 · update #1
If you're having unsatisfactory relationships, it's not because of your looks, it's because of your shallow outlook. If you think all you're good for is a f*uck-buddy (because you don't look pretty enough, in your opinion), then some guy's f*uck-buddy is all you'll be.
2007-01-06 20:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We only have your face and your words to go on, but from what I see, you aren't an ugly woman. That being said, you aren't the most self-assured person I've ever read a question from either!
Maybe you should take a break from dating for a while and work on being the person you would like to see when you look in the mirror. If you want to be a vegetarian, do it because you like the taste of the food, you think the results will be beneficial to you physically and start reading/ taking advice from people and sources you respect. When you're ready to date again, look for the things that you want and remember it's a two-way street...
2007-01-06 20:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well first off you are attractive looking. that's nether here nor there. it seems your problem is that fact that you are good looking. most attractive women intimidate men. they feel that you may be out of there league and just presume your with somebody. the reason you are finding boys is because the majority of the men with the confadece to confront an atractive woman(no all just most) are guys that arn't worryed about a relationship to begin with. this isn't always a bad thing. but you if your looking for a good relationship broaden your horizons try makeing moves of your own (don't give it away but make gestures) this will expose some of the shyer guys and give them a chance to earn your respect. "if you give an underdog a shot you may find your hero."
2007-01-06 20:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by mcdanight 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your very nice,,, your looks aren't the problem,,, it's where your looking, find out what attracts you to the males that are problems and stay away, some times a cup of Clorox in the gene pool will clear out the problems find a new pool
If I was 20 years younger ,,,, OK 30 I would treat you like a princess
2007-01-06 21:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by S h 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know what jumps out at me in your question? The part about you having been in a bad relationship. You seem to take all the blame. It's good to take your share of the blame, but I am betting that it wasn't all your fault, or had anything to do with how you look.
True love has nothing to do with how we look. Sex does, love does not.
But here's the rub - if we don't feel confident in ourselves and who we are, then we feel undeserving and end up in... Bad relationships.
I am also a vegetarian, and I, like yourself, do it to be in shape and to feel good about myself. This is my responsibility, both to myself and to my wife.
But she would love me if I wasn't in shape. I know this too. She would love me just the same. But she would try and feed me better.
I like that you write about looking at ways to improve yourself and learning how to open up more, to your potential mate and to yourself. I mean it, this takes courage and lots of work. So you're on the right track, and I think you'll find someone who not only finds you attractive for sex, but attractive for love, and this will come when you feel it in yourself first.
2007-01-06 21:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by Steven S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to relax and give time to yourself and need to look into the brighter aspect of life. Not all boys are for sex. There are boys who would like to continue a relationship for long have fun and be together. If you are working the office colleagues could be the best ones. If you have some one to confide with then your girl friends are the other best options. If you need to have fun divert yourself in other activities like reading, listening to music or watching comedy movies. I have a feeling that you easily fall for some one who is slightly goody. Be steady and firm.
2007-01-06 20:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, your looks are definitly great. You have no problem there. if your worries about finding the guy right for you then try getting to know different people. From expierence I've found out that when you meet and start hanging out with new people, you tend to grow on them and they'll start to like you. This shouldn't be a problem for you, you seem very social. so just try to expand your horizons a bit and see what happens. Good luck
2007-01-06 20:51:05 · answer #7 · answered by blackbelt20 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Natali,
It seems your problem is two-fold.
1) You have lost trust in guys/men.
2) This causes you to hold yourself up against them. Considering they are all the same.
Generally speaking, majority of the men you would meet want mainly s e x. So you are quite right in saying that all the men have sex in their minds.
But, honestly, you must appreciate that all of them are not same. As they say all fingers are not of the same sizes. We must be able to differentiate between them while choosing our partners.
You may have also attracted them by your attractive looks, so they may have not found out "real" you. Possible?
Just open up yourself in your next relationship and it will give you confidence in future partnerships. I hope so.
Have fun....cheers.
2007-01-06 20:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by GS 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well Beauty lies in the eyes of the Beholder...
and my dear pal , love sees no looks all that matters is your attitude towards the person.
lemme tell u 1 thng the more we run after a particular thing (specially guys) the farther they seem to be.... just stop shoeing ur desperation in guys..... and give some space to the new relation let it nurture don't expect thngs too early and gradually u'll find A BEST PAL if nt ur love(so early later u can target 4 ur love as well)
2007-01-06 20:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by sanya 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm fairly much 15 and in a guy so some distance as seems go, i look for lovable, good adult adult males. :) fairly eyes are a plus exceedingly blue ones. He has to play a game. Baseball and/or soccer are the terrific. i like adult adult males with a humorousness, respectful and psychological.
2016-11-27 01:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting is shape is good for you, but Most men only are looking for sex we are dogs. If you keep looking and have a good self image One day you will find a Men to fall in love with. He is out there. Keep looking
2007-01-06 20:49:08 · answer #11 · answered by Joe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋