My boyfriend proposed to me Christmas. He is in the Navy. I graduate from college in May 2008. I wanted to get married in August 2008 before Law school. My family keeps saying after law school...but gosh thats a whole 2-3 years later....My fiance will be fine with whatever, but I just dont want to make my family upset. They think it will mess up my career thinking I wont go to law school if I get married before. What do you think I should do?
2007-01-06 20:05:47 · 10 answers · asked by cauamber 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Depends on whether or not your relationship is any good, but why would you want to marry a guy who's in the military? That's sort of a bad decision, but whatever it's your life. Military men are not only pigs for joining up, but like to cheat while they are away for months at a time. I don't understand why you're family would be worried that getting married would make you less likely to want to attend law school unless of course, they think you are too dumb to use birth control and you'll end up popping out kids instead of getting an education and a real job. I think you should do what you think is best. I'll be going to school right after my wedding, but we already live together and go to school.
2007-01-06 20:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't want to be rude her but most of these answers totally suck! First of all Congrats!!! Military men are not pigs. I'm engaged to a Army guy myself. I'm also in the army witch makes it fun. School is definately important. However, if you get married there are many financial benefits you can qualify for. Also it doesn't matter if you are married or not the fact that you want to be with him more than you want to do your studying is already affecting you. it won't change. I'm also graduating in May of 08. I'm getting married July 07. You love him and things will be tough but you should already know what that is like being with someone in the military. You know what is right for you more than your parents or anyone on here. If you need to chat or want more advice on the adventures of marrying into the military I will be glad to help. Good Luck!
2007-01-07 07:44:09 · answer #2 · answered by Crys L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question would be, are you really ready to get married at all if you're letting your family make you waiver on the decision as to when? You shouldn't be accepting his proposal unless you're confident enough to do it right this second. It's an honor to be a Navy wife. It's also the hardest job in the Navy. No joke. Are you woman enough to handle it?
Oh, and only an ignorant fool would suggest that everyone in the military is a pig.
2007-01-08 06:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by NavyMomSS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't alter anything because of how your family feels. You are mature enough to make your own decisions. Besides, you are the one in the relationship and not them. If you are questioning it/holding back on a decision, you may be the one having doubts.
I can't say what I think you should do, other than going with your heart, and continuing to stay committed to your law career. Take care, and I wish you all the best!
2007-01-06 20:09:50 · answer #4 · answered by polishedamethyst 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your parents want you to succeed and they want the best for you. When you are involved with someone then your mind is more focused on them. What your parents are trying to tell you is finish your school which is the first thing to focus on and then you will have more time to focus on him after you graduate. They want you to think of your own plans which is getting through school.
If you marry before you finish your school then you will want to spend more time with your husband and sometimes that can get way of school. If he loves you then he will accept that because it's something you desire to do and stick to your plan because if you don't you may end up regretting it.
I am under the impression you mite be afraid to lose him if you pursue your law degree. Let go of your fears and face them and if he loves you enough he will allow you to go off and pursue your dream.
2007-01-06 20:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a career Navy man. Be careful. If it's right 2-3 yrs won't make that much difference. Be careful.
2007-01-06 20:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that it wouldn't matter either way. But if you want to get through Law School, my opinion is to wait on marriage. Marriages can bring about certain issues and problems that can be detrimental to try to get through school.
2007-01-06 20:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by VoirDire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get married and use a good reliable birth control , put off babies until after school , if you dont you will lose out on a career
2007-01-06 20:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, Marriage is always better after you are done with schooling in general.
This will grant you opportunities to venturing through all what will keep you bysy, and also there will be an opportunity for you to know him more & better.
2007-01-06 20:38:39 · answer #9 · answered by FOREVER AUTUMN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a choice you and your fiancee need to make. You are marrying him. Not your family..
2007-01-06 20:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋