help with non-accepting girlfriend's parents ~ cross-culture?

Question

I've been with my girl for a few months now, and it's been amazing. We're 18, and just finished our final year of school.

However, I introduced her to my parents who are white, and they welcomed her into the family and love her. But recently when she told her parents about me (they/she are asian), they haven't accepting at all. Since they found out, they've shown much more interest in where she is going, and have voiced concerns about her seeing me whenever she tells them thats where she is going. It's gotten to the point now where she either lies, or leaves out me in her story, and she doesn't want that, so she's seeing me much less. And now, it feels like it may ruin our relationship (her side). I talked with her parents only briefly before and after we started going out, and I know they semi-liked me before they found out.
She has to put her parents first, but what can I/we do to have them accept me, and make sure this doesn't ruin 'us'. I'm open ot any serious help.
Thank you

Answer 1

I'm half Asian and I understand why her parents are like this. Asian parents have a thing for tradition, don't ask me why but they do. One of my friends is full Asian and her parents are completly bent on her marrying someone Asian!

What I would suggest is to ask your girlfriend if you can go over to her house for dinner/lunch with the parents, and put on the charm. Make her parents fall for you and make them forget that your not Asian. Don't talk about anything to serious the first time this happens.

Then a few weeks (or however long you feel necessary) later go back and have dinner/lunch/etc. again and this time talk about your relationship with their daughter. If they liked you from the first time you had dinner with them, they should be more understanding.

I hope everything goes well!

Answer 2

Her parents just need some convincing. Maybe you could amaze them by studying some information and history from which ever country they are from. They might just let you in the group then. I think it's only because they want to stick to traditions and have her marrying a handsome, wealthy, Asian, business man that gets straight A's all through school.

Answer 3

Damn bro, that sucks. Just try getting in close with her parents. I had a friend who went out with an asian with strict parents. She continuosly lied and her parents had no clue she had a BF- they were 18 too. It's a different culture and there isn't much that you can do. Just hope that you can get in close with her parents. If not, maybe move on. But that wouldn't be smart if you love her. Just try keeping it secret for as long as possible. Maybe try convincing her to confront her parents. She is an adult, isn't she.
Hope I helped.

Answer 4

it sounds like this asian girl is a filipino or is she?...give her parents a nice present and go to her house often...try to impress her parents and when you think the right time comes which is how soon is now...tell her parents that you have good intentions for her....it's also better if her and your parents know each other..that would help a lot.

Answer 5

People can be soooo mean, Dont give up if you guys are in love just stick it out you will be graduated soon and then you two can run your lives however you would like.

Answer 6

I do not know her age, if she is an adult and can not stand up to her parents about who she is seeing, its going to cause real problems for the both of you.

Answer 7

I guess the big question is, what's next for the two of you? Will you two being going to college, moving out, etc.?

If she's moving out to go to college or work, the problem should fix itself. If she's staying home, I don't know.

Answer 8

You have to make serious efforts from your side.Impress them, talk to them,visit them frequently,and be very friendly to them.They will accept you.Good luck.