Good girls.............?

Question

This is just an observation, but I have noticed this:

I am 19 and I have noticed that guys (most, not all) will go out with a girl for only one reason: because she puts out. He may like another girl, but if another girl he knows will give more than the other girl...he will go for the girl that will give him that one thing.

I think it sucks and these girls ruin it for the rest of the girls that are unwilling to do certain things to win a guys favor.

Any so-called "good girls" that are looked past agree?

I know this will upset a lot of people, even my male friends admit this is true a lot of the time.

Will guys ever grow out of this?? I hope so or I may just give up and become a nun :(

Answer 1

Listen dear, if you have been "overlooked" by one of those jerks consider yourself fortunate! You are worth more than just being used and discarded by some turkey who has no morals or respect for you. The other girl that compromises her self respect is not wise since the same guy will dump her when someone else comes along. Since when do you need guys like that anyway? You are young and some guy who has respect for you and your feelings will come along. This is the guy to consider as
a future boyfriend. Do not settle for losers! If all a guy sees in you is a good time. Tell him to keep moving! He is not the one for you! Trust me on this because I have seen a lot in my time on earth and one thing remains the same ........men!

Answer 2

It's true that a lot of us guys are like that. Especially guys in late teens, with all those hormones raging, yeah, if you give them even a hint that you might want to make out with them they'll be all over you. So part of it is simply hormonal. Part of it is that flirty girls are more approachable. A guy may not necessarily be focused on sex, but if he's shy and you don't talk to him, thinking he should take the first step and some slutty girl comes up and starts flirting with him, that gives him the confidence to talk to her. So I think another reason for this is that "bad girls" are also usually more social girls, and if you're easy to talk to you'll attract a bunch more guys.

So what's the solution? Well, you don't want to compete with the slutty girls because the guys that are only after sex are mostly jerks or too immature to control themselves, so you're not missing anything by not flirting as much. But I would suggest being more open and approachable, not being afraid to strike conversation with guys, talk to them like you would to your friends. It's the 21st century, you don't need to have a guy pursue you. Many of us don't know how and many of us are afraid of rejection and many more think that you're probably just not interested in us. So if you take a step to meet us half way, show us that you're interested, there's no need to flirt.

Don't give up on the good guys, there's plenty of us left out there. Just show us that you're interested and the rest will work itself out.

Good luck.

Answer 3

pretty true, and they will only grow out of it out of necessity to start a family if they ever feel the need to do so. You can probably just find some shy guy who would be more than happy just having a girlfriend. Also don't hate the girls, women like sex too, they just don't like to admit it as much. It's all human nature

Answer 4

You will find the nunnery a vacation of much happiness. Those guys are so shallow and their brains are between their legs. You wouldn't go out with those losers anyway? So why cry about it. Stop looking for "cool." Accept that the guy with the glasses and pocket protector will be your hubby. Now go back and study.

Answer 5

There are lots of guys that don't need to be "hittin' it" to go out on a date. Maybe you're just attracted to the "bad boys" who are interested in the one thing. And perhaps you'll grow out of that. When you do you will see guys were around you all the time who wanted to have fun besides doggy style.

Answer 6

hey i think its a lot worse for the nice guys that actually have feelings for the girl not just focusin on that one thing. we not all like that tho. im not one of those guys. i know exactly what u mean by getting looked over.

Answer 7

There are superficial guys and nice guys and gay guys. The superficial go for the stuck up b!tches that put out, the nice guys [which are very rare to find so when you got em, dont let em go] go for the good girls, and the gay guys...well we cant do anything about them. Yes it does suck for the Hott guys to be superficial but thats how they are.

Answer 8

I hate to say this but the ones to blame for this behavior are women. They have become so insecure, so needy for acceptance that they have set aside morals, social etiquette, and values, in exchange for attention from males.
It has progressively gotten worse and worse, and until girls stop acting like a bunch of whores, it won't improve. There are nice men who respect your right to wait for sexual intimacy with them, but not many. Men from other countries are much more respectful of our need to be loved before we are taken to bed. So you might just try dating new guys. American guys are for the most part, prostitutes and want girls who are sluts too. You don't have to be one of them. It starts with the girls. I tell guys who treat me like meat that I wouldn't have gone to college if I was going to be a prostitute. That pretty much says it all.
My men friends actually are more interested in the girls they can't bed than the ones they have.
My Dad always said:" If he (the guy) calls you, thank God. If he doesn't, thank God."
Good advice!

Answer 9

Haha, not all of us are like that. But most are. Some grow out of it some dont. Good luck!

Answer 10

nope hun I TOTALLY agree... not all guys are like that, but so many are it's sad. Seems not many people appreciate values, morals, etc.