I feel like I am Cinderella because my fiance's MIL and two SIL have tried to treat me like S%$t since they first saw me. What started it was when one of my SIL said she didn't like me because I read a letter. Bull@#$%. We have been waging war ever since. From them taking me to court. To me taking them to court. From me boosting a friend to beat them up. To vicious rumors and lies. To me calling CPS on them. To them calling CPS on me. All of us have engaged in dirt with each other but what is hurting me is that my fiance' is the blacksheep of the family and he has developed the NO BACK-BONE syndrome. They talk down to him in his face and his mother and sisters refuses to engage with his son which is also my son. Even through all this he still jumps when they say jump. Its only after three years of me b&%$##*@ he has finally stood up. This is hurting him. AND THEY KNOW IT. Because of him pleading with me, I've chilled out, but their still at it. I want this to end NOW!
2007-01-06 18:13:05 · 6 answers · asked by biancamoon1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sweetie, if you love your man, be the better person and let it go. Step up, apologize (even if it is their fault), and move on. Life is too short for this.
2007-01-06 18:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by Lynda M ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This doesn't sound anything like Cinderella, (rags to riches), its more like a dysfunctional family who have little chance of a reconciliation without a moderator (3rd party). You have to stop it, that's the only person you have control over. If they continue abusive bahavior then you'll need to give your fiance an ultimatum, this is a horrible environment for a child to grow up in. It's either you and your child or his abusive family. Be the bigger person so that if and when you do finally have to cut them out of your life you won't have a guilty conscience.
2007-01-06 18:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel Green 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BREAK IT OFF! (just kidding) ~ but seriously. . . something needs to be done FAST. If he has so much trouble standing up to his family for you, and they won't give it a rest (especially with a child involved) - then this WILL be the rest of your life.
From what you've said, it sounds like the only thing you can do to keep the rest of your life from being one long Springer episode is to cut them out of your life completely. Don't ask them for anything, don't do anything for them, talk to them as minimally as possible (which should be easy considering they want nothing to do with your son), and they will either get the hint and start playing nice, or keep on their ways (with you hopefully far far away!!!) Don't give into their BS, and try to just "ignore" it.
It's the only way for you to be happy.
2007-01-06 18:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by BabyFirefly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I would walk away from all this if I were you, but I'm not you and there is a child involved.
Get some counseling, maybe from a minister or priest. Learn how to refuse to engage them. Be above it all. Think how you want to appear to your child.
2007-01-06 21:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be nice to them and don't let it bother you. maybe they will see that it is not bothering you and they will chill out a bit.
continue to take care of your child (not saying you won't) and them calling cps won't be anything you have to worry about.
as far as calling cps on them...if your reason was just because you were mad at them for something...that reflects badly on you.
try to talk to your husband and let him know that his family doesn't treat him right and you don't want him to stop talking to them but to try to explain to them that it isn't right.
if that doesn't work,ask him to not go around them so much and see how they react.
good luck
2007-01-07 16:31:27 · answer #5 · answered by KJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-01-06 21:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋