2007-01-06 18:06:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a bit of a tricky situation. How sure are you of his cheating? Do you have proof? Are you engaged?
Do you think that you could get couples counseling?
If you are definitely sure that he is cheating and don't want to stay in the relationship then tell him the reason(s) why you are breaking up. Remember to keep your cool. What he has done to you really hurts and you'll want to hurt him back but you are better than stooping to dog level.
But if you are determined to end the relationship be aware that he has parental rights. Since you are pregnant with his child you will still have to see him when he comes to see the baby and pays support. Its best to part on friendly terms for the sake of the child. No child wants to be brought in to a hostile situation...it will cause emotional problems for them for life. Staying together might not be the optimal problem solver either especially if there are issues of trust. Anger and emotional problems arise from lack of trust in a relationship.
2007-01-06 18:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by witchy91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you know he is cheating on you for a fact...and get all the details straight...you don't want to mix anything up. Secondly you should tell him that you're pregnant and when he acts all excited you should ask him why since you KNOW he has been cheating on you.
It's all in his reaction to the pregancy news too. You can probably see it in his eyes if he has been cheating or not. Sounds like he's not ready to be committed or a father. Give him some training though, as in a second chance. No child should be without both their parents.
2007-01-06 18:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him somewhere and once you are there just say to him that you dont want him to speak until you are finished and then tell him everything that is on your mind about the pregnancy and the cheating and tell him what you want from him and what you expect of him in terms of his role in the child's life or whatever you choose in relation to the child. Most importantly you have to decide what is going to be the best for you and your baby in the long run because you dont want to be at home looking after your baby and worrying where your boyfriend is and if he is cheating on you
2007-01-06 18:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by dragonfly_princess_72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont tell him unless you want him in the babies life and that means yours also wait to see how the two of you work out but rember once a cheat allways a cheat if you are ready move on a real man will take care of the both of you that is the differents between a father and a dad any man can be a dad only a real man can be a father good luck
2007-01-06 18:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to work things out, see why he was cheating, and maybe things will work out for you.
Dont dump him now, make sure things are better, but if you dnt want him back either have an abortion or keep the baby without him knowing, or file for allimoney :D
2007-01-06 18:10:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, try not to stress out to much- your unborn shild will suffer if you do. Secondly, confront him in a calm way about the cheating. Even better if you have proof. If he admits to it- then see how you feel. If you choose to stay with him, then stay, if not then go. But it is esential for you to tell him that you are carrying his child. Even the assholes have a right to know. Hope it turns out well for you.
2007-01-06 18:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by black_rose_of_faith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to know even if you end up dumping him. he should have a chance to be in the childs life, but you also need to take into conceration your own feelings and the well being of the child.
you just have to trust that whatever decidion you make is the right one
2007-01-06 18:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by AliasPlease 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? First thing you should do is talk to a counselor. This is too big to deal with on your own. And talk to your parents if they are good to you and understanding. But just talk to someone before you make any major decisions. Good luck sweetie.
2007-01-06 18:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him because he too is part of it and has the right to know....then it will be up to you to decide if you would dump him.
2007-01-06 18:10:55 · answer #9 · answered by bea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets see , you want to hurt him by freeing him of obligation, that's original. start cheating and marry your b/f and take half of what he has, it's a lot easier to get child support from a husband than it is a b/f.
2007-01-06 18:10:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋