When I met her she already had a bf so we kept our distance. Gradually, she told me that they constantly argued and that she could see no future with him. We allowed our feelings to develop and we both liked each other.
I told her she must choose one of us and she chose me initially, but when her bf found out there was another guy, he treated her better and "changed". She decided to stay with him.
We have not slept together but my feelings for her are getting too strong. She says she still likes me more, but needs a good reason to break up with him. She asked me to give her one month to decide.
I'm really falling for her and each day is pain, knowing she is with her bf, even though I knew he was first.
Should I wait or move on?
2007-01-06 18:00:51 · 7 answers · asked by Recanter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you (semi-obviously) could go either way on this.
A wise friend of mine once said, "If you love somebody, set them free, and if they love you, they will come back." That being said, I don't think that girl will EVER get married. She is just too flighty...
I think that you should really consider barking up another tree, at least for a while. That particular girl is not reciprocating your feelings, and it is difficult to share a girl. It leaves you constantly feeling insecure and unreciprocated.
I have a theory of true love - "True love finds a way." This could just be a transitory infatuation, or it could be your true love. Either way, you simply are not getting treated right at this time. At last count, there are roughly 3 billion women on THIS PLANET ALONE. I suggest that you check out some others, and if that one is the right one for you, the two of you will find a way to be together at some point without the intereference of a third party.
2007-01-06 18:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by Sparky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reasons this girl gave for making you wait are not good ones. From your initial question, I thought that maybe the girl was going into the Peace Corps or the military or something. Waiting for her to find a "good reason" to break up with her current boyfriend is not a good reason for you to wait. If she wanted to break up with the guy, that alone would be reason enough to do it!
Itry007 and Vickie have it right on - you should just move on and find somebody who will make you her first choice. This girl is just using you.
2007-01-06 18:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww... to answer your question right away... no do not wait for her. take it from a female who knows a female... she wont come back to you. She only told you to wait for her..."in case". I hope you understand what I am trying to say. I hate it for you darlin but she only told you that because she wants you to be there if something goes wrong. She sounds selfish to me. Please dont put yourself through this... move on. And if she asks you why you didnt wait you need to tell her that you have feelings too. So in the meantime to help you get through this hard time I reccomend you hanging out with your friends, and keeping yourself busy. Do whatever it takes to keep her out of your heart and off of your mind. Dont put her 1st when she made you last! You are better than that~!
2007-01-06 18:10:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, unequivicably, move on. As soon as you get the courage to do this, she'll inevitably have a falling out with b/f and come knocking at your door--but now guess who is in the position of power? You. But beware, it will be short-lived. As soon as your heart becomes soft and trusting and you have the illusion of feeling secure in the relationship, she'll grow confused again, because she still has feelings for b/f, and he did this and that to win her back... This girl is power trippin on your pain. It excites her to have you in the waiting. So, pursue it for the experience, or move on to something healthier.
2007-01-06 18:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by itry007 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i think that you should ask yourself this and not other ppl cuz if u love her this much then no 1 can tell you wat ur love means .... i mean does she seem hurt abt or does she watch u get hurt? I think that u should stop chasing and let urself go thru with it... i mean wen ppl say "should i get over it?" It doesn't happen over night and if u think it will then you fooling urself.... now if she really loves u like you love her then u oughtta wait but if she doesn't then move on i'm not saying be mean to her and forget abt her completely but look at her as a friend that's my only advice it's pretty simple
2007-01-06 18:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by i_luv_ca2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait and she said she needs a good reason to break up with him you said it yourself "he changed when he found there was competition" she shouldnt stay with him if hes only going to be nice when theres competition then hes just using her. You should follow your instincts.! ^___^;
2007-01-06 18:08:14 · answer #6 · answered by Ky_bello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love her you should wait.
If its just a thing..move on.
2007-01-06 18:10:22 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋