I just broke up with my boyrfriend because he's not an intelligent person. He sayd that no one does that, but I have my beliefs and I know what I want. He speaks with terrible grammar, we have nothing in common, and we can barely have a conversation because he rarely understands what I'm talking about. Was this so wrong of me?
2007-01-06 17:49:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its a good reason for you....
2007-01-06 17:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong to end it with someone you aren't "feeling it" with. Everyone is different. What each of us feels are important qualities to have (and to absolutely not have) in a relationship isn't particularly similar. We grow, we experience, we learn what is important and not important to us. We can't particularly force ourselves to "settle" for someone who doesn't meet our "standards" and expect to be content. So the fact that the feeling isn't there is good enough a reason to call it off with someone. Blaming it on the other person, under these sorts of cicumstances, is uncool though. Surely you must have known something about his level of "intelligence" before you became his girlfriend. If you didn't, you should have. Either way, you are also to blame. Learn a lesson here. Get to know someone first. It saves heartache in the future. In an adult relationship, that would really kind of be a shallow reason to actually dump an actual boyfriend.
2007-01-07 02:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all!
Two people, sorry to say, have to be around the same social status and intellectual level. If your boyfriend says "huh?" to you everytime you're trying to start up a conversation topic, then that's a sure sign that the two of you aren't compatible. Two people in a relationship have to be at least moderately able to relate to one another. If the two of you can't even communicate enough to find out whether or not you can actually relate, then we have a problem.
Besides, you don't need a reason to break up with someone. You break up with someone when you want to, not when you have a legitimate reason to.
2007-01-07 01:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the reason is good enough for you then go with what your heart feels. Perssonaly I think you did the right thing. If you two can't communicate then that is a problem because communication is key. You have standards and sometimes you have to live up to them. Good job and go with what your heart feels. If you feel sorry for him talk to him about the problem and maybe he'll get some help with his grammar and watever else!!
2007-01-07 01:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by pixie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, even if that weren't a good enough reason - and for me, it would be - the fact that you have nothing in common and can barely hold a conversation would be good enough reasons to end it.
You were right to end it, but you probably just didn't give him a reason he could accept. You should have told him that it wasn't him, it was you! ; )
2007-01-07 01:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends...now if he's speaking inappropriately to you...end it def. But...you are REALLY insulting him when you say that to him. But, communication is the key in a relationship. If you can't even understand him even..maybe help him out? If you really care about him that much at least. But, if you don't care about him that much, be nicer to him. Say something like..."Look, I'm sorry I don't think this is really working out," You know what I mean?? And I know you want the best for yourself...but think about the guy's feelings too. Always remember to put yourself in other people's shoes.
2007-01-07 01:55:26 · answer #6 · answered by rach4962 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW CAN U CONDUCT A RELATIONSHIP , IF THE OTHER PERSON DOES NOT EVEN UNDERSTAND U. I SAY GOOD RIDDENS. HOW CAN U TELL A UNDER COVER JOKE, THAT ONLY A PERSON WITH HALF A BRAIN CAN UNDERSTAND , AND HE DOES NOT LAUGH BECAUSE HE DID NOT CATCH ON TO THE PUN... IT IS LIKE BEIN BY YOURSELF OR WITH A CHILD WITH A 3RD GRADE LEVEL... BEEN THERE DONE THAT... DID HE EVEN FINISH HIGH SCHOOL.
2007-01-07 01:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by CHOCOLATE THUNDER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it wasnt wrong for you to do that. If I couldnt have a serious conversation or if I felt like I'm talking to a wall, I wouldnt be able to last either.
2007-01-07 01:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person. If that is what you don't want in a relationship - then I say congratulations for getting up the nerve to do something that most people wouldn't have the nerve to do.
2007-01-07 01:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by Susan Conners 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on the reasons you've given, I have one questions. How the hell did you get with this guy? Is it just on looks? Well, that's pretty stupid.
And yes, I think those are really good reasons.
2007-01-07 01:54:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is SO important in a relationship...no need to doubt your decision. You know what you want; don't settle for less.
2007-01-07 02:09:22 · answer #11 · answered by Jamie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋