How can I drug test my 17 year old daugther without her knowing?

Question

She and I had the discussion before and I got hit with the I dont trust her routine. I have a feeling she is smoking weed. I waswondering if I could use hair fron a brush, blood from a bandaid, etc.

Answer 1

I know at a job interview they did a mouth swab test on the spot to catch anyone trying to be sneaky. I don't know if you can buy those. If I was a Mom wanting to check in on my kid that is probably what I would try. If she sleeps sound then your set. I know some people frown on the invasion of privacy thing but heck, I am going to be very watchful of my kids and I applaude you for paying attention.

Answer 2

Ok one what happens when you find out? Youll just ground her or something then when she can go out again no matter what if she wants to do it she will. I would just let her get it out of her system and explain how her life could be if she makes this a huge part of her life. Wanting to test her, thats just going too far, obviouslt in her past you have made her feel like she cant tell you anything, you were propably and still are too strict, because if something happens to her and she tries somethign harder shes not going to come to you for help because shell think that she'll be in trouble.Just let her know she can talk to you without you getting mad.

Answer 3

First this is the wrong approach with a young woman you need to be upfront and open conversation with her. Also so you fing out she is then what? There is nothing you can do if she is unwilling to stop. Talk WITH not to your daughter. Most doctors will not decieve a patient or they risk alienating a patient and foster mistrust of doctors in general. I do not think any doctor would or can divulge the test results to you anyway without her consent.

Answer 4

Not trying to be gross or anything, but flush the toilet bowls at home, break the flush so that your daughter is unable to flush it after using it, then from there, you'll be able to take a sample of her waste and then send it to the hospital and also inform the police or if you don't want to be that harsh, give her a good dressing-down first and also explain that you do this because you care for her and do not want to see her life wasted away. I'm not trying to get her into trouble but its for her own good if you see it my way and that you want her to turn over a new leaf.

Answer 5

I dont think thats possible but you should ask her if you havent already to go get tested and if she gets mad like I probably would just tell her its because you love her and if she says shes not doing drugs then there should be no problem with a test. But let her know that your there for her one way or the other.

Answer 6

This would NOT be a good idea. Trust me. If my mother drug tested me it would be extremely upsetting. Im a pretty good kid and ive never done drugs. My brothers have so my mom has been worried about me. It just insults me that she thinks i would do it. The only thing you can do is trust your daughter and hope for the best.

Answer 7

Hi ricksmit!!!
I understand you love, care and worry about your daughter.
I'm a parent myself, but I would NEVER do that to them. NOT in a millions years!!! Are you nuts????? That will be disrespecting YOURSELF, as a parent!!! Not because is your daughter means she doesn't deserve to be respected!!!

If you have to go around the bushes with your child, then you are not doing your parenting the right way!!! Wouldn't you like your children to be forward with you??? If they are doing something behind your back, that is NOT the way to find out. There are many ways, without loosing her!!!

Trust me if you dare to trick her like that, you will NOT have a dauther, any more!!! Be smart, start talking to her try to get sincerely involve with her activities, with friends and places she goes to.

Try to be a friend!!! NOT an FBI agent!!! Didn't you do things that you didn't want your parents to know??? That is violating your daughter's rights!!! She has rights, you know!!!

Try talking to her and being more close, and don't intimidate her. Come down to her level at times, speak her language, and give her the privacy she deserve!!! So when you are NOT around she will have her own experiences to back her up!!!

Let her know you love her by understanding why she does, what she does!!! Some times us parents have "A LOT TO DO WITH OUR CHILDREN ACTIONS"!!!

So before judging her, scream or punish, think about what have you being doing this past 17 years,to avoid anything like this to happen??? I don't think is wise to betray her, even if she IS DOING SOMETHING HARMFUL, as to drugs is concern!!!

I suggest you go first to counseling, yourself, to get the proper tools necessary, for dealing with issues like this. Then if she sees you trying to better yourself, she eventually will want to do the same!!!
You can also go to counseling together!!! It will be a plus.

I will like to ask you a question, How would you feel if someone dear to you, takes a very important desicion behind your back about yourself ???
Huuummm!!!! Interesting answer isn't it???

GOOD LUCK, RESPECT OVER ALL, GOD BLESS YOU

HAVE A HAPPY LIFE

ALLIV Z

Answer 8

Call the doctors office and tell them your reasons of why you want her to be drug tested.. and have them take her blood,, it will show up in there.. Just tell her that the doctors want to do a check up on her.. and the rest of the family and act like you had to get yours done too.. The doctors will tell you if she has any thing in her system

Answer 9

i´m sure you could but it would be immoral and an invasion of her privacy. Your best bet is too talk to her, she will tell you when and if she is ready . But forcing anything upon her, or confronting her after secretly testing her will end up in her becoming more distant from you and may encourage drug use if she isn´t on it, or more use if she is.

Answer 10

I would also want to know. If she is living under your roof and you have asked her and she has denied however your gut instinct tells you different....for your safety and your other children you have a right to know if she is using.
I would make a doctors appointment. (explain to doctors in advance) Have them do a throat culture for strep..(drug test)
or take blood testing for mono....going around...just making sure.

As adults we pray that our children will choose to talk to us and communicate with the what to do 's and what do not's however we can't be there 24/7 and if for safety sake you want to know...Go for it.

Just because you care!

Best wishes