Say your kid is 7 and you really disapprove one of her friends.. do you say something?

Question

This kid does not have great social skills, but the issue is more then that. She is pushy and picks fights with my kid. My kid deserves friends that treat her better... she is only 7, so I think it is ok to say something.

The other day this girl was over and they started fighting. My daughter was upset and came to me and they were tatle telling.. I sent them to different rooms and told my daughter that if she has someone over that doesn't treat her well, I can't fix that, but she can fix it by picking friends that treat her like she deserves... my daughter never fights with her other friends... just this one (she is annoying and touchy and staring at you).

Was I wrong to say something, my kid was mad at me

this kid doesn't KNOW how to treat others. At my daughters birthday party, everyone fought with her... she just doesn't know how get along with others, and bugs them and picks at them... it is a social skill thing I think

Answer 1

As she is only 7 you can help her choose her friends wisely but you cant choose their friends for them.As my daughter has a friend like that I have learnt to keep my mouth closed .My daughter now realises its a one sided friendship.Their friendship has seen a parting of the ways.Try not to step in to much.Kids need to learn sort their own arguments out.Its part of growing up.

Answer 2

oh honey this will be the first of many iv had the same thing with both my girls.
yes you were right to step in she is your daughter and you have a right to protect her and teach her . unfortunately for some reason they seem to keep going back for more but(I'm still in the dark about that one) they only advice i can give you is to try and ride it out and not say to much about this girl now as the more you push her away from her the more she will go to her. i just kept pointing out to my daughter what a good friend really was and how she should treat others and after 6 months of hell on wheels my daughter finally figured it out for her self , the hard way. it took along time for her to see this kid for what she was and in the mean time she lost a few friends of her own but trust your daughter to make the right decisions and just keep a very very close eye on the situation ,i dont no if they go to school together but i had mine separated in their classes and i kept in contact with her teacher she was fully aware of the situation.and i organised play dates with children who were alot more suitable then i pointed out to my daughter how much fun she had and how the others kids treated her nice . its just horrible to watch but its a part of growing up and it taught my daughter a few lessens about burning bridges. good luck and hang in their.

Answer 3

Yes, you can fix her having a friend over that doesn't treat her well. Don't let this child come over. Period. You are the adult, you get to make the decisions. If your daughter is mad at her, so be it. Life's tough, she won't always get her way.

We had a situation sort of like this. My son wants to be friends with everybody, and he started playing with a girl up the street that we guess was around 2 years older than him. She would come over to our house, boss him around about what toys he could play with in his own room, was shoving him in his room when he was trying to come out to say something to us, and would park her butt on our computer and play one player games while our son kept asking if he could play too - she would tell him he couldn't play because he couldn't read (he was kindergarten then). We also think she stole $10 from him when he was showing her his money. No proof that she did, but it went missing after she had been over. We had to get to the point of telling him she could not come to our house.

She moved away and two boys just like her moved into her house. These boys would constantly lie to my son and bully him, then try to come tattle on him when he reacted in anger. We got to where we would tell them he wasn't able to play when they came to the door.

You have to stand up for the things that you want your daughter to learn. If you want to teach her to not let people walk all over her, you have to not let them walk all over you.

That said, it does seem like the other girl doesn't have very good social skills, but that is her parents' problem to deal with - not yours.

Answer 4

Since your daughter is only 7, you have every right to help her choose her friends. Be sure and explain to her why this little girl is not a good friend.

Answer 5

Well you did the right thing from my point of view. Have tried talking to the other girls parents??Try having play dates with nice girls for your daughter. That might make her realize that their are nice people out their.

Answer 6

yes say something this kid sounds like trouble.she will either get your daughter in trouble or hurt her.you have every right to protect your child. (.that's OK if she is made it wont be the last time that she will be mad at you for something your her mom she loves you she will get over it.

Answer 7

then maybe you should explain to the friend if she cant get along with your daughter in your house then she cant come over...speak with her mother and tell her the same...if it continues you are the parent put your foot down and say not this time we already talked about it maybe next time if you can both get along...

Answer 8

Who the parent, And who the kid, Until that child is 18 your the boss, If that other child is teaching your child things you don't want your child to do, make it stop Keep in mind YOUR THE PARENT

Answer 9

Yes , you have the right to say something. She is only 7 and may want to please everyone. Kids are tough to get along and she may need you to step in and take care of it.

Answer 10

HI, YOU DID THE RIGHT THING. I WOULD HAVE TOLD HER TO GO HOME A LONG TIME A GO. I WOULDN'T LET HER COME IN MY HOUSE AGAIN. FIND A DIFFERENT FRIEND FOR YOUR DAUGHTER.