My girlfriend and I even though have been going out for almost 2 years. We truly love each other and spend a lot of time together whenever we are together. We met in high school and both fell in love. However after high school she went off to college first as I was left as a senior. She is a year older then me and at that time we also took a break. She ended up realizing that she missed me so we got back together that summer. Things were great and then this year I went off to an out of state college as well. We decided to drop the title as a couple, however we basically were a couple. We talked everyday called each other baby and still had a huge physical attraction each time we visted or sawe eachother. Now after out Winter Breaks we have been recently arguing a lot after maturing and developing different mind sets. We still love each other though and She says she wants to take a break to help our relationship and focus on her #1 priority for now school? What do you think?
2007-01-06 17:41:22 · 17 answers · asked by Nustche 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After she told me this we hugged and she cried and told me she would always love me, however it was her problem and she needed time to get her business straight. She also has to deal with some other minor legal issues as well such as ridiculous underage drinking without her parents finding out. She is extremely stressed out she says and just needs time to focus. She says that she still wants me in her life and would really appreciate if I gave her a month or two to get things situated. I agreed with her and said that you gotta do what you gotta do and I would understand if it helped her life situation out. The bottomline is she needs time apart without all the emotion to hopefully better our relationship, have her better appreciate me, and to get her grades up and deal with her citation confidentially which are her main focuses right now. That is not terrible wrong right? Even I understand even though it really hurts. Please let me know what you all think.
2007-01-06 17:47:29 · update #1
After she told me this we hugged and she cried and told me she would always love me, however it was her problem and she needed time to get her business straight. She also has to deal with some other minor legal issues as well such as ridiculous underage drinking without her parents finding out. She is extremely stressed out she says and just needs time to focus. She says that she still wants me in her life and would really appreciate if I gave her a month or two to get things situated. I agreed with her and said that you gotta do what you gotta do and I would understand if it helped her life situation out. The bottomline is she needs time apart without all the emotion to hopefully better our relationship, have her better appreciate me, and to get her grades up and deal with her citation confidentially which are her main focuses right now. That is not terrible wrong right? Even I understand even though it really hurts. Please let me know what you all think.
2007-01-06 17:47:32 · update #2
Our feelings for one another are mutual we both know that it is undeniable that we both love each other greatly. We both have had relationships prior to ours and even in college while we decided to take a break. I jsut wanted you all to understand that.
2007-01-06 17:52:32 · update #3
Our feelings are very strong. She even said that she could see us having a strong future together she just said that we were really young right now and I agree. I know we will be together again this summer we will always be best friend and the physical attraction and tension will always be there.
2007-01-06 17:55:23 · update #4
Let me remind you that this has happened before and things worked out great. She was bawling when we discussed this and she just seems stressed please take that into consideration before you start saying that its over and that theres no way that it will work. I thought it was natural to want time to breathe.?
2007-01-06 18:05:55 · update #5
The more we mature the more intrigiung and less generic the relationship gets in my oppinion. Weve adapted many times before.
2007-01-06 18:14:06 · update #6
The more we mature the more intrigiung and less generic the relationship gets in my oppinion. Weve adapted many times before. Please let me know what you think.
2007-01-06 18:14:18 · update #7
give the girl her space, to get her priorities together and if she really loves you, she will be back.
2007-01-06 17:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by robbiegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, you need to grow apart to be able to truly grow. As what you've said, you both go to different schools and now having different opinions about a whole lotta different things. Love is not only about knowing you have found the 'one' but also knowing when to let go... I think this is all for the best as you both would be getting to know the world in your separate college life... and probably after a couple of days or weeks or months, you might want to look back and see if the relationship is still possible at all...
2007-01-06 17:49:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is how it is:
She has only ever known being with you, which isn't good because she's out in the world and needs to experience all she can.
Let her alone, let her sow some oats for goodness sakes! She isn't going to be the same little girl you dated before, she's in college, a place where minds and ideas expand and she will change. Be there for her and embrace all the changes she goes through because this is just her way of blossoming into a strong young woman.
If she want to take a break from coupledom, then let her, stop calling her baby and give her some space.
The true way of love is to set her free, if she belongs with you she will return.
2007-01-06 17:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just to tell you when she started to go to college yall did the right thing in taking a break because college is the most worst place for long term relationships especially but well she might be having other feelings and then she might not be but if I were you I would ask her if she thinks you two will ever quit taking breaks and if she has other feelings because I think if you get that out of the way then you should be ok.
2007-01-06 17:47:45 · answer #4 · answered by texaco_gas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be blunt...I think this is Puppy love and I'm talking from experience.
I was with my HSS for two years and we did the same thing as you guys were, however I also wanted space because of the intensity of the relationship and to focus on my studies. I suspect your GF is moving in another direction...and someone else could be on the horizons too...
Give her the break but don't wait on it too hard. You guys are still young, and will only make it together if you have mutual goals and are working towards them together.
2007-01-06 17:46:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When two people love each other they should tackle situations together not apart. It's over let her go a save yourself years of heartache. Imagine if you will 5 years from now and the two of you are married and she encounters some hard times in life as we always do and always will. I guess she's going to need a break from your marriage to sort things out, huh. Whatever, move on she maybe a wonderful person she's just not the one for you and she needs to work on her relationship issues. We should run to not run away from the ones who love us when we are in need of help and love.
2007-01-06 22:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by Lil B..;aka.... Mighty Mouze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you were let go nicely.You both have matured in you life at school. It will never be the same again. We go threw many chapters in the book of life and now its time for you to turn a new page.
2007-01-06 18:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by Dancingsun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reguardless of her motives, 90% chance she's going to be hooking up with other guys while you're on this "break". I played that game for 3.5 years with my ex. We kept taking "breaks" and getting back together and it finally all ended when she ended up getting knocked up by some other guy. If you can handle the fact that she's gonna be sleeping around before she comes back to you, then that's you're choice. just don't be naive and get pissed about it if you get back together and you end up finding out the truth.
2007-01-06 18:16:19 · answer #8 · answered by Somebuddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it could mean one of two things 1.its over 2.she just needs a break from the relationship you all are in college
2007-01-06 17:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the girl some space. If she really wants to be with you she will come back. And if not that only means there is something better for you out there.
2007-01-06 18:16:52 · answer #10 · answered by Lee W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has a new guy, when a female truly loves you, she won't want a "break", she won't be able to get enuf of you, she will mope around all day every day she isn't with you. if she has her eye on someone else, she will want a break to see how it is going to play out. while you are hanging on just in case it doesn't.
start looking for a new g/f and give her that break she wants.
2007-01-06 17:46:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋