I was contacted by my cousins daughter who was given up for adoption and is now an adult. She is looking for her parents. Her mother was my 1st cousin and she has contacted me online. The sad thing is both of her parents have died and they died very young.
Who should i ask to tell her the news her grandma she never met or should i? How do i tell someone something this aweful? Or should i let someone else?
2007-01-06 17:35:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She was given up at birth noone in our family ever got to me her yet but maybe someday we will. I hope she wants to meet us and not just her parents. I feel really sad for her. Her mom died at 19 and dad at 20. It is rare things like this happen but they do i guess..
2007-01-06 17:44:25 · update #1
I'm telling her today we talked on messenger for 5 hrs or more so i'm just waiting for her husband to get home to tell her..
2007-01-07 09:21:02 · update #2
She didn't have any siblings..
2007-01-10 07:10:32 · update #3
I told her and she is going to meet her grandma soon so it all seems to worked out pretty well for now.
2007-01-10 07:11:17 · update #4
I think it should come from you.She will appreciate and respect you for being honest. You are also the perfect one to introduce her to all of her other family she has never met.Each one of you might be able to shed some light on how great her parents were. It can also start a great connection for you to.All any adopted child wants to know is that they were loved thought about and wanted. You seem like the best person to help her with that.
2007-01-06 17:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by Audrey : 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's best to tell her the truth, but say it nicely but before that, tell her not to get angry or sad and just be calm. Make sure that she also is in a good mood and isn't agitated or hurt about any other thing before letting her know about it. Do not hide the truth also, because sooner or later she'll eventually find out.
2007-01-07 01:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by Clemence 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her coming to you was probably a big step for her if you have not been close until now. I would say if you have the information she is seeking, you should meet with her if that is possible and provide her with the information she is seeking. Perhaps if their death was caused by an auto accident you could find an article about it for her. Without a doubt it will be painful news to share with her but perhaps it will provide her with some closure
2007-01-07 01:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't turn your face away from her.She contacted you,you help her.Don't add another rejection on her list.I am sure she can handle it.Take her out,somewhere quiet and tell her.If there is any medical issues,let her know.Tell her everything,tell her the truth.Good or bad she deserves to know,she deserves some closure in her life.She has an emptiness in her hart,fill it out for her.
2007-01-07 02:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by avavu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think let somone who knows both her parents and the child well and if there is noone then you should tell her just let her know what happened and say your there for her no matter what just stick with her and be her friend
2007-01-07 01:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by love_lost 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
write to her a letter explaining everything, but as her at the beginning to calm down, life is not easy
2007-01-07 01:37:44 · answer #6 · answered by alsawsana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has the right to know. If you can't do the job, get a counciler to do it for you.
2007-01-07 01:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by mojonah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
duz she have ne siblings...if so tell them, and have them tell her..but if not then i think u should tell her..tell her everything, dont leave her hanging........tell how they died and everything!!!
2007-01-07 02:10:56 · answer #8 · answered by basketball_69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her so she can stop looking...
2007-01-07 02:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask the grandmother how she thinks it should be handled.
2007-01-07 01:38:22 · answer #10 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋