I am 16 weeks pregnant. The guy I have been dating for 3 years off and on is my babies father. I knew that he had 3 kids by 3 different women when I first met him.2 kids live up north..(1 lives down south where we are.) I got a phone call today from a girl that says they have been together for 10 years, she found my# in his phone and that they have 3 kids together. (that makes 6!!!!!) She also said she doesn't care that he cheats, she said that she isn't going anywhere. I called him later and he said I was gulable and nieve. He got really mad, and we havent' talked since. The girl also told me that her kids will not know my child. (sigh). She also told me that john has cheated before. She said she loves the adventure in him doing it?? WHAT? Why do men cheat? And why would he lie to me for years about having more kids than what he claims? I love him so much. (i hate him right now) Why would his other g/f want him still? and me? all I can do right now is think about them being 2gether
2007-01-06 17:30:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My daughter's dad was the same way. He has 2 kids by one woman and 1 by me. I found out he was talking to her trying to get her back even after my daughter was born. Men cheat b/c it excites them, and knowing they can get away with it will just make them do it more. I found out the hard way you can't have a relationship w/ a cheater. I know you love him, but is it enough to justify hurting your child? Please get rid of him, there are plenty of men out there that still have morales and will be glad to be a father figure to your child even though he/she isn't theirs. Don't put yourself through anymore pain.........I wouldn't wish what I went through on my worst enemy. God bless you
2007-01-06 21:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh My! First off I am so sorry that you are in this situation. I couldn't imagine being where you are. Men are mysteries and I don't think that we'll ever understand why they do what they do. But then I guess that's most women too. I think that you should try to get to the bottom of all of this just to know. But I wouldn't hold out hope of him being there for you or your child. I think that you need to use the time before your baby gets here to come to peace with all of this. You need to find away to be a strong individual and not worry about him. Sorry but he's obviously trash. I know that you don't want to hear that but I don't see any other fitting word. Run, run as fast you can for this man and all of his history. Again am I so sorry for what you are going to have to put up with.
2007-01-06 17:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by tragedys_eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 kids by 3 different women should have given you a clue what you dealing with and ran for your life be4 you get yourself pregnant. All you can do now is either raise the child alone or give it up for adoption. And the next time your thinking of dropping your undies, USE PROTECTION for goodness sake!
They cheat, cause women like you do not have enough self respect to say no to a 3 time looser...thinking you be someone special...you will fix him. Cheating by and large is a moral issue, (or lack there of)by people who stand for nothing, believe in nothing and can not be depended on for anything
2007-01-06 17:44:41 · answer #3 · answered by kitty_kat4602000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide you believe-him or his wife.
Why would you continue seeing someone who has 3 kids by 3 different women? Are there no more fish in the pond?
You can do better than him. Decide about your baby and whether you can support him and be a good mother. If not, then let a childless couple adopt him.
2007-01-06 17:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by Tenn Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh why would you want to be with this guy. Some women do like this type of relationship. I guess especially having so many kids they might feel like they can't get something better but its better to be alone than with that type of guy. You definitely dont want to stay with this guy and have more kids with him. Why would you want to be with a guy who inst man enough to take her of his children. He's not a responsible man. I mean what type of guy goes around getting women pregnant. Be a good mother got your child and find a guy who's responsible and who deserves you. Take care...
2007-01-06 17:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by LD82 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him! concerntrate on your baby and move on, and why do you want to make life more complicated by staying with him. Leave him and if its meant to be, he will come back reformed and without the excess baggage. the key to an easy life is to drop the excess baggage off wherever you see it!! move on and get a real man. i mean a guy who has x-amount of kids from other people is worrying. good luck i hope everything works out for you.
2007-01-06 19:16:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be to get out of the relationship. Remember...now you have a baby to think about as well. Do you want your baby growing up in that kind of environment?! I would tell the guy that he can be a part of the babies life if he wants. If he doesn't want to then get him to sign papers giving up his parental rights. As far as the other 'girlfriend' goes, don't worry about her. It's obvious that he can't be truthful to anyone and if she wants that, then thats her business.
2007-01-06 17:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by Meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if he didn't defend himself.. then I guess he knows he is caught and it is true. Maybe he made the other three up and he really only has 3 with her... who knows... the thing is this though... you deserve more.. and you have a beautiful baby coming.. so there are good things. But I know, guys can suc big time
2007-01-06 17:36:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him, and if you can't afford to raise the child alone, give it up for adoption. i don't know why you didn't examine this relationship when you found out that he had all these kids by different mothers. warning signs should have been flashing. you can't trust him.
2007-01-06 18:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might just be trying to ruin his life by messing up what he has now. She sounds like a real wacko. I wouldn't believe everything she said.
I'm not saying he is completely honest ... but I wouldn't base everything on what a nutso girl who doesn't care her guy is sleeping around said.
Just be cautious.
2007-01-06 17:37:34 · answer #10 · answered by bb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋