there is this boy that i really like, but he is my best friend's boyfriend's best friend (lol) so me and him are pretty close and stuff. and we are always joking around and laughing and he asked me out a couple of days ago. now even though i am really close to him i don't know like a lot about him really. so i told him not right now and i felt really bad because i had been the one wanting him to ask me out. but like he was standing really close to me a lot today and talking to me and stuff and i really liked it. but i don't want our whole friendship thing to change if we start going out...help?!
ps. me and him and my best friend and her boyfriend are all going skating friday so maybe you could help me figure out what to do then?
2007-01-06 17:10:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay, so why wouldn't you go out with him if you've been waiting for him to ask you?
if you like him, go for it.
and just say yes.
but, you want to have a friendship to right?
well the best way to have a good "romantic" relationship is if you were friends first,and if you were tight to begin with, you'll have a great bf/gf thing.
and if you break up, it will take some time for you guys to be friends again
but you will, it might not be the same, but you probably will have a friendship even if you break up..
IF YOU LIKE HIM, JUST SAY SAY, I MADE A MISTAKE, I WANT TO GO OUT WITH YOU!
2007-01-06 17:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by happily_taken16 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that when you go skating on Friday see what he is doing. If he is still talking to you a lot and flirting with you then you should go out with him. If you feel once you start going out that your realationship is changing or becoming akward then you should break up with him with the line "I really like you and enjoyed going out with you but I really think that when we were just friendsI had more fun together. I don't feel so akward around you when we are not dating and during the time we were dating I really felt strange hanging out with you and wy other friends. I am really sorry but I hope that we can still be good friends and hang out sometimes. Maybe we can go with (your friends and boyfriend) to the zoo/skating rink/movies next week sometime." Or something like that. If he is kind of ignoring you skating then you should not go out or wait a while to go out. Good luck.
2007-01-07 01:21:10 · answer #2 · answered by Nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably confused because you've sent him mixed messages. A good next step would be to tell him that you'd like to get to know him better before dating him. He'll probably ask you what you'd like to know, so be prepared with questions. You may want to ask about what he enjoys doing in his spare time besides skating. Ask him about school and what he enjoys or doesn't enjoy. Ask him what his plans are for college or University. Ask him about his dreams. Ask about his family. Ask about sports, hobbies, interests, what kind of music does he like, does he play a musical instrument? Each time he answers, listen to him. Listen well. Everyone loves a good listener. He'll be flattered that you're interested He'll be impressed that you are listening to him.
If he asks you anything about yourself, take your time and answer honestly, then ask more about him. You'll have a great conversation and be able to find out more about him and he about you. You'll know if you want to date him after a good conversation. If he turns out to be as good as you think, then you may want to indicate that you'd like to date. You may want to say something about being glad you've gotten to know him, that he's as interesting as you thought he'd be. Telling a guy that he's interesting is a huge compliment. The ultimate compliment is to tell a guy that you admire him. I once read that this is more important for a man to hear than I love you. It works, but only if you're sincere.
Since you turned him down already, you may have to take the first step and tell him that you're ready to go out with him. Sometimes guys don't get it and we have to be a bit more direct, without being pushy. Remember, the best boyfriends and later on, husbands should be our friends, eventually our best friends and confidants. Dating someone doesn't mean that your friendship will be ruined.
All the best.
2007-01-07 02:20:25 · answer #3 · answered by Loki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi sexy pret!!!
You did the right thing. If he is really interested in you he will try to get to know you as well as let you know him. And if he is a friend of your best friend , boyfriend, (LOL) then he will be around there is no rush.
Plus a friendship is for ever, if you know how to cultivate it. Some couples married while they keep being best friends.
GOOD LUCK, GOD BLESS YOU
ALLIV Z
2007-01-07 01:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well pretty much if u know that he is a nice guy and he won't leave u alone unless u go out with him, then go out on at least one date and see how it is. If u realize that dating isn't a good option than talk to him about it. If u like it, then continue it. It should all work out 4 u.
2007-01-07 01:17:17 · answer #5 · answered by Lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EASY! hey dont worry. first of all. tell him u like him so u dont loose him! next. FLIRT UR BUTT OFF when u go skating! tehehe tell him u want to get to know him better and sit down n talk 2 him. maybe have some hot chocolate and talk for a while. that way u will get more comfortable about talkign about ur lives.
i wish u the best of luck with him!!
2007-01-07 01:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by killergill9er 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There wouldn't be any harm in going out with him but like you said things will change once you start dating him and if something happens between you and it doesn't work out there will probably not be any more of the 3 of you hanging out. You just have to decide if it's worth the risk and that's something that has to be your decision because it's your risk. GOOD LUCK
2007-01-07 01:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That has got to be the world's longest sentence...call Guiness! Just go. I doubt anything is going to come of it anyway, the way you go back and forth. You're going to have to learn to make up your mind what you want and stick with it. He's not a mind-reader and the way you're acting is exactly why guys just throw in the towel and act like we don't care...you make it too hard!!!
2007-01-07 01:23:46 · answer #8 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok tell him u rly rly like him but u dnt want going on to ruin ur friendship that u like the friendship too. if he really likes u he wnt let the going out ruin the friendship.
for friday. act normal around him like u always do.
and watever happens happens.
let things just go however they are.
if he is the one making me moves of couse. lol.
2007-01-07 01:20:01 · answer #9 · answered by Live Laugh Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best relationships come from people who were good friends first. Sounds like you are both being 'flirty' and its close to something more. You'll see!!!
2007-01-07 01:15:49 · answer #10 · answered by jean l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋