How can i speak with confidence ?

Question

I have a hard time talking to new people with confidence. I usually try to avoid people because im not the best at talking with new people because i dont know what to talk about. I cant keep doing this... I need to address the problem and fix it.

Answer 1

very good question... there are several ways... either get a customer service job where you'd have to talk to many different people casually and have short conversations that way you'll feel lot more comfortable ... other ways are built yourself up physically meaning go to gym or do sports that gives you a body in shape.. so when you talk you're not worried about your mouth... also find a girl to be intimate with... she'll be a GREAT help getting over fear of talkin to people you don't know.

Answer 2

Just remember the new people are thinking the same thing. They too dont' always know what to say. so keep that in the back of your mind . so you dont' feel so nervous and just go with the flow of the conversation . What ever your talking about . When it's your turn you can ask what kind of things do they like depending on your age group.

You'll be fine practice now on peiople your not so keen on so by the time a lady comes around you like you'll be more at ease.

Answer 3

Here are some things to think about. First of all, most people like to talk about themselves...so ask about them. Ask about their clothes (where they got something, where can you get the same thing, etc.); ask about their favorite subjects in school, why are they favorite? etc. Ask about their work, their responsibilities, their likes and dislikes about work. How about hobbies? Do they plan on continuing to live in the same city, state, country?
One trick suggested for people who are going to do public speaking is to consider the entire audience as being naked. You can try this with individuals. When you meet someone, picture them naked as they are talking to you and that everyone in the room but them knows they're naked. This isn't a sexual thing, just a socially embarrassing thing...for them. But this is your secret, and as you talk to them with this idea in the back of your head, you realize you know a secret that they don't know. Pretty soon you'll get over the issue and be able to talk with more confidence.

Answer 4

Depending on your degree of shyness you may consider going to a therapist. Cognitive-conductual therapy works great in these cases. You can expose yourself to a situation over and over again, but if you don't know how to handle it, you're making the same mistake over and over again. A therapist will approach the root of the problem and will give you the exact tools to overcome it once and for all.

Answer 5

Join a Toastmasters group. That is how I built up my confidence.

Answer 6

try just speaking about what you feel,how u feel, confidence comes from inside, not something u learn....if u feel what your saying is true, then u will express it that way

Answer 7

By practicing and doing mistakes you will learn and by empowering yourself with knowledge.

Answer 8

start the conversation with a joke it works usualy

Answer 9

exercise in front of mirror

Answer 10

say fu ck you alot