I'm gonna EXPLODE!! help!!?

Question

i get pissed and angry very often at home. why? cos i'm living with the brattiest kid who ever lived. everyday she pisses me off. worse still, I SHARE ROOM WITH HER.. even now she's making stupid noises. one thing about brats, parents side them.. anyway, forget about her. this year's a hectic year for me and very stressy at times too. so now i'd like to learn how i can release my anger. in a positive way. no smoking, no drinking, no hurting myself etc.. pls help, or else i'm afraid i'm gonna explode..

my parents aren't gonna work.. all this while they think that i'm just making excuses. everytime if both of us did something wrong, i'll get more scolding compared to her, and my mom 'forgives' me much later compared to her.. i tried talking to them once about her, and i ended up getting a long lecture from my parents..

Answer 1

Have a private talk with your parents . . . . and make sure you leave any bad attitude outside the room. Tell your mom and dad that you love your sister, but that you need your space at times. Be honest with them to tell them how stressed out you feel and ask them to work with you on getting some private time.

If you are sharing a room, I'm guessing you don't have a place in the house where you can be by yourself. Ask your mom to keep your sister busy for an hour so that you can put on some headphones and write in a journal. Don't expect her to accommodate you every day, but maybe once in awhile when you really, really need it.

Your sister wants your attention, and she's doing anything to get it, even if it means annoying the heck out of you. Can you work out a deal with her? Like if you promise to give her some of your time and attention, that she will leave you alone. This would be a good time to work on the art of compromise. Good luck.

Answer 2

Acknowledge the fact that you are the one making yourself angry. All of our emotional reactions are a choice, its the reason everyone reacts differently to similar situations. Chances are you are worried about the next day or frustrated about something else and you are letting all of that flow out when presented with in all truth very minor problems. We all do this at one time or another, just notice when you get angry and try and see where the rage is really coming from. When you stop and watch yourself I think you will one be surprised with the control you have over yourself and astounded by what is really "eating" you. Good Luck and Be well.

Answer 3

I don't know if this will work for you, but it has worked for me before in similar situations. What I would do if I were you, is I would get a really good pair of ear plugs first of all, that should help you to ignore the noises she makes to irritate you. It sounds to me like she gets off on doing all these things just to get you pissed. I know that the best way to really get her super pissed off is for you to absolutely positively show nothing toward her at all. Like when you would normally be getting pissed off, have your earplugs in, take a deep breath and keep thinking of how great it is gonna be after she realizes that there is nothing she can do to get to you any more!!! Believe me it will take a little time for her to catch on, and it will be very difficult for you to keep your cool, but don't forget the payoff!!! It is so well worth it!! Soon she will be the one getting pissed off and you will be cooool as a cat.... Good luck!

Answer 4

I am sorry to hear that. Is there a possible way you can talk to your parents? Explain to them how you feel but before you talk to them make sure you are calm and collective so they do not think that you are being irrational or mean or otherwise. Tell your parents that they are the only people who can help you. I hope this will help you but for the meanwhile if you have an MP3 or an Ipod with earphones to deter the noise she is making.

Answer 5

first things first u need to take a break, my bros autistic so i know exactly how u feel. so im going to lead you through the steps i take
a. leave the room
b. if that doesnt work, leave the house go to a freinds, go shopping w.e
c. talk with ur parents about the problem after you have cooled down
d. if that doesnt work when ever u get angry leave the room and call a freind,

feel free to email me if u need more help

Answer 6

Jojo, you have to realize that other people have no, zero, zilch, control over you. You only get angry because you give them that power. Just smile and know anything that bratty little snot does has no effect on you. It doesn't at all if you don't let it. And also realize how much you would miss the little Cretan if something ever happened to her.

Answer 7

scream into a pillow

lol actually i had the same problem as u, but try to get out of the house as much as possible. get out with friends....join an activity, then you'll be away from this 'brat' as much as u can then you won't feel so angry. good luck!

Answer 8

Physical activity..run, punch a punching bag, swim etc.

At the very moment, walk away, take a deep breath and take your frustrations out on a someithing like a pillow.

Answer 9

Swami Sukhabodhananda
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One youngster comes to me very depressed and asks this question "Why is God creating so many difficulties for us? How to handle stress?" I tell this youngster to reflect on this beautiful story:

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 10

Deal with it, at least you have a home. There are probably a million kids out there that would change places with you in a heart beat.