My young son had become good friends with a next door neighbor child. However, this child was verbally "abusive" on many occasions to him (& others). he's left their house in tears after being shouted at to leave by this child, among other mean words. This child's parents removed the child from preschool because of excessive anxiety & from an extra curricular activity for pretty much the same reason. My son was part of both of these & became very confused by these events & the verbal meaness. I reached my boiling point in response to a "neutral" email the parent sent me. I said I could no longer accept the way he was being spoken to and was tired of explaining the several "situations"/words to him. I also (tactfully) did not believe removing the child from school and other stuff was so great. I've tried many times to patch things up by cards/email. She's not acknowled any of my attempts and has instructed her kids not to wave to my young sons.Our kids will be in school together! HELP!
2007-01-06 16:37:43 · 7 answers · asked by imoffmynut 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Well, first if you let your child associate with the other right now, hes just learning bad habits and to be a enabler at very young age. sounds like there may be some (possibly) abuse going on or something very traumatic to the family. Stay away. It is easier than you think. And for the school...its a big school with many other children to make friend with. I am not saying he does not need to know who to deal with people like that, but there is a line which has been crossed, and a time to say enough and that is now. He knows, Hes hurt, and confused. Let him know it has NOTHING to do with him. He really needs to know that over and over. Hope it gets better
2007-01-06 16:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by cateyes 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately I don't see a way to deal with this besides avoiding the whole family. The problems of that family will taint any relationship that you try to have with them. Best to explain to your son as best you can that the family does not behave in a manner that you feel is an appropriate example and that you don't want him to spend time with them.
As the issues are likely causing him stress too, this may actually relieve him of the responsiblty of trying to figure out how to deal with this kid himself, which would be impossible anyway given his age.
Just my opinion...
2007-01-07 00:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think its best that both children stay away from one another. When your treated badly at a young age it can affect your child all through life, and can damage confidence, maybe even in a way which wont be visible to you. I dont think it is wise to judge the mum too harshly, she is probably just protective- and probably knows what is best for her own child.
2007-01-07 00:45:49 · answer #3 · answered by imarobotwah! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey its probably better if you and your family stay away from them. Why do you want your kid being friendly with them if their child is being verbally abusive to your son i wouldn't bother trying to patch things up they would only have a bad influence on your kid.
2007-01-07 01:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by nobody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your child not to play with him anymore, and to avoid him if at all possible. Just keep it quiet.
2007-01-07 00:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by littlechrismary 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully there are other neighbors that aren't dysfunctional like that and you can arrange play-dates with them.
2007-01-07 00:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds very childish...i blame the parenting
2007-01-07 00:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by free-spirit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋