Can Some 1 help a shy guy?

Question

I feel like my shyness is making me waste my high school year. Im as wild and outgoing as i can be around people i know but i never engage new people and i feel this is hurting my changes at getting a girlfriend now that all my friends have them. Its odd like i said earlier im a perfectly normal kid when i am with friends but if i walking alone or something i just clam up which really stinks since most of my friends arent in my classes and dont have the same lunch i do. And we had a school merger so there are twice the kids in my grade now and i havent even spoke a word to almost all of them and prob looked like a loner to them.

any tips any 1 know am i just shy is it a disorder, low self-confidence anything will help

Answer 1

I'm pretty much the same way you are and no it's not a disease or anything bad.. it's just a personality. You have people that are very outgoing and then you have shy people like you and me... it's all part of life. My best advise would be try to put your shyness aside..I know its easier said than done but once you do it you will feel so much better. Once you start talking to people outside of your circler and realize that they are just like you it will allow you to be more open. So take ricks and feel confident about yourself. Once you start doing this it will become easier for you to talk to strabgers and to feel comfortable around them!!! :D

Answer 2

okay,
I'm a highschooler myself. And in a way, I'm just like you. I'm a junior now, but when i got to the highschool i came from one of the smaller schools, so i didn't know that many people. It sounds like you're a pretty nice guy. So you know what? Get involved. I know, I know, everybody says it. but seriously, you may not become friends with everybody, but you will become friends with more people and soon you'll have even more companions! Now, since you get quiet around people you don't know, maybe have a friend join you in whatever you decide to do. Or , (as pansy-ish as it sounds) join the drama club? Or an upcoming performance? Acting makes you become close with other people. You have to talk to them, interact with them, have fun with them, and they have to do the same with you. Trust me, it's a good method. (It's how i met my boyfriend, we were told to read auditioning lines together and well...). It doesn't sound like you have a low-self confidence issue, Unless you're sad or upset about something and didn't mention it. So maybe you are just shy, but it's not a bad thing at all!
Best of luck!

Answer 3

I was like that too. I'm a sophomore and i found a way to beat that shyness. My remedy can only work if you are in 9th or 10th. Start out trying to feel confident about your opinions. Say what you want as long as its appropriate. Then work on talking to others. First if they ask you something that isn't rhetorical or to make you feel bad, start to talk to them. Group work is awesome too. If you are assigned partners or groups. start out talking about work and get into a conversation. This year i got lucky and I'm in a group full of girls. If you have too pick your own, finds the one person who has no partner and say, "If you have no partners, ill be your partner. Groups is harder to do that with so good luck. Now start to get a liitle with girls. try to ask for something and complement them. Be polite. If a girl comes up to you to ask you a question, answer and maybe smile and politely answer. Last thing is to try to stay out of others conversations and start making them. I have been through this proses i came up with and now I'm not "Popular" but I'm not a loner. I am a little shy inside but i can get through. Just don't stare at people, it creeps them out.

Answer 4

You know I don't know how to fix it, but I wish I did, because I'm the same way, but I'm a girl. Maybe it low self-confidence. Maybe you are just happily the way you are without having many friends, but then again why would you post this....... Anyway, try to start a conversation with someone new, just to challenge yourself and at the end of the day, you know you've accomplished something and made a new friend or g/f.

Answer 5

You would be surprised at how many people feel the same way as you do. Alot of people are "on-guard" when they are faced with unknown conditions (people).
You probably feel "safe" when you are talking and laughing with your regular friends. Start out by trying some small talk with someone (when you are alone) you are interested in getting to know and then vow to yourself to talk to at least two new people once a week. Then step it up, etc.
Good luck and remember, many other's are bit shy too.

Answer 6

I know about shyness, i used to be really shy. But, just break that barrier! Go and talk to people that sit around your desk. Don't be afraid to talk to a girl either. We like it, well, my friends and I like it when guys come up to talk to us. If they don't like you, or just ignore you, their loss! Just go and talk to someone (preferably a girl if you're looking for a girlfriend) and who knows? They may just end up being your best friend, or something more.

Answer 7

well... it's kind of hard not to get over ur shyness. it's kind of like it's hard to get rid of sweets it takes a while, uinstead of eating 1 or two less every day, you say1,2,3,4,5 and finally start a conversation with people that's how u make friends and if you're comfortable with girls and you make them laugh maybe one will like u and give u her number. i'm a girl and tthat's how my boyfriend got me. best of luck

Answer 8

Dude, im EXACTLY LIKE U. Try drinkin pop to get high.

Answer 9

maybe you don't really want a bunch of friends, if you did, you would act differently. if you wanted a g/f , you would have one. you are getting exactly what you really want. accept it.