I'm 21, and whenever a guy asks how many "partners" I've had, it always makes me uncomfortable. I always like to be honest, but I don't like telling the truth some times because I think I might scare them off. I just want to know what you people think (especially guys), about what is "too much"/"too many partners" ...maximum or minimum....
2007-01-06 16:21:48 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you scare them off, just by being honest, then they weren't worth it in the first place. Your number isn't really anything, unless you are embarassed.
You are who you are, and what you have done. Don't really worry about it, hon.
2007-01-06 16:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by Ammie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so hard to answer. I've known people at 21 that had 30 partners and others that have had maybe 1 or 2. It sounds like you want to be able to say a smaller number than you've probably actually had which is really ok. I don't think anyone is really honest about their magic number. And I don't really think there is a right answer here. Some people have strong desires that make them want a lot of different partners. Who cares. Some people don't and they have less partners. Trust me when I say that if you ask a guy this they will NEVER give you an honest answer. You can pretty much add at least 10 more to what ever answer they give you. Keep that in mind when you give your answer! :0)
2007-01-06 16:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here's my take on this:
Unless the guy is your fiance, tell him it's none of his business. If he has a problem with that, you won't want to marry the guy anyway.
There is no such thing as "too many partners" for either a man or a woman. Some people apparently have the notion that women will be "worn out" if they've had a lot of partners, or somehow be "dirtied," both of which are complete nonsense. Other guys apparently worry that if a girl has had multiple partners, she "knows too much" about sex, and that they won't measure up. Either way -- those problems are with the GUY, not with the girl.
My own feeling on this? I don't care and don't want to know. If she wants to tell me I'll listen, but it won't change anything whether the number is 1 or 20. The only thing I care about, if I'm in love with a girl, is that I'll be the last "partner." Other than that, it doesn't matter.
Peace.
2007-01-06 16:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your being safe, then i would say too many would be more then the number of living beings on the planet that you can can possibly be intimate with... be they men, women, or other species you happen to find exciting.... as for what ya tell the insecure little man that would ask such a question, make something up... dating an insecure man is an exercise in ego stroking... if hes a secure in his own prowess/sexuality etc, then such a question would most likely only be asked as a bit of sexy fun, and you should use the more bizarre stories from your adventures as foreplay....its just life, have fun with it.... and remember, everybody alive is slowly dieing, but very few are actually living :)
2007-01-06 16:30:52 · answer #4 · answered by Binder Dundat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I rarely answer that question when someone asks because everyone thinks differently. What's a lot to some might be nothing to someone else. I always just say that I know how many people I've slept with, but I never divulge the exact number....unless I've been with them for a long time.
2007-01-06 16:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by sarahjaniepoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 is a good round answer for most guys. They figure 3 at the beginning of your sexaul awakening and that 2 semi serious ones as you mature. I would say add one more number every year after 21. So at 22 say 6
I would say no more than triple that number and that would have to be a wild and exploring male asking the question but a down to earth working man quiet most the time I would say 5
2007-01-06 16:27:06 · answer #6 · answered by G L 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
at age of 21, it really depends on how long you've been sexually active, but at your age i believe the average is about 7 to 9 people. give or take a few. i have a friend who is 18 and her number is 11!! shes been sexually active since she was 13, so it really depends on the years. personally im 18 and only been with one and if i had more then i would feel a lil sluttish. but ive only been active for 2 years. it really depends on the years you've been active. if u feel ashamed try to keep the number where its at instead of increasing!!!
2007-01-06 16:26:24 · answer #7 · answered by bacardi b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To a guy, you always say 3, tops. In your life. That way they think you're pure enough, yet not a total virgin. Sounds possible, and reassuring.
But you do what you want. Like they do. At all times.
Even the most liberal, deep down, would run a mile if you said 35.
2007-01-06 16:24:47 · answer #8 · answered by sandwich 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well they shouldn't be asking as a casual question.once involved then by all means be honest.people today start in relations much sooner but if your21 and its ore than 5 take a step back and figure out what made you decide to be involved in that way at an early age
2007-01-06 16:27:09 · answer #9 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how many. But never, ever, ever tell a guy how many "partners" you have. Just don't even go there (they can't handle the truth)! Tell him he's your one and only and never back down on that answer.
2007-01-06 16:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by mJc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋