How do I leave this spiral?

Question

How do I leave this spiral? I know it's unhealthy, and I know it's wrong, but I don't know how to make it stop.

I seem to be successful in many things. I've been with several dozen girls already, for what that's worth. But with attractive girls, even 7/10 and 8/10 girls, I stumble into the same damn thing. In casual conversations, looks, etc, just in casual interactions, they are not interested. They aren't receptive to what I say. I don't even flirt, just talk - still. And girls passing on the street -- I know I'm attractive, and I know I'm more interesting than the damn laundry sign and a parked truck.

But interactions with them seem to be these guarded skirmish w/ an enemy more than a possible exciting new beginning. If we date, girls fall in love. But casually, they turn away.

I want to relate to them normally, I'm tired of it being this warzone. How do I make it stop?

Okay, those are not f.cking useful answers there, people.

Answer 1

Can you be a little more specific? I mean, are you actually stopping girls in the street to chat "casually?" I'm not real clear in what context you mean "casual." You know, sometimes trying to talk people up when we are all "out and about" isn't a good idea - people are busy, they are trying to get places,they may be distracted.

However, what you CAN do is put yourself in positions in which you have something to chat about because of where the two of you are situated - for example, if you went to a classical music concert (always my favorite!), and you happened to be seated next to a cute girl, you could chat with her at intermission about the music. Ask her if she wants to join you in the lobby for a drink or a snack.

If you are working on a political campaign, you are automatically thrown into a situation with other like-minded people, so right there you've got something in common to talk about.

This "tactic" works with any number of situations and group dynamics - you just have to find something that is a fit for your personality, likes, and interests.

Good luck! I don't know if this was helpful, since your question wasn't very clear to me. Sorry.

Answer 2

If you want pu*ssy, you've got to play the game. Otherwise, you can start hiring prostitutes. They are very upfront, with no pretense. They know what you want, and they know what they want. End of story.

Answer 3

What is your question???????? dude chill out you think when you talk to girls it`s war??? wth just casually talk to them it`s their loss if they don`t find you interesting

Answer 4

Walk away.