Back when I was 13 years old, my step-dad who absolutly hated me, that accually isn't my step-dad anymore because my mom and him got divorced, told my mom to make choice between her keeping him as a husband or me, her first child. Ofcoarse, my mom chose him and I was kicked out and moved in with my grandma. Now, after they got divorced, my mom see's the situation in a new light and wants me to move back in with her. I told her that she had the choice of who she wanted and it wasn't me. Was that the right thing to say? Should I go back?
2007-01-06 16:15:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What does your grandma think? It does not sound like you are ready to forgive your mother.
2007-01-06 16:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by omi g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should start working of forgiving your mom for what she done. You don't have to move back in with her, but do try to form a good relationship between the two of you. I understand how hurt you must have been when she did that to you. I personally do not see how a mother or father could choose a man or woman over their own children. But, we all make mistakes in our lives. We also live to regret those mistakes. I do wish you the best of luck in whatever your decision is.
2007-01-07 01:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful here...... If she hurt you that bad once, whats to say she would not do it again. I think (and i am a divorced mother of three) what she did is horrible. So NOW she sees what she did was wrong? come on here! How you must have felt. Can you actually go back and not harbor bad feelings that is going to make the tension in that house unbearable? As parents we are supose to love and protect. It is suppose to come natural. Is she a drinker? I see a bigger problem here. good luck
2007-01-07 00:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't go back with her. There is no point (and you can tell her all this), since you will only be hurt again.....Past behavior is a good predictor of future behavior, this is a basic behavioral principle, meaning your mother will just hurt you again the way she did before. As a mother, you should have been the #1 priority in her life, no matter what. Like you said, she picked a man over her own daughter....If you love your grandma, and you are happy being with her, I suggest that you stay with her.
2007-01-07 00:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...you should NOT move back. She may meet another guy who gives her the same ultimatum and she will choose him over you again! It sounds like you have a forgiving nature...and that's good. But don't set yourself up for another fall. ANY parent who chooses a spouse over their own child is not thinking clearly. He had no trace of class to even give her an ultimatum like that...so stay where you are, but continue to build a relationship with your mom. Maybe she learned from her mistake
2007-01-07 00:22:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If im reading it right it sounds like she doesn't want you. If your doing ok at your grandmas stay there, and how old are you now? If your mom choose a man over you then doesn't that sound weird. And she married a man that made her choose between him and her own daughter? Sounds a little wack, sorry.
2007-01-07 00:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand that you're hesitating because your mom choose a man instead her own child but maybe back then she didn't see him on his truth and she was blinded but love so may be you should give her a chance and see if she does regret or not anyway it's up to you you know what's best for you
2007-01-07 10:50:11 · answer #7 · answered by supernolwen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omfg. i cant belive your mom choose that dumb as_s guy who hated you over you. i would never forgive my mom if she ever did this to me unless she was begging me to come back home.
my opinion i think it was the right thing to say. but ask yourself do you really want to move back in? its all up to you.
2007-01-07 00:20:06 · answer #8 · answered by dragonflyxfairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"wasn't me"
I say dont.... if ur ok with the ones u live right now.... forget ur mom... she had a chance and she blew it....because shes alone
2007-01-07 00:28:31 · answer #9 · answered by icedxtear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you want to do. no one knows but you.good luck and god bless.
2007-01-07 00:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by janelle p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋