I used to think that meant i was doing good as a parent when she made me gifts and pictures and said she loves me. Then i realized that even kids in abusive situations love their parents and feel loyalty to them and compliment them... Then suddenly I didn't take it as a 'you are doing good' as kids say this to any parent...
Am I wrong in this
2007-01-06 16:15:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
yes and no. i got beat by my mom all the time and i only said i love you to her when she hadn't done it to me in a while. i still despice her. i told here i hated her all the time too. it has been 7 yrs since she laid a hand on me and i still can't find it in my heart to forgive her. i talk to her now. i didn't for about 4 or 5 yrs once i got out. but anyway.....kids say i love you all the time until they understand what it means then they say it when they mean it. if she is old enough to understand what it means then she is saying because she does. kids normally say that they hate you when they don't like what you are doing as a parent (or when they get grounded lol) i don't think you would be getting gifts if she didn't love you. sorry this was so long
2007-01-06 16:26:26 · answer #1 · answered by Lauren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how much there is between a mother and their child.. there will always be love somewhere in their heart. I know becaues that's how i am too. I hate my mom to hell, but i really really realllllllly love my mom too. It's just mood swings. you have to not be a parent to your child. You have to be a child youself to get along with your kid. Just drawing cards and giving gifts isn't the way to tell that ur child still loves you or not. It's between the two hearts. Talk to her, spend time with her alone, go out and have fun, kiss her good night... keep her warm.. help her with her homework.. make her feel special, and the child will be happy. That's what every child wants.. i know because my mom doesn't have enough time for me.... and i know... i dont want you to make the same mistakes my mom did.
2007-01-07 00:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends. Do you abuse your kid? If I assume you do not, then your kid means it. How old is your kid? What does "love" mean to you? How do you define doing well as a parent?
Parenting is a difficult task. Some kids "love" their parents when they get what they want and say hurtful things when they don't. I have met kids who love their parents unconditionally too. As for abuse- how do you define abuse? There is a fuzzy line between disciplining and abuse.
2007-01-07 00:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by bz_sage_sedotes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids in abusive situations can be very loving and they want the love returned to them. I never looked at my kids making me things meant they loved me. I thought of them being proud of what they could do and it was usually something to give to some one, why not mom, she is with me most of the time.. They showed their love with kisses and hugs and minding me without me having to yell at them.
2007-01-07 00:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by ruth4526 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with the way my family was when i was growing up, my husband doesnt understand how i can need the support of my family, i understand where you are coming from on the abuse side of this. a childs love is innocent, they will always love you. every parent second guess the way that they raise their children.
2007-01-07 01:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by cassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not wrong. Pat yourself on the shoulder it is wonderful when a child expreses itself the only way she can. She loves you and wants you to acknowledge that.
Specially if by chance she has been in contact with any child that is neglected and does not have parents. They tend to copy as if wishing that their life was different.
2007-01-07 00:23:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a little paranoid. The thing is that kids usually love their parents no matter what. if you don't abuse your child then why are you worried about it?
2007-01-07 00:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by LiL' Momma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you the same person whose question i answered not so long ago asking similar things? go to the doctor and get treated for depression please this is getting old really either your a good or bad parent..either you do the best you can or you just dont care period which kind of parent are you?
2007-01-07 00:26:20 · answer #8 · answered by ELIZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even abused children love their parents so your child really does love you
2007-01-07 00:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by 35 weeks and in labor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey nobody is perfect parents. Our children love us anyway. As long as we keep them fed, clothed, and show them love then thats all they can ask for. Just as long as you do your best, your child will love you. Dont swet it.
2007-01-07 00:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋