we got along wonderfully in every other aspect, but i just couldn't get excited about sex w/ him...doesn't that more or less make us just good friends? i think good sex, fun sex, looking forward to & wanting sex in a relationship is really important! what do you think?
2007-01-06 16:13:57 · 31 answers · asked by how empty of me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sex is to millions of people the center of the universe. It is a good gauge in assessing how one feels for each other. Although there are some whose sex drive are perhaps anemic at best, for most people sex is an indispensable barometer of relationships.
In my book you are not selfish. You are loving and giving. A healthy regard for sex is a good thing...don't change; our world is that much poorer if you do.
2007-01-06 16:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by McDreamy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sex is really important, but you seem to really like this guy. Maybe you should try to make it more exciting. Just to see if it can work out. If it doesn't, then it seems like a good reason to break up. Sex is a huge part of relationships. But before you make any decisions, make sure it's what you really want to do.
2007-01-07 00:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are being selfish. First, you need to find out what is it about having sex with him that you don't like. Good sex, fun sex, and wanting sex is great, but sometimes guys get a little clumsy during sex. sometimes you have to guide them... tell him what you want and how you want it. Tell him what you want him to do. You didn't say how old you are, but, I would suggest that you guys talk about your desire for sex. Some girls are just a little more sexually demanding that others. You obviously like it, and if your relationship with him is wonderful, then open up and let him know.
2007-01-07 00:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by David L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. What matters is if you can see yourself 10 years from now without them in your life. I have had some of the best lovers and some that arn't so hot. I married the one that I can't see myself without. He's not the best but he's not the worst. And sex is over rated thetrue mesure of pleasure between the sheets is when you make love.
2007-01-07 00:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is important in a relationship but it's not the main thing..however, if you can't get excited about sex with him, then you may not have been truly in love. Being in love means wanting to share everything with someone, and sex is one of those things. You did the right thing.
2007-01-07 00:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by yzma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is important, but it is not the most important. True love grows, It is more honorable to be honest than to lead someone on when you just don't have feelings for them. That is very unselfish. Put yous elf in the other 's place. Would you really want someone to be with you because you are friends, how much they do for you or now nice? nope ! I agree you done the right thing. You didn't use a human being. That makes you specal God bless you
2007-01-07 00:19:35 · answer #6 · answered by tennessee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes in life you have to be selfish to make yourself happy. Sex is an important part of an intimate relationship, and if the chemistry isnt there, it just isnt, you cant force it. To continue this relationship this way would be unfair to you both. And hurtful to him, because eventually you wont be able to take it any more and will find someone else to be with sexually, who satisfies you.
2007-01-07 00:20:38 · answer #7 · answered by giggles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want it and he can't provide what you need then you have to find someone that satifies your needs. If you don't leave then eventually you will cheat or leave him after waisting your time already knowing that he is not what you need. It is very important to enjoy sex together and no you are not being selfish. You will be happy not to hurt his feelings some other way later on.
2007-01-07 00:20:24 · answer #8 · answered by VC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,sex & all the little things included are very important ,but its not everything.Sometimes that takes a while to develope but if you love them deeply the sexual part of the relationship will b good .Be aware its not the whole relationship.If it is u will have problems down th road.Its like icing on a cake,nobody wants dry cake.When you have your mind on chocolate chip cookies ,cake is'nt gonna satisfy you...........
2007-01-07 01:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not being selfish. It was smart to break it off, because you discovered that the spark obviously wasn't there. If you can't enjoy sex with him now, imagine if you kept in the relationship. Down the road, you wouldn't find that pleasure in being with him. So I think you were wise for breaking it off.
2007-01-07 00:17:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋