My boyfriends mom and sister called my mom and told her a bunch of lies like I brainwash him against them (NOT TRUE) and a whole bunch of other lies. I have tried to be "the better person" and not said anything to them(my dad said that would be the right thing to do) but I am seriously RAGING about it. I seriously want to go off an both of them.......Any suggestions?
2007-01-06 16:09:11 · 8 answers · asked by queenbeckroe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They sound like nasty ( $%^&*'s)..If I were you I would guage the situation and perhaps ask the question "can'y we just get along?)..but by the soud of things your bfreind has some issues with family that he needs to work out..it should be up to him to help you clear this up...
2007-01-06 16:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smoothie, aka Mr. SmartAss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about your parents thinking anything ba about you, just by getting that phone call it showed how immature they are to have done such a thing, I'm sorry you hav to go through this. The thing about female relatives and their sons/brother/nephews etc. is that they tend to try and raise them into thinking that without their approval that they are right, and that anyone else is an outsider. This comes out mainly though when they hear about the couple being engaged and stuff like that, they dont like it to put it simple. Do not under any circumstances say anything negative directly to his mom or sister, as it will make you look like the "bad guy" which you are not, I have been in a situation such as this, believe me it gets nowhere, and he has to be the one to defend you and tell them that unless they stop rejecting you that he will take it as they are rejecting him because he loves you an respects you. What does your bf say about it? It seems as if it is a control issue he needs to say to his mom AND sister that if they are having a problem letting go that they seriously need to keep that to themselves as it is THEIR problem, and not yours or his, and that they shouldn't make it ya'lls, the best thing to do is stand together in this drama and show nothing will stop you both. Good Luck
2007-01-07 01:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by Summer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is right. Be the better person and don't get down to their level. You are the better person and you know it. They are just a bunch of liars and they know it, therefor there is not need for you to defend yourself.
2007-01-07 00:13:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has your back then don't worry about it. If your parents have your back then when the b/f family call them they should hang up and not give them the time of day. Continue to be the better person and forget them.
2007-01-07 00:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by Clara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(Been there done that.)Dad's right, don't stoop but, at the same time you don't want to be a doormat either.If you two are serious about each other then I say you need to talk with your boyfriend about how this makes you feel and then he should explain to HIS family how rude and innapropriate their behavior was. I think that they should apologize to you. Best wishes
2007-01-07 00:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by Jessie Pearl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before i was married i had a problem with his family telling me to stay away and i would never be with him ,, well i ignored them and still have too sometimes and its 8 years later so my suggestion is to learn to live with the small parts of it but if it gets hurtful then by all means stand up for yourself.
2007-01-07 00:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by t_ibrahim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, just let them be ridiculous, they aren't happy with their son and you and are trying hard for you to break up, the only thing they are doing is bringing you two closer together, be the better person and ignore them. slowly drift from going to his house...don't go down to their level. certainly don't play into their hands. they sound malicious
2007-01-07 00:20:12 · answer #7 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go off on them. I would.. no one messed with me.. they just dont likeu.. there whores. You should make their life a LIVING HE!!
2007-01-07 00:12:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋