My son mouthed off to his father, and my husband (his father) locked him in the closet as a punishment. Is that a good punishment or should I add something too it?
2007-01-06 15:48:39 · 31 answers · asked by Umm Me 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
he's 17,,,,,,,,,,
2007-01-06 15:50:10 · update #1
Everyone says this is child abuse but what's the difference between this and the almighty "time out?"
2007-01-06 18:53:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
a 17 year old will not be terrorized by being locked in a closet, I know at 17 if I were locked in a closet I wouldnt think much of it - I think the best punishment for something like that is get him to do a whole bunch of chores around the house for a week - maybe after a hard day of work, he will appreciate what his father does for his family to bring a meal on the table...
2007-01-06 16:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by tungi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not good. Obviously this child was never disciplined as a child and now you're having to resort to "punishments" to compensate, and the "punishments" show a clear lack of intelligence as far as parenting goes in my book. Anytime a parent resorts to physical punishment it means they are frustrated and lack the intelligence to deal with a problem head on. So what is locking a child in a closet going to accomplish? Except have the child believe their parent is a bully and a total lack of respect and quite possible resentment on the part of the child. Or was THAT the ultimate goal of the father in the first place? Children don't respect parents who use physical punishment...they might FEAR them but not respect them. How can you respect someone who shows no intelligence?
2007-01-06 15:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 17, that is a stupid punishment. A more appropriate punishment would be to take his car privileges away for a time or give him a lot of chores around the house that are actually hard, physical work - such as scrubbing the sides of the trailer you obviously live in.
2007-01-07 03:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No locking a kid in a closet is not a good punishment thats like child abuse no wait that is child abuse. Maybe you should talk to your husband about the law. Agood punishment would be to put him in the corner or take away a privledge. Those are good punishments.
2007-01-06 15:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by Dominicana#1!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Very bad idea; putting a kid of ANY age in a closet as punishment is something that the father will pay for, one way or another, in time. If son is of any size at all, I wouldn't be surprised if he simply kicked through the door sooner or later, and came after daddy.
VERY bad idea.
2007-01-06 15:53:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your family needs to go for professional help, especially your husband. I would suggest the next time he is in an amicable mood, tell him what he is doing is child abuse and if it happens again YOU will call the law on him. Your husband is the kind of father his father was...your telling him its wrong and he is facing the law if he does it again , might be just an incentive he needs to stop it. Anger management for the dad would be elpfull, also a 17 year old not agreeing with his father is not disrespect necessarily. A 17 year old has a mind of his own, in a year he can legally make his decisions...and obviously his fathers decisions are not ones he want to live with or by.
2016-03-29 00:29:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
terrible. Should put him in a corner of a room which has no TV or toys, etc. for minutes depending on age of the child. Tell him why he is being placed there. in a regular voice. When the time is over tell him again why he was punished and ask him to say 'I;m sorry". If he leaves the corner before time is up he has to start all over again until it gets done.
2007-01-06 15:53:05 · answer #8 · answered by winkcat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? Add something to it? I would never dream of doing such a thing to my kids. That's definately abuse. I have learned from my experiences from when I was a kid and from when my husband was a kid (we met at age 13 and when he was 15) that the more you do things like that (hit your kids, threaten them, say harsh word, LOCK THEM IN A CLOSET) it just pushes them farther away and they won't want to respect you. That's a little different though with me because I had reached a level of maturity when my parents started cussing at me and such. Otherwise they were good parents. Just try to sit down and talk to your husband about if that is really the way to get through to your child. You have to think about that your son is probably sitting in the closet thinking wow this is crazy... I can't wait to make them mad. Especially seeing as how he is 17. Try, instead of abuse, having a talk with him and warning him by saying that if he does whatever it is he did again that he will be grounded or you will take something from him such as a phone, a TV, or something else. I know that worked with me when I was younger.
2007-01-06 18:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
This could scar the kid for life! What in the world was your husband thinking.....
Proper punishment; grounding or taking things away. Locking a child in a closet is CHILD ABUSE.
2007-01-06 15:52:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there are more productive means of punishment out there. In other words, I wouldn't consider it a good punishment no matter the severity of the action. I hope this isn't a serious question.
2007-01-06 15:51:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋