I'm older than her (i'm 26). My husband and I had been talking about having kids, but now that she's told us she's pregnant i feel like we should wait because i'd be stealing her thunder to get pregnant too. should i wait because of her?
2007-01-06 15:47:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Skin Conditions
The reason you're asking this is because you know the answer already. You know waiting is good for her and - for you too it's just you don't see the good for you yet.
You know that you're thoughtful, the thing with being thoughtful is having to do that all the way and without expectation from anyone. If you can, do so.
2007-01-06 16:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by Cappuccino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would try really hard not to base my decision on anyone else. besides, it wouldn't really be stealing her thunder, she may very well be ready to share the thunder what would be more exciting than having your baby's cousin so close toyour baby in age? If you are ready to get pregnant now, and were already thinking to do it , then do it. if you aren't quite ready, then wait, but let your sister's prgancy have no bearing on it. My family has 14 grnadkids to my mom and dad 13 of them are btween the ages of 3 and 9. Three different sets are born in the same year, none are twins. one set has four in one year. none of us planned it, and none of us were offended. none of us gave any of it another thought. in fact the last two born were only 3 days apart. it just so happened that we were all at the oint in our lives to have babies. it is great all of our kids have scousins there own age to paly with with the exception of one who is at least four years older than any of the others. i say go for it. it is what you want and your sister will be as happy for you as you are for her, and if you don't then you will probably resent her for having her baby and not allowing you to have yours which is absurd, but it is how it will turn out hope this helps
2007-01-06 23:56:05 · answer #2 · answered by Honey pot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a thoughtful sister you are.
Once the initial hub bub of your sis being pregnant dies down I see no reason why you and your hubby shouldn't try. Think about this.....Your sister would have someone to share /compare pregnancies with. I remember when my girlfriends and I were all pg at the same time, We felt like we were in our own little club and shared stories,compared pregnancies, feelings, good moments and bad with each other.
I bet your sister wouldn't mind a bit !
2007-01-06 23:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by That_ blue_ eyed_ Irish_ lass 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know. personally i think you should ask your sister cause its really hard to tell if she would care or not... all i know is if that you and your husband have been talking about getting pregnant for a while, then you have every right to do so. Let me put it into perspective, put yourself in a whole new situation... if you were the one pregnant and she wasn't, would she really care, or would she try to steal your thunder..........
2007-01-06 23:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by Tim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be neat to be pregnant at the same time as your sister. Maybe talk to her and ask how she would feel if you guys were pregnant together and go from there. You only have one life why put yours on hold to fit in someone else's schedule. God bless you
2007-01-07 00:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by Marina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really no reason to wait as it may take you a while to get pregnant any way. Also she may be thrilled to know that you will both have kids close in age.
2007-01-06 23:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are close as sisters and close in distance it would be fun to be pregnant together... But if she has any jealousy towards you, you may want to wait about 6 months or so
2007-01-06 23:52:32 · answer #7 · answered by sweetsal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. It's great she's pregnant, but you're older. If you're ready for kids, this shouldn't stop you. If you're really worried about it, talk to her. Ask her how she feels about it. Thats the only way you can really know.
2007-01-06 23:50:58 · answer #8 · answered by beweird22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Why??? It's YOUR choice, your life, - why should your choices be determined by your sisters? If you had 4 sisters & they took "turns" getting pregnant- would you wait your "turn" so you wouldn't step on any of their toes?! Go for it- & happy trying! :)
2007-01-07 00:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean...i would honestly let her have her fun and just wait another month or so. as long as yall's babies arent due at the same time things should be ok, and if you wait a few months the whole "oh my god!" of it will have gone down. good luck!
2007-01-06 23:55:20 · answer #10 · answered by kimberbee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋