Is sex a bad thing for couples who are going to get married?

Answer 1

why would it be bad?

Answer 2

Is it a bad thing? Well...yes.

Couples who have sex before marriage (especially with other people) have a bad tendency to get into skiffs over cheating, or worse (such as unexpected pregnancies), which lead to other problems, which could lead to legal trouble.

Now, I'm not saying this is a certainty, but rather a trend I've noticed. More importantly, if a couple love each other and are engaged, the best thing they can do to show that love is keeping those intimacies in line until the knot is tied, because technically an engaged couple can still break up without too many obstacles.

Answer 3

I think it depends on your beliefs, and the beliefs of your fiancee, whether they're religious beliefs or just personal beliefs. But if neither of you hold strong beliefs about this, go for it. Just be sure to use a condom (even if you're on the pill) - then you don't really have to worry about diseases, despite what some of the people posting will have you think.

From Planned Parenthood: "In a 1987–91 study of couples in which one partner had HIV, all 123 couples who used condoms every time for four years prevented transmission of HIV. In 122 couples who did not use condoms every time, 12 partners became infected."

Make sure you know how to put on a condom properly, though. Pinch the tip while you unroll it, at least a half inch of the tip should be left empty, without any air in it. You can practice on a banana so that you know which way it unrolls, because if the part that should be outside touches his penis, you need to discard it. The Planned Parenthood link has a detailed description of how to use a condom.

Answer 4

It would depend on whether you were religious or not, and also your own moral beliefs and values, not anyone else's.
Personally though, I don't think its a bad thing. I don't have a religion to hold me back from having sex before marriage either. I wouldn't refrain from having sex if I thought the time seemed right, regardless of marriage. I myself have never had sex, and I'm perfectly happy with it. I also have many friends who have never had actual physical sex before, and they're happy. (although probably not to the same extent as me lol)
For some people, they prefer to marry someone who's still a virgin, so it also depends on the other person in the couple.

Answer 5

I would have to say not in my opinion it isnt. Its a matter of personal choice ........if you choose to do so then by all means go for it and if not then that too is alright. The wisdom in sex before marriage is that you have an idea of what to expect for the rest of your life in a physical way from the person you are marrying. Sex with multiple partners (while not completely advocating screwing the entire football team {for the guys ...cheerleaders}) you will have some experience in going to the marriage bed and may have ways to help your partner fullfil your desires or vise versa in an open and communicative way. Think of it this way .........you wouldnt buy a car straight off the lot sight unseen or without being test driven so why not sex before marriage. From discussions I have had from my friends who were celebit before marriage they have not been faithful because they have felt they were missing out on something. Ultimately the choice is yours.

Answer 6

no sex is not a bad thing between a couple when they are married. I would wait until I was married then have sex. You might not even get married and then what?

Answer 7

No. It does not matter when you have sex. It does not matter - before or after marriage. It depends on how in love you are with each other. Sex is a passionate act and if you both feel ready, then go ahead! Make looove.

Answer 8

No!!!! You wouldn't buy a car without test driving it.Why on earth would you commit your life to someone that you don't know if you are compatible with in every way.Sex may not be everything in a relationship but if it is bad it will become a big thing.

Answer 9

I don't think it's bad. I think it's good to know what you're going to be having for the rest of your married life.

Answer 10

this is a hard question ..
if you had all ready had sex i don't see how its bad

but...

if you have not well then just wait

unless you guys have all ready and just want to spice things up and tease each other b4 the big day and then have sex ...i guess it will be fun

Answer 11

Well, if by "a bad thing" you mean is it immoral, of course it is. Any sexual relations outside marriage are immoral and wrong. It was wrong 5,000 years ago and it is wrong today. People with high morals and values do not have sex outside the bonds of marriage. It is that simple.