me & my BFF hav a crush on the same guy. we agreed that we'd b cool wid it and i am, but i dont think she is. every time she passes me a note about the guy she ends up giving wat i rote 2 him. all i do is try 2 stand by da guy often but she sits next 2 him, she giggles 4 no reason, and she twirls her hair a lot. now she hangs out wit dif. ppl and only talks 2 me when she's bored. i'd choose her over the guy any day but it seems as if she's trying 2 get me out of the pic. what should i do?
2007-01-06 15:39:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People change because of their environment, I agree take her out of your life but i know it is not that easy.
Another way to deal with this problem, is to just step her down from your best friend , cause if someone so close can hurt you like that then that is not being a best friend , caring and understanding.
You guys did talk about this problem which is effecting you and still she goes and does what pleases her rather than thinking about you.
So let her do what she wants to do, and that should be a lesson for you not to take her back as a bestfriend, because if again temptations happen she will look out only for herself and forget you. But if you step her down, that means acknowledge her as a far friend, then she wont be able to hurt you again, and you get to move on and find yourself a new bestfriend who cares about you.
This is also good if you are trying to break up with the guy, break up with the person in your heart for what they did to you, but dont really mention anything to them , and slowly as time passes the pain of the break up goes away , because you still kept communicating as you pleased when you felt lonely but at the same time still despised the person, within a few months BOOM, you will say forget it i am moving on and tell them you dont wanna have htem around you.
Watch how she gets crushed when she sees that she has been replaced and that FOR A GUY. Not even a long term boyfriend or husband. So yeah cut the strings now before she does more damage.
2007-01-06 15:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by Hunnypox 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i know what your going threw recently my friend started liking the same guy i did for the 3rd time(she liked the same other guys as me). But it soon got in the way of our friendship with her talking behind my back saying i was trying to make her jealous by hanging out with him more( I 've known him longer!) So now we're not exactly friends. If i were you try to confront her about it. If she doesnt listen or if she does what my friend does may be she isnt a really good friend.
2007-01-06 23:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by I<3Apollo Anton Ohno 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to her. Tell her that you see how much she likes this guy and that you will never act on your crush. Let her have him if she wants him. Tell her how much you miss her company. How important your friendship is. If she's a true friend, she'll apologize for being so distant and if she doesn't, then maybe she isn't the kind of BFF you need in your life.
2007-01-06 23:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ith friends like that you don't need a enemy! She is not your friend. Don't pass any notes you wouldn't read out loud. Be smart don't pass her anymore notes don't talk about him to her just smile and change the subject. don't give her anything to embarrass you with. Don't stand by the guy often. That makes you look a little desperate, but not as bad as your ex friend, She looks stupid! read this book for teens boundaries in dating by john mcloud! Don't swell on this ! I know this is hard, You got class,smarts and heart. And you are a gift in any ones life! Take care and God bless
2007-01-06 23:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by tennessee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to her. I have had that experience once. If she is willing to give up a friendship for a guy, then well, maybe she isn't the best friend. And if your guy is willing to have a relationship with a girl that flirts a lot, then so be it. Talk to your friend first, then, maybe talk to your crush. Be casual, but sincere.
I'm not criticizing because I don't know your guy or your friend.
Good Luck
2007-01-06 23:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by . 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, this girl is not your "best" friend. She isn't even a "friend". Be glad that she's hanging out with a different group. Find yourself another group to hang out with. I am sure your crush sees how annoying she is by passing your notes to him.
Dump that phoney friend!
Focus on building a relationship with your crush. With that backstabber out of the way, he is fair game!
2007-01-06 23:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is trying to hurt your chances definately. think about this though. how good of a friend is she cause think about what she is doing if she was really your friend she wouldn't act like this? if she does this now who knows how she will be about other things if you and this guy happen to date. girls are evil. why we are only God knows why. i say all is fair in love and war and that's what she has turned it into. if you like the guy go for it but don't forget your morals and don't do pety stuff like spread rumors or anything. win him over with your personality. as for her telling him everything you say easy fix, don't talk about him with her keep all comments about him to yourself and him.
2007-01-06 23:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by shorty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not worth it to get into a fight with your bestfriend over a guy! However, it seems like she is starting to use you. Talk to her about how she's been acting lately, and keep your cool.
2007-01-06 23:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by Irene \m/. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me that she doesn't feel the same way about your friendship hell flirt with the guy your self. i know friendship is more important but whats good for one person is good for the other. why would a best friend betray your trust and show him your notes anyway?
2007-01-06 23:46:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like such a great friend if you ask me. I would go your own way. And good luck with the guy.
2007-01-06 23:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by BluLizard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋