help me plz...?

Question

hi , i'm 14, my family hate me (they say it to my face) i dunno what i did and they wont tell me i asked...its been like this for 1 1/2 years...i dunno what to do i feel so many emotions all at once it feels like its crushing the life out of me, i feel so sffocated...i tried to tell someone like people told me to in the last question i asked but nobody seems to believe me...i am still awake at this stupid hour of 4:30am cuz i can't sleep, everytime i close my eyes i see the blood gushing from my vains or my ahem "family" souting at me, my 7yr old sister said she wishes i would go and kill myself...i tried but it didn't work...i promised my m8 i wouldnt cut mself anymore but its so hard, i have scars on my wrist from 6 months ago still and my m8 told me to stp cutting last friday...i feel so icsolated..my doctor says i'm depressed but i only feel like that when i'm at "home" with "them", i can't leave home cuz i have nowhere to go, i ran away but the police bought me back, i want out

hi every1, umm no i don't have any other family and i don't know anyone i really trust..anywayz thanks for your answers but the thing is i called my old social worker and she doesn't believe me, i also pjoned up hildline but got put on hold
...i'm doing really bad at skl cuz of this i can't concentrate i just keep thinking bout htis

i wish i could go to sleep and not have to think, feel, or just yano be... but i'm not that lucky so i might aswell forget about it...

Answer 1

Well... What can i say???
A heavey situation here... But once it resolves... then i can assure you will be fine ... So recovery only takes you afew days.
I think what you should do is to call some people who do family supports...
Call 118118 and ask for family advice... They will give you a number you phone them up some place outside, in some quiet time and explain everything. Makesure you not missing out anything and dont be shy in explianing for them talking to people like you is a job.
They can help you out for FREE and might even be able to get u out for free.
SO go ahead First step is a quiet spot and then a phone call.
Hope you will be OK.
Good Luck!!! Oh yh btw.. Killing your self wouldnt be any good at all so dont even try it.

Answer 2

It is very important that you have the help you need as quickly as possible.

When people say they cut themselves, the general reaction they get is; "dont do that" or "stop that, it's not worth it". The problem is, that sometimes people who self-harm cant help it. When it becomes a physical defense mechanism of coping with an unpleasent situation it gets very dangerous for that person, because it becomes a habit quite quickly. So it's a problem when, people dont take you seriously and think it's all down to attention-seeking. The fact is, it may start as a cry for attention, but if it is ignored it can quickly turn into something much bigger.

It seems that a big problem is, people are'nt taking your cries for help seriously- which is wrong of them. You are being subjected to serious emotional abuse, which could cause a very problematic mental health for you later on in life. After you have sought some help only then can you feel better.

Talk to your GP and ask for a referal to a councilor, who will then be able to help you futher. It may be they try and sort out your family dynamics and help you all, because it is clear they have a major problem subjecting you to all that pain and misery and not even telling you why they think you deserve it.

People must listen to you and start taking you seriously, please, please try not to do that by self-harming yourself as it could cause more major problems for you. Keep going to your doctor and other people who can help you, keep telling them how you feel and how much it is hurting you inside. Keep telling them until they take you seriously and help you!

Good Luck with everything, and rember this--- try and remain positive--- things will get better

Answer 3

honestly honey, concentrate on your education. Show everyone what you are worth. Rebelling against people doesnt always mean doing badly- do really well at school and in your exams, knuckle down hard and throw your self into your school work. Soon you'll be out of there -you can leave at 16, and if you have a good education you can support yourself. Sometimes doing really well shows those waste of space people just how good and sucessful you really are. Think of it as revenge, they are going to go nowhere and do nothing because they are pathetic but you will come through all this. You'll be a better person, you'll earn more money and you'll have everything that they can only dream of. Screw them, dig in, and hone in on that fighting spirit of yours. You are a fighter or you would have given up way before now!

Find a hobby something you like, join a free class, get out of the house alot, visit friends, take up judo or something. You'll soon make friends who value you for who you are.

Good luck to you!

Answer 4

I don't want to say too much, as I am not qualified to give you proper advice. The wrong advice, is no good avice at all.

PLEASE DO, call childline and seek out your doctor, tell him/her about the self harm. Talk to someone at school about recieving help, they are the best people, and childline, to put you in touch with the proffesional help you may need.

I must say, I am very concerned. You seem very unhappy indeed. I understand your parents may be finding you very difficult to deal with, and your little sister is only reacting on the family turbulance. You are, please do not be offended, too young to perhaps understand your distructive actions which probably are less apparent to you than the cutting. I am not concerned about your parents, only you. It seems there is a very feeling, sensitive, kind person screaming to get out of the mess. Your real personality is being lost or misunderstood by your actions. Something has gone very wrong, you have reached an age where you are screming for help, but your parents are not listening, and you are hated because of your actions. You will not get through to your parents yet, they are no more trained than I am, try not to blame them for that. You need outside help to resolve some deep seated issues you may have. You seem to feel trapped, is this because you are finding it difficult to make people understand what is wrong?? You will only find what is fundamentally wrong with the right help, they will help you learn to be heard in a way that is not destructive, and that others can understand. When this happens, you will be able to tackle your parents with whatever it is that is really bothering you. Bottom line, you want your parents help, but cannot get it, because you are too young and unhappy, bless you, to know how to go about it. AGAIN, I say, seek the right help. Your friend has been great, but she is young herself.

My heart goes out to you and your family. I really hope you can make that call to childline, I know it is hard, it is easier to run, but it is very dangerous to do so, in ways you cannot begin to imagine. You will not be running into a better situation, you will be running into more hell than you are already in. Please make the call now, if you cannot, make it later eh? I will stay online for a bit just in case you do call and let us all know how you got on. I have never called childline, I will be interested to know what advice they give you.

Answer 5

I am so sorry to hear this. I never had the emotional abuse that you have but I did try to kill myself once and it is really not the answer. Why don't you speak to a teacher you trust maybe or aunt or uncle. Maybe they will be able to help. Tell your doctor that you are depressed but tell him/her why and ask them for advise. Please don't let this ruin your schooling. When you end up with a well paid job someday, you can turn around and tell them where to go and stick their relationship if they want to patch things up. Oh it make me so angry to know that there are parents out there that treat their children like that. Hope you find a solution mate. ;)

Answer 6

Being 14 is a really hard age without family issues. It sounds like you really need to talk to someone, i.e. friend, another family member, counselor at school, teacher. Don't cut yourself. Causing yourself more pain is not the answer. Talk and get it out before its to late

Answer 7

You do need to stop cutting yourself, It's not going to get you anywhere trust me, I've been there. You will be okay just focus on other things (happy things). Your family has to love you no matter what, they're your family. You may feel like no one cares or no one loves you but they do. You can email me and talk to me if it makes you feel any better. I'm 18 years old but trust me i've been through alot. My family and I dont get along at all but I dont let it stop me. if all else fails ignore them. You've got a boyfriend to live for if nothing else. And God will take your life when he says your ready to go. but until then tuff it all out. do you have myspace? or anything like that where you can make friends and talk to them on there? My email is [e-mail]. Im here if you need a friend
oh, my name is Alicia.
but like I said it's all gonna be okay hun. live for the day and dont let anyone get in your way.

Answer 8

You could try talking to a teacher at school or an adult who you trust, perhaps get a social worker involved,it would def help if you were moved somewhere else as in foster care, i dont know why you're family are behaving like this but you shouldnt have to be subjected to it

Answer 9

Swami Sukhabodhananda
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One youngster comes to me very depressed and asks this question "Why is God creating so many difficulties for us? How to handle stress?" I tell this youngster to reflect on this beautiful story:

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 10

Honey, Imagine yourself dead????. No way God will accept to loose a child so innocent and you. Talk to your self, what wrong did you do, maybe something is annoying your parents, maybe they have problems that they don't mean what they are telling you but you are misunderstanding them. Go to a Doctor, or a cousin, or anyone you know maybe your neighbors, they might help you.

Please keep the dead thing away, because you will loose your life for nothing important. Remember YOU ARE IMPORTANT. and my God light your way.