Awkward position?

Question

I'm kind of in an awkward position. My dad is a senator and he's thinking about running for president, and he's pretty sure he's going to run and he's wanted to for years, but my mom really doesn't want him to and she's trying to get me to talk him out of it. She tryed to talk him out of it but they've been fighting a lot lately. She was ok when he was working in the state, he was a state rep, then state treasurer, then governor, and she was ok with that because he was still at home but they've been fighting more since he became a senator a few years ago because he has to be away from home in Washington a lot and he's not home nearly as much because he's out trying to get money so he can run for president. But she wants me to try to guilt him out of it. I tried telling her that maybe it would be better because if he was president we'd all live together in the white house but she wants to stay here she doesn't want to go to washington. she wants me to try to tell him I'd miss all my friends at school and i really don't want him to do it and i would miss my friends but I also know how important this is to my dad and I don't want to crush his dreams and I think he'd make a really good president i really do. I told her to talk to him about it but she told me she's afraid to say anything else because she doesn't want to screw up their marriage but I can tell she really doesn't want him to run and I feel bad but I don't think I should have to be that involved in this. what should I do?

Answer 1

First of all, you are the child and you should not get involved in your parental disputes...shame on your mom for making you feel that way. Tell her it's between her and your dad.
Second, I followed my husband out of state because of his job because I knew it would better his career, i'm pretty happy.
Finally, who's your dad?

Answer 2

Assuming this question is for real,
Consider your mother's position. First Lady is not an easy post to fill regardless of party affiliation. There is constant press, never-ending functions to attend, interviews to grant. Every word is recorded, every weakness shouted from the rooftops, every stray band-aid analyzed on the nightly news.

You should also consider the history of minors in the White House. If you are even the slightest bit mediocre looking, you will be mocked, sketches will be merciless, jokes will be told by middle school kids at your expense.

Your fathers words will be twisted and misconstrued, his intentions will be maligned, his actions denigrated. This will affect you personally.

Politics is a nasty business. If you are on the up-and-up, it seems like you would have seen some of this already and would agree with your mother. One wonders who, in their right mind, would want to be president? Or the president's family.

Answer 3

That's a pretty big decision and the whole family should have a say. However, I would be honored to have a parent be part of our democratic society, participating in making our lives better. If he feels that strongly about running for President, I think your mother and you should support him in every way you can. It's not an easy life, but it will be a rewarding one. Best of luck from Minnesota.

Answer 4

I think that you should do whatever you feel, without letting your mom influence you. If you think you'd rather be with your friends than see your dad become president, then sure, tell him that. But it sounds like you'd be willing to sacrifice that for your dad, and you shouldn't let your mom push you around. You're right, you shouldn't be so involved in it, she is trying to use you as leverage to try and help her position, and that isn't fair to him. She's trying to set up a divide in the family, the pro-president side and anti-president side, and I think you should tell her to leave you out of it.

If I were you, I wouldn't tell us who your dad is! Your mom doesn't need to look bad in public, anonymously is plenty enough.

Answer 5

Your mother is using you as ammunition in a war that you should not be fighting in. Please tell your mother that you love her and really want to live together as a happy family, and you've been sad that she and your dad have been fighting. It sounds like maybe she is being a little selfish, and certainly she is using you a little bit. Plus, just because he runs for president doesn't mean he'll make it.

Answer 6

1) Its cheap and weak to get you to fight her battles. If she is going to ask you to talk to him, be real, but NEVER EVER lie for one parent to the other. It can screw up your relationships with both of them for the rest of your life.

2) If your mom can't communicate with him their marriage is already over. Its not a matter of it, its a matter of when. Living people grow and change, and for those people to have a living relationship it has to adapt to those growths and changes and in order to do that there must be serious cooperation and serious communication. No communication means no growing living relationship.

3) A very very very reasonable thing for you to do is to have your dad commission a study of the effects on the family of running. Its something that every major president has done for like the last 20 years. If your family cant hold up, he cant get elected. He needs to have a specific clue as to the personalities of your family, how they respond to the stresses of running, and being a presidential family. I suggest that he talks with Dr. William Heywood, a very high end shrink who microsoft and ideo love to use in pre-emptive conflict resolution and specific informed team structuring and team process design. This guy knows his stuff. I can give you his email address. Our college of design at ASU used his company for team design consulting work for our InnovationSpace program. It was great stuff.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

just let things flow. Let your mom do wat she gotta do or say and let your dad follow his dreams. Dont get in the middle of it cuz if you do then you'll be in a big mess trust me. Its not pretty. And plus ya should support him.Let him do what he gotta do and follow his dreams.And ya can support him cuz he can really use the support.And if he runs for president ya can be filthy rich yo trust me. Good luck wit your dad and good luck with your family. HAPPY NEW YEAR!