would a christian girl ever concider sex before they got married even if they know it was true love and they know they would be togeather forever, am asking because am christian and so is my girlfriend and we want to have sex yes it would be protected
2007-01-06 15:13:06 · 28 answers · asked by ding dong 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
According to what I've been taught, sex is saved for marriage so both of you are pure. Having sex before isn't a mortal sin, I think, but it's suggested you wait. What you think now may change later... so if you know you're going to get married, wait. Simple as that. If you don't want to wait, don't. I'm sure God will still love you.
2007-01-06 15:16:18 · answer #1 · answered by Beata 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, there should be NO physical contact between the two of you until the wedding day. If it's real you will wait and it will be worth the wait. The divorce rate these days is around 50% and I believe the biggest reason for that is premarital sex. It's getting off on the wrong foot right from the start. Obedience to God has rewards while disobedience has consequences. If premarital sex is a good idea then why has the divorce rate gone up. If premarital sex were a good thing then the divorce rate should have gone down not up.
2007-01-06 15:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by tas211 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sure, everyone considers it....but haven't u ever heard of 'True Love Waits'? yeah, it's a thing youth do at church to say they'll wait till marriage-i've got the ring on right now. anyway, true love doesn't change the fact that it is a sin, and nothing protects u 100%. if u are really in luv, u can wait, because u know that u have the rest of your lives together. everytime u are making out, make sure to put a bible in between u; that'll keep u from going too far-----basically, u shouldn't have sex, because it's a sin, and u need forgiveness right? so when she asks for forgiveness, for her to truly mean it she won't be able to sleep with u again anyway; besides, a 'good christian girl' as u say wants to actually be able to wear the white dress
2007-01-06 15:23:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jessicat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you know right from wrong and still you choose to do wrong is not something that God takes lightly.
I know from experience that the wait can seem like a life time, but in the end if you give in to the temptation to have sex before you are married you will regret it. You may not have any guilt at the moment, but some day it will hit you.
2007-01-06 15:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by T W 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Fornication is the act of sexual relations outside of marriage. Now as christians we know that fornication is wrong according to Gods' word.
Why not just get married? If your too young then talk to your parents or an elder at your church. If you are of age talk to your pastor about it.
Wait for marriage. The bible tells us to flee from temptation. If you two are constantly sucking face then no wonder you desire more intamacy. Maybe you should make a deal with each other not to be alone together.
Whatever you decide, know this, fornication is a bigtime sin.
2007-01-06 15:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by Jimguyy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hello fellow Christian friend
Im a Christian Guy, i rededicated my life to Christ about 4 1/2 years ago. Prior to this, i have had sex, and have never been married.
Since my re dedication i have chosen to follow the biblical understanding of the importance of sex, when contained within a marriage, and only a marriage.
"Yes, thats, good for you then" you might say.. I say, "Yes it is, thankyou" (-:
Anyhow...
During my past relationships, as above mentioned, i was always 'careful', but the truth is, i was not. I shared my heart with someone else's future wife, that made me an adulterer according to Matthew ch 5
But lets put all the bible talk aside for a minute..
I care for you, and i believe that the only person who deserves one of the most precious gifts you have, (the deepest part of your heart) should not have the right to share that with you, unless he is dedicated enough to you, to marry you FIRST!
I shared my heart in this way, and it only gets torn apart afterwards, as there is no safety guard, or promise to bind the relationship into a truly stable state.
outside of a marriage covenant THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS "PROTECTED" SEX
protected from what?
What can a little bit of rubber do?
Please answer these questions to yourself...
1: can it protect you from all diseases? no it cant!
2:can it protect you from a VERY broken heart??
3:can it protect you from letting someone inside the deepest part of who you are, And keep the relationship safe and healthy?
4: Can it improve a relationship?,,, not necessarily!, often it totally destroys a fantastic relationship.
Is a little bit of stuffing around worth it?
Hey, i am young guy, and there are a lot of cute Christian girls out there, but sex is a powerful thing, In fact Sex is the most powerful relational connector you have, and goes out of control if not stabilized through a one person marital agreement.
and if used in a non-committed (marital relationship) it is like playing with a time bomb girl!
It will Explode if untethered outside of a committed marriage. TRUST ME.
And I guarantee you, its not worth it, not only from a "God perspective", but also you and the state of you own self.
This is not only a personal opinion (from experience), but also Gods opinion, as he cares for you, and wants the best for you, he knows that sex with anyone we are not married to, will only hurt us, and he hates to see us hurt, crippled and damaged.. (spiritually and physically)
Sex is great if, but we like to mess it up, then, guess who gets messed up?... not only ourselves,but our friends and loved ones
God bless you sister, protect what you have, and it will protect you, and increase the quality of your life now, and in the future
Do not be bound by what you don't yet have, good things are Worth the wait.
(-:
2007-01-06 15:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Phil 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Protected sex is only within the confines of a committed marriage. Any other sex is unprotected. (Meaning that God will not endorse it.)
If you are truly Christians, then you would want to obey your Lord and not your passions.
As it is written: "Consequently, brothers, we have an obligation-but it is not to the flesh, to live according to the flesh. For if you live according to the flesh, you are going to die, but if by the Spirit you continually put to death the activities of the body, you will live." (Romans 8:12-13)
And
"So put to death your worldly impulses: sexual sin, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed (which is idolatry). It is because of these things that the wrath of God is coming on those who are disobedient." (Colossians 3:5-6)
And
"For it is God's will that you be sanctified: You must abstain from sexual immorality;" (I Thessalonians 4:3)
2007-01-06 15:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
there are tons of reasons you can find to have premarital sex, BUT there is one very BIG reason to wait. BABIES!!! Protection can only go so far and they aren't 100% for sure.
How long have you been together? How old are you? ARE you planning on eventually getting married?
You really need to think about ALL the pros and cons of this decision.
2007-01-06 15:18:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
True Christians would never have sex before marriage because to do so would be a sin against God and against their own bodies not to mention the fact that it would not show love for others who might be looking up to them for their Christian stand. If you truly love God and eachother, wait until marriage. It will make your marriage stronger and also it will strengthen your relationship with God.
2007-01-06 15:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by Sparkle1 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you have sex you are married and married for live and can't have sex with anyone else so long as one of you lives.
If you have sex and don't marry, you are fornicators and adulterers, the only way to avoid this is never to marry or have sex with anyone else. Then you are still married, but not living together.
2007-01-06 15:16:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋