I am 26 he is 24. I've been dating this guy for about 3 months, and he seems to be really into me and wants to keep it exclusively. He is not the player type.
Xmas time comes around a few wks ago and I went out and bought him a gift, I even told him that I got a gift for him ( a pair of satin pjs and the Superman Returns DVD) I dropped off the gift for him first. On xmas day he shows up w/ just a xmas card for me. He said in the card "Sorry for not getting you anything, you know how busy I am this month w/ work, plus I'd rather get you something you like" He makes really good money and spends a lot on his car, clothes, and video games. So far in the 3 months dating, all he does for me is pay for my dinner. That is all.
I feel that he is very unthoughtful. I like him, yet he cannot bring me happiness. How should I approach it? I want to do something to let him know how i feel before I break it off. At least it will give him a chance to try and change things.
Please advise.
2007-01-06 15:12:04 · 10 answers · asked by Miss Yahoo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you hit the nail on the head when you said, "he cannot bring me happiness." If he can't be bothered to give you a gift for Christmas, AFTER, you gave him a nice gift because he is, too busy-----and this is the beginning of the relationship when he should be doing his very best to treat you well, if he wants to continue seeing you, I would let him go. If it was truly in his heart to ""try to change things," as you said, and make it better, he would have done so by now. Just let him go and move on to someone who isn't as wrapped up in himself---someone who is more thoughtful, caring, and worthy of you. He is showing you his true colors early on----which is a good thing for you. You can get out early on without investing much of your heart and soul.
2007-01-06 15:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your eyes Open. And open wider. That was trickery and deceitful and it only gets worse with marriage. Why are you buying each other expensive presents when you need the $$$ yourselves? If he needed things worth $600, why would he even attempt to by you things he can't afford? At the best it shows very bad judgement on his part. Are you going to be broke all your marriage? Sounds like he's in for a free ride to get your $. It gets worse. Don't let it. That's really the answer you wanted to hear, your gut instinct is telling you. Trust yourself. Sounds like a creep. Stay Away from him before he gets you in debt. What do your parents and friends think of this loser? Find someone new, you can't be all that desperate.
2016-05-23 01:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is unthoughtful and doesn't think of you first. If he loves you that much, he should get something small and then get you a gift that you like. A card means I am a loser and I don't care for you. That was a poor excuse on his part: too busy. He could have shop months in advance if he wanted to. Just break up with him, don't waste your breath on him. He will never change. If you are not happy, walk. By th look of the pic, you are a beautiful women, you will find another guy, a better guy.
2007-01-06 15:20:12 · answer #3 · answered by Paul 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is selfish and not thoughtful by not getting you anything. But he might also really honest when he said that its best to get something you like. If you can wait, see how is it goes within 1-2 months, whether he will get you anything or he cant be bother at all.
If you cant wait, just ask him. Nicely. Tell him that you just feel like he doesnt think about you so much & u r upset about it.
He will say something about this issue.
2007-01-06 15:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look honey if a guy don't make you happy its not worth it. a guy that cares about you would really want to find a great gift and would feel bad that he couldnt buy you the other thing that was bigger and better.
2007-01-06 15:24:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a chance and see if he changes.at only 3 months of dating he may not feel like he can find the right gift or not yet.
2007-01-06 15:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by looking1964 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He thinks you are low maintenance and he has no game or makes no effort to celebrate you. He takes you for granted. He is still living in his selfish stage of life, immaturely. He is not ready for you girl. Say "buh bye!" Tell him you need to be CHERISHED. He can't keep up with you. You can do better.
2007-01-06 15:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sleek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats because we men dont like ladies gifts
2007-01-06 15:14:00 · answer #8 · answered by person or alien 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask him if he's Jewish and when he asks why, say, "Cuz you didn't get me anything for Christmas."
2007-01-06 15:17:29 · answer #9 · answered by bella9566 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No biggie
2007-01-06 15:14:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋