Im in love with a married man?

Question

I'm in love with a married man....?
Here it is. We're friends, lovers, and in love. He's married for 2 years no kids. It's been 8 1/2 months. We talk all the time see each other whenever possible. It began as fun and I knew it was wrong. I don't want a pity party, I know Im the bad guy and will get whats coming to me. I feel guilty for being a homewrecker, but I f*&ckin LOVE him. I don't think he's happy, don't think he'll leave her. I know right and wrong and feel like Im answering my own question, but think I need to hear it, or see it ya know.

It's the best sex I've ever had, and I know it's the best for him too. But it's more than that. I know he loves me, without a doubt. But unfortunately, Im not sure if he will love me enough to make changes for me.

Im 26, successful, pretty and smart (except when it comes to this)

Answer 1

HELLO, if he'd cheat with you....he'll cheat on you. honey, a ,man that cheats is no man you want to be with. and we all usually tell our partners their the best...honestly. the chase is exciting for both of you, its ALWAYS fun in the beginning, maybe for a few years, but when things settle down, like they have with his wife, whats going to happen when the next 26 year old walks into his office, showing him interest, flirting, doing the same thing you probably did, he then will revert to who he REALLY is, and sad to say, but he's a cheater. he'll stray, forever or until he's tired of it. not because how great his partner is. its all about him. he may be great and im sure he is, but he's taken and you need to cut ties.

Answer 2

I've been right where you are. I can sympathize, but nothing will change. Hate to say so... but he's having his cake and eating it too... and you are nothing more than the icing. If you don't give him what he wants... he will just go somewhere else.
Bottom Line: you know he cheats. If he does leave his wife... he will do the same thing to you.
Don't be someone elses toy. Have better respect for yourself. Yes, love hurts, and you can't turn it off like it was a light switch. I wish you could. It sure would have save me years of pain and .... well, hoping. You already know .. you've answered your own question. Now take some responsibility. This relationship is not right, might feel right, but its not.
No I don't pity you. I think you've done that enough already.
Now... make the choice.

Answer 3

i k now it's tempting, but you're digging your own grave. I was in your situation 2 years ago.

I was 24 and he's 31. I really feel that it's really emotionally exhausting to be the third party/ homewrecker. That guy is also at fault for being such a womaniser and did not honour his marriage vows.

I suggest you stay way from him. Don't be so selfish. Think: what if you are his wife. Do you feel good if you're in her place?


you can do it, like me, if you set your mind at it. I am now engage to my bf or 1 yr after i left the married guy. My conscience feels good.

That man you love had to really make sure who he really love otherwise it's not fair to his wife and you.

Answer 4

He simply loves his wife more than you. To be honest he probably loves his wife and loves you sucking his cock. Plus If he leaves his wife for you, he will leave you for another. Once a cheater always a cheater. He can tell you till he is blue in the face that he will leave his wife, but " action speaks louder than words". Listen, if he can pull chicks half his age and wanted to leave his wife, he would have done it a long time ago! Once you are a little older he probably wont want you anymore and he will have to find another dumb young girl. Do you ever imagine him as your father? Creepy. Does he ever ask you whos your daddy? Grow up, wise up and find a single man , preferably one closer to your age who respects you. This old guy obviously doesnt. Hey I have an idea, he probably has a son your age. Sorry, to be so harsh, but if you dont end this behavior now, you will deserve the misery that will follow you the rest of your life.

Answer 5

This guys made a commitment that he's not keeping.
What makes you so sure that he won't do the same thing to you if & when you should ever get the chance to merry him.
Your right to feel that something just isn't quite right about the whole thing.
As painful as it might appear at this point I'd cut line..if anything for your own sanity.

Answer 6

OK. So you know he will never leave his wife.
He's just using you for sex.
He never tells you he's unhappy.
He never says ''I love you.'' first, if at all.
He does spend time with you when he can, for sex.
You talk all the time, so you can meet for sex.
STOP!
Your 26, successful, pretty and smart. Try being pretty smart and find someone to share lives with! Sex is awesome, it is not however, love.

Answer 7

You will definitely be seen as the 'homewrecker' in the eyes of others. However, for your own happiness, you may one day eventually have to confront him about the question as to if he is going to divorce his wife. If his wife finds out about this affair, she'll most probably be very angry (depends on her personality) and may sue you for adultery.

Answer 8

Your right, he wont leave his wife or he would have all ready. She will find out, then he is either out the door and he goes to you or she stays and works on the relationship, in which, that means you are out of the picture b/c she will have him on a tight chain. I just dont understand how anyone can have sex with someone knowing they are sleeping with someone else. eww...And yes, he is still having sex with her no matter what he says.

Answer 9

Honey, my mother ALWAYS told me..................A MARRIED MAN WILL N E V E R LEAVE HIS WIFE!!!!!!!!!!!
I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I am not one to pass judgement. I have been in a similar situation. The only thing I can say is try to distance yourself. I know that it is easier said then done, but try to, or else we both know what the outcome will be.........you trying to mend a broken heart:(
Good Luck

Answer 10

Don't get in any deeper. Cut it loose. If he really loved you don't you think he'd be with you? Now he has the best of both worlds with minimal commitment to you.