My daughter is very responsible and nuturing. She loves teaching people things and adores kids 'when she grows up she want to be a babysitter', lol. But what when they are 16 and 8, will that bond hold through...?
2007-01-06 14:43:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My brother and I are 7 yrs apart. I changed his diapers when he was a baby! It's hard to believe that he'll be 20 soon, but we are close. Once I went to college and was away from him & my sister (I'm 9 yrs older than her), I missed them and made an effort to maintain a relationship with them. Now that they're older, we're really close and talk almost every day. Hopefully, it will be this way for your children. I suppose you can always encourage them to be close and get along.
2007-01-06 14:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by LP 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
my sister and I are six and a half years apart, and she is my best friend. The hardest time was the difference in age when she left for college, and I was just starting middle school. Growing up, I am sure that I got on her nerves, but from what my mom tells us, she was a lot like your older daughter and cherished the role of big sis. As long as you can keep a balance between them (and not cater to the younger ones needs per say) then I think they have a great chance of being good friends! Good luck!
2007-01-07 01:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by lmeverett22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a big age difference with me and my siblings. My closest sibling and I are 8 years apart.
We weren't close while we were kids. In my sister's teen years, She was usually to busy with her own life to pay attention to her little sister.
But I do have to say, now that I am 27 I am really close to all my siblings.
So they may not be close all the time, but as they grow and mature they will become closer.
Once the youngest is in his/her twenty's then there relationship will develop and grow stronger.
2007-01-06 22:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by Tired-Mom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your oldest sounds just like my oldest daughter. who was ten in September. My younger one just turned three. They are very close, even though they are at totally different times in their life. I was also worried about the 7+ year age difference, but it has been great. They are not so close together in age that there is any sibling rivalry. My older is like a little protector and mother to her, and the younger one eats up all the attention!!
I don't think you will have any problems as long as you make sure that you treat both kids equally, and with love and respect!!
Just think how great it will be for your younger one to have a big sister to look up to, and get all kinds of good advice about school, boys, friends, etc!!
2007-01-06 22:50:53 · answer #4 · answered by sloppyjo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't hold your breath on it! Your daughter may be responsible and nurturing but when she's a teenager - she'll have her own friends and won't want someone tagging along.
My closest sister, in age, is 7 years older than me. When I was growing up she was dating and then got married. We've never been really close.
2007-01-06 22:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 15 and I've got an 8 year old brother. We're not terribly close, but we don't have too unhealthy a relationship. I taunt him for being a sports star, and he retaliates with a "You're crazy." That's about it. I've also got an 11-year-old sister, and we're all but cruel to each other. Maybe it's better that you do have that age difference.
2007-01-06 22:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had my last baby when my oldest was 8. I thought I had made the biggest mistake of my life, as she would never catch up with the others. WRONG. She has been wonderful, and a joy to the whole family. She caught up with them, and has been an equal for several years now. And she has kept me young. They helped her grow up, yes. They laughed at her baby tears and kept me from worrying about her crying.
2007-01-06 22:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by Mz Liz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO, and you shouldn't expect it to at that age. My sister is my best friend and she is 8 years older than I am, but when we were "kids" like you describe, we didn't hardly exist for each other. When I got married, we became closer because now we had more in common. When I had kids (she had them first of course) we got super close and now we are best friends because when you are 38 and 46, eight years is nothing.
2007-01-06 22:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My younger sister is 5yrs younger than me. When we got to our teenage years we did drift apart a little at the time because all I wanted to do was be with my friends not my baby sister. If it happens it doesn't mean that they won't end up close as adults, I am now 30 and my sister is my best friend!!!!!
2007-01-06 22:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by MRod 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
all siblings are close, but it really depends on your definiton of close. they won't be buddy buddy like children 2 years apart, because they won't really be having their childhood together. i'm 10 years older than my brother, we get along fine, but we aren't as close as my sisters, who are respectively 2 and 4 years older than me. also, your daughter might be closer to a baby girl, but it really all depends on what type of person your daughter is, and baby will be.........and teens aren't sweet to siblings or parents, at least for quite a bit, even if your baby was only 3 years younger.....wheny they're like 20 and 27 they'll probably be much closer than as children, depending on whether they keep in contact with each other.
2007-01-06 22:51:02 · answer #10 · answered by Jessicat 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋