our parents don't know about it yet.. what do i do? do i have to push him to tell them right away? im worried about the preparation part; it's already january and we only have 8-9 moths to go.. what do i do?? any suggestions? thanks!!!
2007-01-06 14:39:29 · 14 answers · asked by Chelsea's Momi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
our parents don't know about it yet.. what do i do? do i have to push him to tell them right away? i dont wanna tell my parents about it coz in our culture, the guys are supposed to be telling the girl's parents about the engagement and wedding (he's okay with that) im kinda worried about his dad, his mom is so great!!! but his dad, oh my gosh, i dont know what to say about his dad.. im also worried about the preparation part; it's already january and we only have 8-9 moths to go.. what do i do?? any suggestions? thanks!!!
2007-01-06 14:55:33 · update #1
uh oh. i'm sensin maybe somebody's mama or papa didn't want this news. whose parents? if it's his then he should. if it's yours then you should. you gotta decide whether you want the people who made you to be at the most beautiful occassion of your life. if i were you i would tell them the news and go from there. whether they accept it or not you gotta decide this the guy you wanna grow old with and have kids with? fess up and tell them. and what are you waitin' for? dress, cake, invitations, food, place, honeymoon, song, dieting, did i mention dress? sooo much to do. get yourself a planner. and get on this. chop chop. seriously my uncle waited until 2 months before.. invited 500 people and to keep it short it was not a good, organized wedding it was boring and hair was crazy. my cousin did people's make up and we looked geishas by the time she was done actually more like clowns. no no. get the people you want. get a ring. and oh let him do some stuff too. because it's his wedding too. plus he might relieve some of the stress. just don't let him do the dress. pick a nice one. and just relax. i'm sure you'll look beautiful. god bless you and your prince on the journey of life your about to take. good luck :)
2007-01-06 15:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by Halleigh F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey!! i really think you should tell your parents! i've been through the same thing! I was engaged for a year and a half without my parents knowing. I felt like something was missing, since they didn't have any part of my wedding planning. Your parents always have your back. When my parents found out about my engagement, they helped me to come to a clear decision, to get married or not. Well in the end, I didn't my ex fiancee turned out to be very abusive and psychotic! so if i were u i would tell my parents
2007-01-06 22:44:58 · answer #2 · answered by Shanay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense...but you are flipping out about it being about 8-9 months away and you haven't started preparing?? It can be done...trust me...if I would've had 8-9 months I wouldn't have known what to do with myself...here's the 411 on me and my husband...we started dating...I told my parents and then I deployed...I came back and we got engaged...about 24 hours before we got on a plane to go home we asked if they would help us with getting a wedding together while we were back home...WE PLANNED, ORGANIZED, AND PICKED OUT EVERYTHING IN LESS THAN 2 WEEKS!! Trust me, it can be done...and as far as telling the parents...just get it over with...its easier than you would think possible...
GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-01-06 23:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why haven't you told them? I think you should push him to tell them now. The preparation part of the wedding is the best and yet also the scary time. The best way to tell them is to sit them down and tell him. Simple as that!
2007-01-06 22:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by mrsrhowell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them...
As far as preparation, are you have a large or small ceremony?
You need to figure that part out first and go from there...If you having a big one, get the church, reception place, food, DJ and whatnot's in order...The first two on the list are ones that need to be done now...
2007-01-06 23:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having trouble understanding why a young man who says he wants to get married in less than a year doesn't want to share that news with family.
I recommend you don't just blab the news to the families without his buy-in. Obviously there's something going on with your fiance, that he doesn't want to tell them. Best to figure that out first, if possible.
2007-01-06 22:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by Amy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set him up....i hate to say it but have dinner with his parents and nonchalentaly(spelled that wrong) flaunt your ring, trust me his mom will notice. or just tell your parents first and once your mom finds out and starts to help you make plans, then he'll have to tell his parents, but this just tells me that he seems a little iffy about the wedding plans and your relationship if he's not willing to share it with his parents, i would kinda get suspicious and do some "soul searching"
2007-01-06 22:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them both of you at the same time. it does sneak up quick i have been engage since last may and we are getting married in june the time flew.
2007-01-07 23:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell them...as soon as possible....it is your choice and your day....you do what you have to do...you DEFINETLY need to start planning....it will creep up on you so very fast. so in order to plan you need to let the cat out of the box so to speak!!! and screw what everyone thinks....IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU!
2007-01-06 22:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by punkprincess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, if you were truely excited about getting married...you would tell them and not worry about their reactions. it's going to be special for both of you and they may want to help you plan so get on it girl!
2007-01-07 22:36:50 · answer #10 · answered by KJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋