Here's the thing: My upstairs neighbor has 4 kids, and they just moved in upstairs above me and I understand that there's going to be noise, but I mean I hear their every waking movement! It's like they have no regard for someone living below them, and it's as if they're dropping canned goods every 30 seconds! We've never formally met, but I'm afraid to go introduce myself at this point because they are pissing me off, and I could come off WAY wrong!
2007-01-06 14:12:37 · 13 answers · asked by jakkibluu 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would rather be her friend than her enemy because the four kids could really make a riot...living above someone is hard and she should go for a bottom apartment; they are more expensive but worth the less aggravation...With four kids, she probably needs a friend
2007-01-06 14:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by Patches6 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is the risk that you take when leaving in a HDB. I can imagine what you're going thru. But you must understand that children will be children. They play, shout at it other, they fight, they cry, they laugh and so on...their parents would also like to have a quiet moment I strongly believe. The only time when children are quiet is when they are sick. When I was young I remember playing outside the corridor with all the other neibours children and we are very noisy. We often get scolding from the elderly. But that didn't stop us at all. It's just a growing stage and everyone was once like that. And when we are like that others are patient about it. Now it's our turn to be patient and this is the circle of life in HDB. Try to undertsand them and the sound will be music to your ears. Go against it and you'll find that you are a very unhappy person. Children don't do it out of purpose, they are just like that. It is sad to see children not playing and having a good time and at the same time we often hope that they take a nap hee. My advised is when you meet them have a friendly chat and introduce yourself. Tell them you are staying directly below and that you are working in the night shift. Then look at the children and explain to them in a poor thing way. Tell them that you need to sleep in the day and if they can help to stay quiet like not throwing things on the floor or shouting then you can have better rest. Normally hard ball style would not work and if you go easy on them and seek help might just do the job. And if they are good buy them sweets and soon before you realised, you find yourself to be their favourite aunty. They will protact you in their own way. They will not not be totally quiet because they get carried away easily. So be patient and learn to love children.
2007-01-06 14:39:29 · answer #2 · answered by White Wings F 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I see you have the 40lb canary above you syndrome. OK, as difficult as it might be, you catch more flies with honey than vinegar. So, bite your tongue and go try the nice approach. Try to be understanding and diplomatic as possible. After a few days, if this does not work. Then, talk to the manager. It's part of their job to make sure that all living issue's are taken care of. If that fails, then ask to be moved to a different apartment within the same place or simply move. There should be a time limit as to when "noise" is acceptable and then when it should cease. I have 3 girls. The oldest, walks like she has lead in her feet. Stomps everywhere. Good luck.
2007-01-06 14:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are living in an apartment complex you need to speak to the landlord or the manager of the building. YOu take your complaints to them in a professional manner. Tell the landlord that the tenants in ( whatever apartment #) are being very loud in the late hours of the evening or in the very early mornings. My brother is a manager of an apartment complex and will not tolerate any noses after 10 pm to be considerate to all the other tenats. If this rule is violated more than twice.. then he kicks them out. When the tenant first arrives, he has them agree to certain rules of the building community. If you get no results from your landlord or manger of the building.. then you can go to the police and file a complaint.
2016-05-23 01:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Here's the thing no matter how nice you approach this lady about her kids she will NOT respond well... people are VERY defensive of their kids and space. Trust me once she knows that you think her kids are noisy brats ( that's what she will perceive from your complaint) she will allow them to make MORE noise!
*I recommend NOT talking to her at all ... Consider talking to management about her noise level request that that your name not be reveled to her. Tell management that you pay your rent and you expect to be to comfortable be in your apartment.
*Explain that you will document the noise level. When the kids are home ( use a video camera during their school hours to show how quiet it is when there are NOT there) Also video tape when those kids are present.Explain that you will take the management company to small claims court to be refunded money on your rent when you cannot comfortably enjoy your place. Arrive at a figure by dividing your monthly rent by hours and minutes it cost to live there. Keep a NOISE log and you should be able to come up with a figure. Present all your information and complaint to management.
*If they do nothing file your claim in small claims court .. you may not win ... also if they fail to show you could win a default judgment. My point is make sure management understand that you will not accept the noise... that you expect a certain level of comfort for your rent money.
*If you get no relief from management ...and only as last resort go to her BUT be super calm and sickly sweet. Don't expect complete relief from their noise though.
*Another option is to make her life hell there so she moves... but that would require you to be very evil and not sure you want to go that route.
*Please don't explode on her and DO NOT GRIPE TO OTHERS IN YOUR BUILDING EITHER ! It will get back to her.
2007-01-09 14:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by yeah , yeah whatever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please try not to get too mad. I am a single mother of 4, and I can tell you that they aren't trying to piss you off. Does the neighbor have un carpeted floors? I notice with my apartment now that I hear every step my kids make upstairs because there is no carpet to muffle the sound.
2007-01-06 14:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by boinga28 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I actually have the same problem, it's two teenagers living above me, they vacuum about 8 times a day, shut every cabinet door every ten minutes etc, I usually just go Mr Heckles on their *** and start beating the ceiling with a broom handle. :) Not sure where patches scratches lives but i've never lived anywhere where downstairs apartments cost more? Try again. And with four kids, she doesn't need friends she needs contraceptives.
2007-01-06 14:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by kelreefl 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Of course you don't want an enemy of your neighbor but if you're too friendly and you need to say something about the noise it will be much harder. Once you become friendly with neighbors they can sort of act like bad family members.
2007-01-06 14:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by C C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as the "canned goods "you are saying , she feeds her kids, are falling before 11:00 Pm, It is none of your business! Kids are kids and thank God they make "NOISE" ! Otherwise we would be worrying why, they don't! Bake some cookies, deliver, be nice and don't worry ,and let that family live! You know nothing about them!
2007-01-06 14:30:11 · answer #9 · answered by DORY 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
really have to move. Four kids above in unsoundproofed building, impossible.
2007-01-06 15:42:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋